Unplanned pregnancy
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Unplanned pregnancy - What to do next?

Pregnancy can come as a surprise. It’s easy to forget about the condom in the heat of the moment. Even if you use contraception perfectly, sometimes it fails.

If you get pregnant by accident, you’ll need to decide what to do. There are three options: you go ahead with the pregnancy, you have the baby but give it up for adoption, or you have the pregnancy terminated (an abortion).

 

Whatever you decide, you need to think carefully. Talk to someone you trust. Someone who can give you advice and support, preferably an adult – your mother, an aunt, a friend, your partner or your doctor. Someone who won’t judge you for your choices. In the end, you’re the one who has to make the final decision. 

 

What are you going to do?

  1. Keep the Baby
    You could decide to carry on with the pregnancy and raise the child. This means thinking about the future: if you’re not married or in a stable relationship, will you be able to cope? How will it affect your life? Your education? Will you have enough support – from the baby’s father, or your family? Will you have enough money to live on? If you have a partner, what does he think? Does he want to keep the child? How many children do you have already? Is it safe to have another? Is the foetus healthy?
    And the most important question: do you want this pregnancy?
     
  2. Give the baby up for adoption
    You could also have the baby adopted. Again, you need to think carefully. You don’t know how you will feel after you’ve given birth when the time comes to hand over your baby to someone else. And how will you find someone to adopt your child? You could contact an official adoption agency and have your child safely and legally adopted through the state. Or maybe you know someone who would love to raise a child. It could be someone in your family. Whatever you decide, it’s important to be clear about what you want from the adoption. For example, would you like to be able to see the child in the future?
    If you’re still very young and you live with your family, it helps if you can be honest with your parents. They may want to raise the child themselves. If not, perhaps they can help you decide what to do. If it’s difficult to tell them, perhaps another family member could help you break the news. 
     
  3. End the pregnancy (abortion)
    The third option is to have an abortion. This is not an easy decision to make, and you may need some time to think it over. But don’t let anyone choose for you. This is about your body and your future, so in the end you have to decide for yourself.
    First, ask yourself the question: do I want this baby? If the answer is a resounding yes or no, then maybe you already know what your decision should be. If you are not sure, think about a few more questions: can I support a child right now? Would I feel comfortable ending the pregnancy? Would it feel right or wrong? Does ending a pregnancy fit with my religious beliefs? Should those beliefs inform my decision? Does the father want the child? Can I have a safe abortion in my country?
    There are no right or wrong answers to these questions. You should decide what feels right for you. If you’re really struggling, try talking through your options with someone you trust. 

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Ajay bete period ke late hone ka karan stress ya tension ho sakta hai, lekin yadi koi unsafe hua ho toh iske liye unsafe sex ke 10 din poore hote hee chemist se liya gaya ek home pregnancy test kit se test lijiye aur sthiti ko nischit kar lijiye. Ise padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/unsafe-sex-missed-period-am-i-pregnant https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/home-pregnancy-tests-dos-and-donts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Oh Dhiya bete it's very sad!! We can understand the situation!! But if it is unwanted pregnancy then Listen Please quickly meet an expert or a doctor who can be a registered and see what can happen. If there is not much time, you can ask for MTP, get the opinion of a trustworthy doctor in any clinic and don't come to the words of a quack or chemist at all- DOCTOR ONLY https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy You can also contact fpai clinic, which you will find on its website. https://www.ippf.org/about-us/member-associations/india If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
5 din pahle meri gf k sath unsafe sex hua tha and abhi use low BP ki problem ho rhi hai to please mujhe suggest kijiye ki kya krna chahiye kya hum uske period ka wait kre ya hume check up krwanan chahiye or check up kre to kaise because test kit k liye period miss hona chahiye but usase pahle kaise test kr skte hai please guide me.
Mayank bete pregnancy test ke liye unsafe sex ke 10 din poore hote hi chemist se liya gaya ek Home pregnancy test kit se test kar leejiye aur sthiti nischit kar leejiye, iske liye period miss hone ka intezaar nahi kijiye. Aur BP ke problem ke liye kisi panjikrit doctor se mill lijiye. Kripya aaj ke baad condom ka nirdharit upyog keejiye. Ise padh lijiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/unsafe-sex-missed-period-am-i-pregnant https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/home-pregnancy-tests-dos-and-donts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Beta! Bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhee nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. Ye padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex https://lovematters.in/hi/safe-sex/sti-prevention/safe-or-unsafe https://lovematters.in/hi/birth-control/we-had-sex-without-condoms-help Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Dear listen, Please quickly meet an expert or a doctor who can be a registered and see what process will be apply by the registered doctor, please follow his/her instructions. you can ask for MTP, get the opinion of a trustworthy doctor in any clinic and don't come to the words of a quack or chemist at all- DOCTOR ONLY https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy You can also contact fpai clinic, which you will find on its website. https://www.ippf.org/about-us/member-associations/india If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Listen... sometimes periods are late, because of stress or hormonal changes... So the best would be to see a few days. But if there has been any unsafe sex before, it would be wise for to take a home pregnancy test to be assure. And then consult a specialist or registered doctor at the earliest. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/menstrual-cycle https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/unsafe-sex-missed-period-am-i-pregnant If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
I mean some one told me I must stop sex before 5:days example my wife date of period is date 5 then on date 10th I miss to 15 I must not have because definitely she will be pregnant..but 1st to 10th I can have sex
Your question has been answered, read the link: https://www.babycentre.co.uk/ovulation-calculator https://lovematters.in/en/our-bodies/ovulation-calendar-how-to-calculate-ovulation If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hello sir/mam, sex krne par serum vagina se bahar nikalne ke bad bhi kya pregnancy ho sakti hai, meri last period date 30 march thi and abhi period miss ho raha hai, and pregnancy test kit se check karne par negative aa raha hai
Anjali bete ye ek bahut badi mithya hai ki virya ke bahar nikal jane se pregnancy nahi hoti - yaad rakhiye ki pregnant hone ke liye ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab yadi period nahi aa raha hai aur pregnancy test se bhi pata nahi chal raha ho to Phoren kisi vishesagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Rishu bete yadi unsafe sex ke baad bhee periods huye hain toh ismein pregnancy ke chances na ke barabar hai. Phir bhi yadi aap aur safe hona chahtey hain to chemist se liya gaya ek Home pregnancy test kit se test kar leejiye aur sthiti nischit kar leejiye. Kripya aaj ke baad condom ka nirdharit upyog keejiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/unsafe-sex-missed-period-am-i-pregnant https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/home-pregnancy-tests-dos-and-donts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna   chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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