Unplanned pregnancy
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Unplanned pregnancy

Pregnancy can come as a surprise. It’s easy to forget about the condom in the heat of the moment. Even if you use contraception perfectly, sometimes it fails.

If you get pregnant by accident, you’ll need to decide what to do. There are three options: you go ahead with the pregnancy, you have the baby but give it up for adoption, or you have the pregnancy terminated (an abortion).

 

Whatever you decide, you need to think carefully. Talk to someone you trust. Someone who can give you advice and support, preferably an adult – your mother, an aunt, a friend, your partner or your doctor. Someone who won’t judge you for your choices. In the end, you’re the one who has to make the final decision. 

 

What are you going to do?

  1. Keep the Baby
    You could decide to carry on with the pregnancy and raise the child. This means thinking about the future: if you’re not married or in a stable relationship, will you be able to cope? How will it affect your life? Your education? Will you have enough support – from the baby’s father, or your family? Will you have enough money to live on? If you have a partner, what does he think? Does he want to keep the child? How many children do you have already? Is it safe to have another? Is the foetus healthy?
    And the most important question: do you want this pregnancy?
     
  2. Give the baby up for adoption
    You could also have the baby adopted. Again, you need to think carefully. You don’t know how you will feel after you’ve given birth when the time comes to hand over your baby to someone else. And how will you find someone to adopt your child? You could contact an official adoption agency and have your child safely and legally adopted through the state. Or maybe you know someone who would love to raise a child. It could be someone in your family. Whatever you decide, it’s important to be clear about what you want from the adoption. For example, would you like to be able to see the child in the future?
    If you’re still very young and you live with your family, it helps if you can be honest with your parents. They may want to raise the child themselves. If not, perhaps they can help you decide what to do. If it’s difficult to tell them, perhaps another family member could help you break the news. 
     
  3. End the pregnancy (abortion)
    The third option is to have an abortion. This is not an easy decision to make, and you may need some time to think it over. But don’t let anyone choose for you. This is about your body and your future, so in the end you have to decide for yourself.
    First, ask yourself the question: do I want this baby? If the answer is a resounding yes or no, then maybe you already know what your decision should be. If you are not sure, think about a few more questions: can I support a child right now? Would I feel comfortable ending the pregnancy? Would it feel right or wrong? Does ending a pregnancy fit with my religious beliefs? Should those beliefs inform my decision? Does the father want the child? Can I have a safe abortion in my country?
    There are no right or wrong answers to these questions. You should decide what feels right for you. If you’re really struggling, try talking through your options with someone you trust. 

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Ek home pregnancy test lijiye… period late bhi ho jaatye hain.. so sabse better yeh hoga ki aap kuch roz dekh leejiye aur phir phoren ek doctor ko mill leejiye. Theek hai beta jee? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Bete yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy http://www.fpaindia.org/
Bete Pradeep Pehle toh aap ek doctor se sampark karo taaki unka fever waghera control mein aa jaye! Aur suno shuru se third month tak aur phir saatvein mahene se le kar …. Is samy avoid keejiye. Jo wife ko pasansd ho who hee keejiye , jo doctor salaah de who bhi samjh leejiye. Aur dekho bête behtar hoga ki aap condom ka isltemal karein. Ya phir discharge andar NA hone dein. Iske ilava wife ki comfort ka poora dhyaan keejiye.Aur haan! last 3 months mein definitely safety rakhiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/sex-during-pregnancy-top-five-facts
Period ke DAURAAN? Tab toh pregnant hone ka chance na ke barabr hai beta.Phir bhi kisi bhi risk ya sankramn se bachne ke liye condom ka isteaml anivarya hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-period Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Yadi aap bina kisi protection key ya bina surakhsha ke sex ki soch rahe hai toh shayad aap un dino ki baat kar rahe hain jin mein bachcha rukna mushkil hai. Yeh ho toh sakta hai lekin yeh poori terh se surakshit nahin mana jaata hai. Yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete Priya suno pregnancy se bachne ka sabse asaan tarika hai condom ka use karna! Kya aapko apne sharir se bilkul bhee pyar nahi hai jo aap baar-baar yeh dawaiyan istemal kar rahi hain? Bete yeh goliyan mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai.. PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/emergency-contraception
Hmmm! Yadi unke periods aa chukein hai tab toh pregnancy ke chances na ke barabr hai lekin yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Chutkara paane ka ek hee tareeka hai- apne aap yeh karna rok lo... ya dawa nahin. Wasie toh hastmaithun apne aap mein koi problem nahin karta. Lekin jaise kaha, aadat choot jaye toh theek , na ruke , toh bhi koi baat nahin. Yaad rakho yeh ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete Rohan jesa ki mein aap logo kai baar bata chuki hun ki safe sex ke liey condom ka istemal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bête! yeh emergency goli hai jo ki 72 ghanton ke andar hee li jaa sakti hai. Lekin yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai.. PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/emergency-contraception http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex
Bete Soniya Yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Yadi unn periods ke baad dubara unsafe sex kiya gaya tha toh ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. After 10 days aap ek home test kar saktey hain. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Dekhiye yadi apke virya se shukanu ki ek boond bhee unke andar gai hogee toh yeh ek unwanted pregnancy ki wajh ho sakta hai! After 10 days aap ek home test kar saktey hain. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? Lekin suniye wo ro kyun rahee thee? Kya yeh koi zabrdasti sex ka mamla toh nahi?
Dekhiye kewal ulti aana pregnancy hone ka sanket nahi hai. Lekin Yadi yeh unsafe sex tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. After 10 days aap ek home test kar saktey hain. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Suno yeh janne ka kewal yahi tarika hai kee aap after 10 days aap ek home test kar saktey hain. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? Aur haan safe sex ke liey condom ka istemal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bête, yaha padho zara: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex yeh emergency goli hai aur yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai.. PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye. yeh emergency goli hai aur yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai.. PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye.
Yeh ek bohot badi mithya hai ki sperm bahar nikalne se garbhdharn nahi hota hai kyunk pregnant hone ke liye ek shukranu bhi bohot kaafi hota hai. Zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/10-most-common-contraception-myths Yes bilkul iske zariye pregnancy ka pata lagya jaa sakta hai.
Bete Sachin yeh ek bohot badi mithya hai ki sperm bahar nikalne se garbhdharn nahi hota hai kyunk pregnant hone ke liye ek shukranu bhi bohot kaafi hota hai. Zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/10-most-common-contraception-myths
Yadi yeh unsafe sex tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ki sambhavna ho sakti hai. After 10 days aap ek home test kar saktey hain. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Bete haalanki pregnancy test negative aa raha hai. Lekin itne din periods ka no hona bhee swasth nahi hai. Aap log FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi . Iske illava ,Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se mililye. All the best http://www.fpaindia.org/
Periods ke duran sex mein koi dikatt nahi jab tak dono partners ki isse karne mein barabar ki marzi shamil ho Lekin yaad rakhiye is duran condom ka istemal anivarya hai taaki kisi bhi sankarman se bachha ja sake. Yeh bhi padh lijiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-period
Jee haan! Yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Yeh aap kese jantye hain ki woh pregnant hain hee.jabki unko periods ho rahe hain? Suno pregnancy hai ya nahi yeh janne ka kewal yahi ek tarika hai ki ek home pregnancy test liya jaye yaa kisi visheshagya se milla jaye samjhye? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Tina bete yadi us unsafe sex ke baad bhi apko periods huay hain toh aap yeh maan sakti hain ki pregnancy nahi hai lekin yaadi rakhiye Yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Kya aapka dimag theek hai? Suno yeh emergency goli hai aur yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai.. PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye. safe sex ke liey condom ka istemal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bête, yaha padho zara: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex
Hmmm! Suno jaldi ek home pregnancy test lo aur kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar saktey hain. Kisi neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Iske alawa aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy http://www.fpaindia.org/
Yeh ek bohot badi mithya hai ki sperm bahar nikalne se garbhdharn nahi hota hai kyunk pregnant hone ke liye ek shukranu bhi bohot kaafi hota hai. Zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/10-most-common-contraception-myths Ab jaldi ek home pregnancy test lijiye ya vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se mililye. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Sabse pehle toh ek home pregnancy test lijiye! Ya kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. ske alawa aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy http://www.fpaindia.org/
Bete yeh hum nahi bata sakte lekin haan yeh yad rakhiye ki pregnancy ke liye ek shukranu bhi bohot kaafi hota hai. So 10 din baad ejk home pregnancy test le lein toh achha hai. ttp://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Bete Ravi dhyan rakho safe sex ke liey condom ka istemal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bête, yaha padho zara: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex yeh emergency goli hai aur yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai.. PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye.
Jee haan yeh sambhav ho sakta hai kyunki pregnancy ke liye ek shukranu bhi bohot kaafi hai jiska virginity se koi sambandh nahi hai. Ek home pregnancy test lijiye. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Yeh Bilkul bhu swasth nahi hai aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi . Iske illava ,Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se mililye. All the best http://www.fpaindia.org/
Bete jaldi kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai,. Kisi neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Iske alawa aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy http://www.fpaindia.org/
Suniye Yeh safe sex ka tarika bilkul nahi hai! Jaldi ek home pregnancy test lijiye! Ya kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai! Iske alawa aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy http://www.fpaindia.org/
Pehle suno safe sex ke liey condom ka istemal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bête, yaha padho zara: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex yeh emergency goli hai aur yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai.. PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye. Aur ab jaldi kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo jaldi! http://www.fpaindia.org/
Ji nahi ! Pregnant hone ke liye purush ke shukranu ko mahila ki yoni mein jakar dimb ko nishechit karna bohot zaruri hai. jo ki sirf Yoni Maitun ke dwara ho sakta hai. Zara yeh padho. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Isme itnaa dar nahin beta… period late bhi ho jaatye hain.. so sabse better yeh hoga ki aap kuch roz dekh leejiye aur phir phoren ek doctor ko mill leejiye. Theek hai beta jee? Now relax.
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