Unplanned pregnancy
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Unplanned pregnancy - What to do next?

Pregnancy can come as a surprise. It’s easy to forget about the condom in the heat of the moment. Even if you use contraception perfectly, sometimes it fails.

If you get pregnant by accident, you’ll need to decide what to do. There are three options: you go ahead with the pregnancy, you have the baby but give it up for adoption, or you have the pregnancy terminated (an abortion).

 

Whatever you decide, you need to think carefully. Talk to someone you trust. Someone who can give you advice and support, preferably an adult – your mother, an aunt, a friend, your partner or your doctor. Someone who won’t judge you for your choices. In the end, you’re the one who has to make the final decision. 

 

What are you going to do?

  1. Keep the Baby
    You could decide to carry on with the pregnancy and raise the child. This means thinking about the future: if you’re not married or in a stable relationship, will you be able to cope? How will it affect your life? Your education? Will you have enough support – from the baby’s father, or your family? Will you have enough money to live on? If you have a partner, what does he think? Does he want to keep the child? How many children do you have already? Is it safe to have another? Is the foetus healthy?
    And the most important question: do you want this pregnancy?
     
  2. Give the baby up for adoption
    You could also have the baby adopted. Again, you need to think carefully. You don’t know how you will feel after you’ve given birth when the time comes to hand over your baby to someone else. And how will you find someone to adopt your child? You could contact an official adoption agency and have your child safely and legally adopted through the state. Or maybe you know someone who would love to raise a child. It could be someone in your family. Whatever you decide, it’s important to be clear about what you want from the adoption. For example, would you like to be able to see the child in the future?
    If you’re still very young and you live with your family, it helps if you can be honest with your parents. They may want to raise the child themselves. If not, perhaps they can help you decide what to do. If it’s difficult to tell them, perhaps another family member could help you break the news. 
     
  3. End the pregnancy (abortion)
    The third option is to have an abortion. This is not an easy decision to make, and you may need some time to think it over. But don’t let anyone choose for you. This is about your body and your future, so in the end you have to decide for yourself.
    First, ask yourself the question: do I want this baby? If the answer is a resounding yes or no, then maybe you already know what your decision should be. If you are not sure, think about a few more questions: can I support a child right now? Would I feel comfortable ending the pregnancy? Would it feel right or wrong? Does ending a pregnancy fit with my religious beliefs? Should those beliefs inform my decision? Does the father want the child? Can I have a safe abortion in my country?
    There are no right or wrong answers to these questions. You should decide what feels right for you. If you’re really struggling, try talking through your options with someone you trust. 

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Yadi aapne condom ka sitemal kiya hai tab toh pregnancy ke chances na ke barabt hai. Kyunki pregnancy ke risk se bachne ke liye kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Ohhh hmmm! To aap safe sex karnye ka idea use kar rahye hain par bête yeh bilkul bhi safe tarika nahi hai kyunki pregnant honey ke liey ek shuranu bhi bohot kaafi hota hai. Isliye yadi safe sex ki soch rahe hain toh condom ka isteamal anivrya hai bête
Dear Alexious, read the link below, but remember there is no guarantee in adopting this method, condoms are the only way to protect or the contraceptive pill. https://www.babycentre.co.uk/ovulation-calculator https://lovematters.in/en/our-bodies/ovulation-calendar-how-to-calculate-ovulation If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Ummm! yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy http://www.fpaindia.org/
Yadi aap bina kisi protection key ya bina surakhsha ke sex ki soch rahe hai toh shayad aap un dino ki baat kar rahe hain jin mein bachcha rukna mushkil hai. Yeh ho toh sakta hai lekin yeh poori terh se surakshit nahin mana jaata hai. yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Rahul bete, condom break hone ki stithi mein 72 ghanton ke bheetar emergency contraceptive pills ka istemaal karne mein samajhdaari hoti hain. Kyunki kaafi samay beet chuka hain, please is ghatna ke 10 din baad phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi visheshagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakte hai jiski jaankari aapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ Yadi aapke man mein koi bhee aur sawaal hain aur aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mam may apne husband k sex kiya us k badh mene. 72leli thi meri monthly 31/12/2021 aayi thi lekin ab 09/02/2022 ho gayi hai or meri monthly abhi tak ni aayi hai to is me mere ko kya karna chahiye plzz tell me.
Priya puttar itna late tak period ka nahi aana swasth nahi, aur Unwanted 72 ek emergency goli hai jo ki unsafe sex ke 72 ghanton ke andar hee lee jaati hai, Lekin yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai. PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye. Aap phoran ek Home pregnancy test kar leejiye aur stithi nischit kar leejiye aur phir kisi vishesagya ya panjikrit doctor se phoran consult kar lijiye. Aur jyada yaha padhiye zara: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex https://lovematters.in/hi/birth-control/top-10-facts-about-emergency-contraceptive-pills Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Oh nahi Suman bete!! Hug karne se pegnancy nahi ho sakta hai, pregnant hone ke liye purush ke shukranu ko mahila ki yoni mein jakar dimb ko nishechit karna bohot zaruri hai bête, jo keval yoni maithun se hi ho sakta hai. Yaha pahdiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mam, 3 mahine pehle mere bf ke sath sex huaa tha TB us month muje period huaa the pr abhi 2 months muje period nahi huee.... Muje dar lag rha tha esliy mere prso pregnancy tect test Kiya prega news se pr vha to ek bhi line nahi aayi muje dar hai fir bhi me pregnant toh nahi hu na.... Plzz muje bataiye me kya kru ab
Bete tension, stress ya hormonal changes ke karan bhi period mein late ho sakta hai. Aur yadi unsafe sex ke baad bhee periods ho rahe hain toh ismein pregnancy ke chances na ke barabar hai. Sath hi aapne test bhi kiya hai jo negative aaya hai. Agar aap chahen toh home pregnancy test ek baar aur kijiye, jiske liye morning urine sample best hota hai. Lekin 2 months ho gaye hain, so better hoga ki aap ek panjikrit doctor se mil lijiye iske bare mein. Kripya aaj ke baad condom ka nirdharit upyog keejiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/unsafe-sex-missed-period-am-i-pregnant https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/home-pregnancy-tests-dos-and-donts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Toh unhoney protection ka use nahi kiya tha? Ab kitna time hua hai is baat ko? Suno jaldi kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar saktey hain. Kisis neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Jaldi karo samjhay?
Kya protection? Shiv aap yeh toh jante honge na ki Yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Aur yadi aap chahein toh After 10 days aap ek home test kar saktey hain. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Auntyji
Tue, 12/29/2015 - 16:19

In reply to by shankar sinde

Jee haan ismein pregnancy ke chances ho sakte hain, Aur yeh ek bohot badi mithya hai ki sperm bahar nikalne se garbhdharn nahi hota hai kyunk pregnant hone ke liye ek shukranu bhi bohot kaafi hota hai. Zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/10-most-common-contraception-myths http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Sir / maddam,. I had married aready 1 years. I just want to plant-B after 2years. And now my wife got 20days pregnant. So what shall i do.... please ....
Listen Anita bete, Please quickly meet an expert or a doctor who can be a registered and see what can happen. If there is not much time, you can ask for MTP, get the opinion of a trustworthy doctor in any clinic and don't come to the words of a quack or chemist at all- DOCTOR ONLY https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy You can also contact fpai clinic, which you will find on its website. https://www.ippf.org/about-us/member-associations/india If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Listen Please quickly meet an expert or a doctor who can be a registered and see what can happen. If there is not much time, you can ask for MTP, get the opinion of a trustworthy doctor in any clinic and don't come to the words of a quack or chemist at all- DOCTOR ONLY https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy You can also contact fpai clinic, which you will find on its website. https://www.ippf.org/about-us/member-associations/india If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Madam , it was on last Monday matter , bt aj mere gf ne mujhse kaha k aj morning me uska period gogeya , aur would bhi 2times in this month . Pill liyatha after 5hours , is it possible to get pregnancy or any side effects madam , k 2times period hogeya , please help me to provide proper guidance . Thanks
If your GF is still having periods after unsafe sex, then there are virtually no chances of being pregnant. But just to be on the safe side, it would be wise to take a home pregnancy test. Please use condom next time. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, ‘Just Ask’ https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Yadi yeh safe sex tha toh problem ki koi baat nahi hai. Kyunki Yadi aap pregnancy ya youn sankraman ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Bete, hum asha karte hain ki apko apki samasya ka samadhan mil gaya hoga. Yadi nahin to phoren ek panjikrit doctor se milo. Koi neem hakeem nahi. Sirf ek doctor. Yadi aap chahein to sath main ek bharosemand vyakti ko le ja sakte hain. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Nisha Mandar
Mon, 01/09/2017 - 14:47
We had unprotected sex on 16th day of my period. I am sure i was ovulating and we are not ready for a baby yet. I am not on any contraceptive measures. Can taking a pill now help?
Dear Nisha, we hope you found a way to handle the situation. If not, take a pregnancy test as soon as possible. Also see a registered doctor to find out about your options.You can also contact a FPAI information about which you can gather from their website. https://lovematters.in/en/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Prem kashyp
Mon, 03/27/2017 - 23:36
Mam maine condom k sth sex kiya but meri gf ka periods ka time aa gya h but ab tk 5 days ho gye h periods nhi aaya main bhut tention me hu.kahi wo pregnant to nhi h ..aur agar h to main kyaa kru...plzz help me
Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Suniye Please. Jaldi se kisi visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se miliye aur dekho kya n sakta hai. Agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar sakte hai, kisi bhi clinic mein.Kisi bharosemand doctor ki rai leejiye aur kisi neem hakeen ya chemist ki baaton mein bilkul mat aa jaaiye – DOCTOR ONLY. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Iske alawa aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakte hai jiski jaankari aapko issi website pe mil jayegi. https://www.fpaindia.org Time mat gavaiye, jaldi keejie. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete period late bhi ho jaatye hain.. so sabse better yeh hoga ki aap kuch roz dekh leejiye aur phir phoren ek doctor ko mill leejiye. Theek hai beta jee? Now relax. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Periods ke duran sex mein koi dikatt nahi jab tak dono partners ki isse karne mein barabar ki marzi shamil ho Lekin yaad rakhiye is duran condom ka istemal anivarya hai taaki kisi bhi sankarman se bachha ja sake. Yeh bhi padh lijiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-period
Bete kya zarurat thi aapko unprotected sex karney ki jab mein aap logo se baar- baar kehti hun ki condom ka isltemal ANIVARYA hai phir bhi? Aur uppar se yeh emergency pills? pata kya aapko apne partner ki body se pyar nahi hai kya? Chalo ab jaldi ek home pregnancy test lo aur yadi result positive hai toh turant kisi achhay doctore se milo Kisis neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Jaldi karo samjhay?http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Jo sawal aap kar rahy hain na, for safe sex bête wo actually yeh poori tareh se na, ladki kee mahavari pe depend hota hai, yadi who bilkul nirdharit hai ya nahin jiski vajeh se bahut hee risk ka kaam bhi hai. Yadi aap bina kisi protection key ya bina surakhsha ke sex ki soch rahe hai toh shayad aap un dino ki baat kar rahe hain jin mein bachcha rukna mushkil hai. Yeh ho toh sakta hai lekin yeh poori terh se surakshit nahin mana jaata hai. yadi aap sex pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Ab kitna time hua hai is baat ko? Suno jaldi kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar saktey hain. Kisis neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Jaldi karo samjhay?http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Hmmm …. Actually yeh kehna zara mushkil hog, kyunki yeh unke mahavari pe nirbahr hai. yadi aapne protection ka use nahi kiya tha toh yeh sambhav ho sakta hai! Ravi Ab kitna time hua hai is baat ko? Sabse zaroori aap ek home test karo, who aapko chemist pe mill jayega, apnii aankhon se dekh lo uska parinaam kyahai aur phir ek nirnay lo.. Ab is me aapki gf kya kehte ehain kya mehsoos kartee hain, yeh bhi badi baat hogi. Kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar saktey hain. Kisis neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Jaldi karo samjhay?http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Ravi bete Actually yeh poori tareh se , ladki kee mahavari pe depend hota hai, yadi who bilkul nirdharit hai ya nahin jiski vajeh se bahut hee risk ka kaam bhi hai. Yadi aap bina kisi protection key ya bina surakhsha ke sex ki soch rahe hai toh shayad aap un dino ki baat kar rahe hain jin mein bachcha rukna mushkil hai. Yeh ho toh sakta hai lekin yeh poori terh se surakshit nahin mana jaata hai. yadi aap sex pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
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