Unplanned pregnancy
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Unplanned pregnancy

Pregnancy can come as a surprise. It’s easy to forget about the condom in the heat of the moment. Even if you use contraception perfectly, sometimes it fails.

If you get pregnant by accident, you’ll need to decide what to do. There are three options: you go ahead with the pregnancy, you have the baby but give it up for adoption, or you have the pregnancy terminated (an abortion).

 

Whatever you decide, you need to think carefully. Talk to someone you trust. Someone who can give you advice and support, preferably an adult – your mother, an aunt, a friend, your partner or your doctor. Someone who won’t judge you for your choices. In the end, you’re the one who has to make the final decision. 

 

What are you going to do?

  1. Keep the Baby
    You could decide to carry on with the pregnancy and raise the child. This means thinking about the future: if you’re not married or in a stable relationship, will you be able to cope? How will it affect your life? Your education? Will you have enough support – from the baby’s father, or your family? Will you have enough money to live on? If you have a partner, what does he think? Does he want to keep the child? How many children do you have already? Is it safe to have another? Is the foetus healthy?
    And the most important question: do you want this pregnancy?
     
  2. Give the baby up for adoption
    You could also have the baby adopted. Again, you need to think carefully. You don’t know how you will feel after you’ve given birth when the time comes to hand over your baby to someone else. And how will you find someone to adopt your child? You could contact an official adoption agency and have your child safely and legally adopted through the state. Or maybe you know someone who would love to raise a child. It could be someone in your family. Whatever you decide, it’s important to be clear about what you want from the adoption. For example, would you like to be able to see the child in the future?
    If you’re still very young and you live with your family, it helps if you can be honest with your parents. They may want to raise the child themselves. If not, perhaps they can help you decide what to do. If it’s difficult to tell them, perhaps another family member could help you break the news. 
     
  3. End the pregnancy (abortion)
    The third option is to have an abortion. This is not an easy decision to make, and you may need some time to think it over. But don’t let anyone choose for you. This is about your body and your future, so in the end you have to decide for yourself.
    First, ask yourself the question: do I want this baby? If the answer is a resounding yes or no, then maybe you already know what your decision should be. If you are not sure, think about a few more questions: can I support a child right now? Would I feel comfortable ending the pregnancy? Would it feel right or wrong? Does ending a pregnancy fit with my religious beliefs? Should those beliefs inform my decision? Does the father want the child? Can I have a safe abortion in my country?
    There are no right or wrong answers to these questions. You should decide what feels right for you. If you’re really struggling, try talking through your options with someone you trust. 

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Isme itna dar nahin beta… period late bhi ho jaatye hain.. toh sabse better yeh hoga ki aap kuch roz dekh lijiye aur phir phoren ek doctor ko mil lijiye. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Ajay bete, yaad rakhiye chahye ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua hao, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Suniye Please. Jaldi se kisi visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se miliye aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar sakte hai, kisi bhi clinic mein.Kisi bharosemand doctor ki rai leejiye aur kisi neem hakeen ya chemist ki baaton mein bilkul mat aa jaaiye – DOCTOR ONLY. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Iske alawa aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakte hai jiski jaankari aapko issi website pe mil jayegi. https://www.fpaindia.org Time mat gavaiye, jadli keejie. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Suniye Please. Jaldi se kisi visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se miliye aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar sakte hai, kisi bhi clinic mein.Kisi bharosemand doctor ki rai leejiye aur kisi neem hakeen ya chemist ki baaton mein bilkul mat aa jaaiye – DOCTOR ONLY. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Iske alawa aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakte hai jiski jaankari aapko issi website pe mil jayegi. https://www.fpaindia.org Time mat gavaiye, jadli keejie. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete Monali ek home test lena chahti ho toh le lo halanki copper t mein pregnancy ke chances bahut kam hote hain, lekin ek panjikrit doctor se zarur mil lo. Dhyaan rakho! aur aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovemat
Isme itna dar nahin beta… period late bhi ho jaatye hain.. toh sabse better yeh hoga ki aap kuch roz dekh lijiye aur phir phoren ek doctor ko mil lijiye. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Siddharth beta, Yaad rakhiye chahe ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua hao, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Ji, haan, Burhan beta. Ismein pregnancy ke chances ho sakte hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mam I have 9month baby but lekin me phir se pregnant hu to me kya kru mere husband abortion ka na bolte he aur mera first baby C-section se hua tha
Aap theek keh rahee hain - abhi aapka baby bahut hee chota hai aur usse aapki bahut zaroorat hai is waqt. Please apne husband ko samjhaiye. aisa to hei nahin ki aap 3 - 4 saal ke baad pregnant nahin ho payengee!! Also, abhi aapka C-Section hua hai - itni jaldi ek aur aapki sehat pe asar kar sakta hai - so please abhi unhe samjhaiye. Yaad rakhiye - ki shareer apka hai aur abortion ka adhikar bhi. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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Couple sex eachother and then after 10days she had mens or periods but period was not well.It held only 2-3days.But now she have pregnancy symptom like vomiting headache stomach pain weakness etc. I want to ask,is she will be pregnant after periods or not? Plz help me and i m also medical student of 2nd yr
If the sex was unsafe, then chances of pregnancy may be there. Take a home pregnancy test at the earliest. Then consult a registered doctor and see what can be done. Also, you can contact FPAI clinic information about which you can get at their website. https://lovematters.in/en/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Aunty ji!! Mera Bf mere pant K Upr apna speak leak kr diya tha .. Jodi Mei double pant paheni thi lekin tb pr v pura bhig gya tha to kya Mei pregnant ho sakti hu?? But Lekin Mei virgin hu
Na ke barabar chances hain Beta. phir bhi aur zyada sure hone ke liye - taaki aap dono relax ho sakein - aap is kriya ke 10 din baad yek home pregnancy test bhi kar lejiye - baat saaf ho jaayegee. Chinta na keejiye. Yeh link padh leejiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Na ke barabar chances hain Beta. phir bhi aur zyada sure hone ke liye - taaki aap dono relax ho sakein - aap is kriya ke 10 din baad yek home pregnancy test bhi kar lejiye - baat saaf ho jaayegee. Pehlee baar sex mein bade ""loche"" hote hain - chinta na keejiye. yeh link padh leejiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Jatin kumar
Wed, 03/21/2018 - 18:39
Sir am married mane apne waife k sath 1 march ko kya but uski 21march ko perid a gye to ap btna ki wo pargnent hai ki nahi hmne bache k liya kya but perid nahi ane chiyaab to
Ummm! Yadi unsafe sex ke baad bhee unhe periods ho rahe hain toh ismein pregnancy ke chances na ke barabar hai. Phir bhi yadi aap aur safe hona chahtey hain to ek Home pregnancy test kar leejiye aur stithi nischit kar leejiye. Saath hi jaldi pregnancy ke tips bhi yaha padh lijiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/tips https://lovematters.in/hi/news/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mam,i want to conceive but i cnt get my proper ovulation period as my menstual cycle is bit disturbed...plz help me in predicting my ovulation symptoms so as to conceive asap
Manjari bete what is the situation now? Did you consulted a doctor yet? Consult a specialist or a registered doctor. For Pregnancy tips read here: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/tips If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Madam , it was on last Monday matter , bt aj mere gf ne mujhse kaha k aj morning me uska period gogeya , aur would bhi 2times in this month . Pill liyatha after 5hours , is it possible to get pregnancy or any side effects madam , k 2times period hogeya , please help me to provide proper guidance . Thanks
Deep bete emergency goli lene ke baad pregnancy ke chances bohot kam ya na ke barabar hote hai aur aapki gf ko period bhee aa gaya hai toh pregnancy ke chances waise bhi nahi hai. Emergency goli unsafe sex ke 72 ghanton ke andar hee lee jaati hai, lekin yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai, jo ho bhi raha hai. PLEASE in goliyon ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye. Safe sex ke liye condom ka istemal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bete, yaha padhiye zara: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex https://lovematters.in/hi/birth-control/top-10-facts-about-emergency-contraceptive-pills Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Sushma bete yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Iske liye unsafe sex ke 10 din poore hote hee ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se mill lijiye aur dekhiye kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/home-pregnancy-tests-dos-and-donts https://www.ippf.org/about-us/member-associations/india Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Anonymous
Sun, 03/10/2019 - 13:03
mam meri gf ko sirf 3 din hi periods aye after sex ke bad pregnancy test ki but its negative ..so kaise smj ayega ki wo pregnant hai ki nhi ...and periods ane ke baad pregnancy hoti hai kya ?
Yadi unsafe sex ke baad bhee periods ho rahe hain toh ismein pregnancy ke chances na ke barabr hai. Kripya aaj ke baad condom ka nirdharit upyog keejiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/unsafe-sex-missed-period-am-i-pregnant https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/home-pregnancy-tests-dos-and-donts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Ajinkya gulhane
Wed, 03/13/2019 - 14:24
Mam maine 28 January ko unsafe sex kiya tha uske bad meri gf ko 5 feb ko periods aaye the toh ab uske bad abhi tak usko periods nhi aye is she pregnant?
Yadi unsafe sex ke baad bhee periods ho rahe hain toh ismein pregnancy ke chances na ke barabr hai. Phir bhi yadi aap aur safe hona chahtey hain to ek Home pregnancy test kar leejiye aur stithi nischit kar leejiye. Kripya aaj ke baad condom ka nirdharit upyog keejiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/unsafe-sex-missed-period-am-i-pregnant https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/home-pregnancy-tests-dos-and-donts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Ab kya sthiti hai bête? Yadd rakhiye chahye ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua ho, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liye ek shukranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lijiye ya Phoren kisi vishesagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se miliye, aur dekhiye kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/unsafe-sex-missed-period-am-i-pregnant Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
HiE I had anal sex on dec 6 with my partner and sometimes my period are irregular .. but my periods should have come by 15 or 16 but they haven't and I have not done pregnancy test..from 3 days my abdomen is having pain sometimes left or right ?? What should I do ?? And the guys also said that he didn't ejaculated inside me pls help ?
Listen Ritika bete there is not any possibility to get pregnant through anal sex don’t worry! But for cleanliness it is recommended you use a condom. And the causes of irregular menstrual circle is may be because of stress, tension or hormonal changes. Consult a registered doctor for delay of menstrual circle and pain of abdomen. https://lovematters.in/en/our-bodies/anal-sex-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/en/making-love/ways-to-make-love/kaaisae-karae-gaudaa-maaithauna https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/pregnancy-scare Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Maine apni gf k sath without condom sex kratha..lekin sperm out maine body k bhar kra tha..pretty sure uski period date pichle month 17 ko thi lekin isbar 18 hogyi aayi nhi date period ki..kya krna chahiye.
Dekhiye Harman bete yeh ek bohot badi mithya hai ki sperm bahar nikalne se garbhdharn nahi hota hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liye ek shukranu bhi bohot kaafi hota hai aur bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhee nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. Iske liye unsafe sex ke 10 din poore hote hee chemist se liya gaya ek home pregnancy test kit se test lijiye. Phir kisi vishesagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se mill lijiye aur dekhiye kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/home-pregnancy-tests-dos-and-donts https://www.ippf.org/about-us/member-associations/india Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Listen Please meet an expert or a doctor who can be a registered and see what can happen. If there is not much time, you can ask for MTP, get the opinion of a trustworthy doctor in any clinic and don't come to the words of a quack or chemist at all- DOCTOR ONLY https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy You can also contact fpai clinic, which you will find on its website. https://www.ippf.org/about-us/member-associations/india If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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