Unplanned pregnancy
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Unplanned pregnancy - What to do next?

Pregnancy can come as a surprise. It’s easy to forget about the condom in the heat of the moment. Even if you use contraception perfectly, sometimes it fails.

If you get pregnant by accident, you’ll need to decide what to do. There are three options: you go ahead with the pregnancy, you have the baby but give it up for adoption, or you have the pregnancy terminated (an abortion).

 

Whatever you decide, you need to think carefully. Talk to someone you trust. Someone who can give you advice and support, preferably an adult – your mother, an aunt, a friend, your partner or your doctor. Someone who won’t judge you for your choices. In the end, you’re the one who has to make the final decision. 

 

What are you going to do?

  1. Keep the Baby
    You could decide to carry on with the pregnancy and raise the child. This means thinking about the future: if you’re not married or in a stable relationship, will you be able to cope? How will it affect your life? Your education? Will you have enough support – from the baby’s father, or your family? Will you have enough money to live on? If you have a partner, what does he think? Does he want to keep the child? How many children do you have already? Is it safe to have another? Is the foetus healthy?
    And the most important question: do you want this pregnancy?
     
  2. Give the baby up for adoption
    You could also have the baby adopted. Again, you need to think carefully. You don’t know how you will feel after you’ve given birth when the time comes to hand over your baby to someone else. And how will you find someone to adopt your child? You could contact an official adoption agency and have your child safely and legally adopted through the state. Or maybe you know someone who would love to raise a child. It could be someone in your family. Whatever you decide, it’s important to be clear about what you want from the adoption. For example, would you like to be able to see the child in the future?
    If you’re still very young and you live with your family, it helps if you can be honest with your parents. They may want to raise the child themselves. If not, perhaps they can help you decide what to do. If it’s difficult to tell them, perhaps another family member could help you break the news. 
     
  3. End the pregnancy (abortion)
    The third option is to have an abortion. This is not an easy decision to make, and you may need some time to think it over. But don’t let anyone choose for you. This is about your body and your future, so in the end you have to decide for yourself.
    First, ask yourself the question: do I want this baby? If the answer is a resounding yes or no, then maybe you already know what your decision should be. If you are not sure, think about a few more questions: can I support a child right now? Would I feel comfortable ending the pregnancy? Would it feel right or wrong? Does ending a pregnancy fit with my religious beliefs? Should those beliefs inform my decision? Does the father want the child? Can I have a safe abortion in my country?
    There are no right or wrong answers to these questions. You should decide what feels right for you. If you’re really struggling, try talking through your options with someone you trust. 

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Hmmm! Kya us periods ke baad aapnye koi UNSAFE SEX kiya tha kya? beta yadd rakhiye chahye ling kitni der ke liye bhi andar gaya bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Yeh bhi padh lo: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Rahul bete! Yadi unhye ek baar periods theek tarah se aa chuke hain toh pregnancy ke chances nahi hai phir bhi yaad rakiye aapyad pregnancy se bachna hai toh safe sex yani condom ya uchit garbhnirodhan ke uchit upaye apnana ANIVRYA hai. Yeh link bhi padh lijiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex
Bete yeh safe sex nahi hai! Aap ko yeh pata hona chahiye ki pregnant hone ke liye ek shuranu bhi bohot kaafi hota hai aur yadi kisi bhi tarah se unki yoni mein ek shukranu ka pravesh ho gaya hoga toh pregnancy ke chances hai! Isliye jaldi ek home pregnancy test lo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Aur agye se jo karein puri tarah safe hi karein yani CONDOM ka istemal kar ke. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex
Dekho bete pregnant hone ke liye ek shuranu bhi bohot kaafi hota hai.isliye yadi bina condom ke sex karne ka soch rahi hain toh ismein chances 99% ho sakte hain.aur rahi baat periods kareeb ane ke toh yeh poori tareh se na, ladki kee mahavari pe depend hota hai, yadi who bilkul nirdharit hai ya nahin jiski vajeh se bahut hee risk ka kaam bhi hai. Yadi aap bina kisi protection key ya bina surakhsha ke sex ki soch rahe hai toh shayad aap un dino ki baat kar rahe hain jin mein bachcha rukna mushkil hai. Yeh ho toh sakta hai lekin yeh poori terh se surakshit nahin mana jaata hai. yadi aap sex pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Hmm! toh aapne safe sex karne ka idea use kiya tha? par suniye yeh poori tareh se na, ladki kee mahavari pe depend hota hai, yadi who bilkul nirdharit hai ya nahin jiski vajeh se bahut hee risk ka kaam bhi hai. Yes woh pregnancy ho sakti hain jaldi ek pregnancy test lo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. aur age se yaad rakhe sex mein jo karein safe karein. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex
Ohh! Toh aapne safe sex ka idea use kiya tha par bete yeh bilkul bhi safe nahi hai! Yaad rakhiye pregnant hone ke liye kewal ek shuranu bhi bohot kaafi hai. Isliye bina samye gawaye doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, Kisis neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Jaldi karo samjhe ?http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Ji bilkul pregnancy ho sakti hai. Kyunki yeh jo aap safe sex ka idea use kar rahe hain, who bilkul bhi safe nahi hai. Kyunki bete pregnant hone ke liye kewal ek shurnau bhi bohot kaafi hai. Isliye yadi aap pregnancy se bachna chahte hain toh kewal safe sex hi karein. Yaha padhiye zara. : http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex
Bete! Yeh pregnancy se sambandhit bhi ho sakta hai, lekin yeh bhi ho sakta hai ki kuch aur stithi ho. Jaldi kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta. Kisi neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Jaldi karo samjhay? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Avi bete Actually yeh poori tareh se na, ladki kee mahavari pe depend hota hai, yadi who bilkul nirdharit hai ya nahin jiski vajeh se bahut hee risk ka kaam bhi hai. Yadi aap bina kisi protection key ya bina surakhsha ke sex ki soch rahe hai toh shayad aap un dino ki baat kar rahe hain jin mein bachcha rukna mushkil hai. Yeh ho toh sakta hai lekin yeh poori terh se surakshit nahin mana jaata hai. yadi aap sex pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Bete pehle toh aap yeh samjhiye ki ling ka size bada karnay ka koi bhi tarika mojjud nahi hai. aur rahi baat semen ki toh bete toh iska patla mote hone se koi smabnadh nahi .Ling ke size ki sahi jaankari yaha se hasil karo aap : http://lovematters.in/en/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes
Ohhh! kya aapko nahi pata ki 18 saal se kam ki mahila le saath kiya gaya sex chhahe woh uski marzi se hi kyun na ho RAPE ki category mein aata hai? ab jaldi kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar saktey hain. Kisis neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Jaldi karo samjhay?http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Suno jaldi kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar saktey hain. Kisis neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Jaldi karo samjhay?http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Madhuri bete yeh ek emergency goli hai aur yeh apke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai.. PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye. aur bete phir bhi aap jaldi jaldi kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. take care
Ab kitna time hua hai is baat ko? Suno jaldi kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar saktey hain. Kisis neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Jaldi karo samjhay?http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Yes! aisa ho sakta hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liye kewal ek shukranu bhi bohot kaafi hota hai. so! jaldi ek pregnancy test lijiye. Aur dhyaan rakhiye yadi aap sex pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Suniye zara safe sex ke liey condom ka istemal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bête, yaha padho zara: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex yeh emergency goli hai aur yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai.. PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye. Aur Suno jaldi kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, ha. Kisis neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Jaldi karo samjhay?http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Hmmm! yadi unke is unsafe sex ke baad periods agaye hain toh koi samsya nahi hai. lekin yada rakhiye yeh bilkul bhi safe nahi hai yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Suno jaldi kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar saktey hain. Kisis neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Jaldi karo samjhay?http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Aur please dhyan rakho safe sex ke liey condom ka istemal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bête, yaha padho zara: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex yeh emergency goli hai aur yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai.. PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye
Teen mahinay se pregnancy nahi hui? Yes pregnancy ho sakti hai. Suno jaldi kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar saktey hain. Kisis neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Jaldi karo samjhay?http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Ohhh hmmm! To aap logo ne safe sex karnye ka idea use kiya par bête yeh bilkul bhi safe tarika nahi hai kyunki pregnant honey ke liey ek shuranu bhi bohot kaafi hota hai, halaki guda methun yani anel sex mein pregnancy ke chances NA ke barabr hai phir bhi safe sex ke liey condom ka isteaml anivrya hai bête. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Yeh bhi padho madd ke liye : http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Kya is month unke periods miss hunay hain?Suno jaldi kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, . Kisis neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Jaldi karo samjhay?http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Yadd rakhiye chahye ling kitni der ke liye bhi andar gaya bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Yeh bhi padho madd ke liye : http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Suno jaldi kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar saktey hain. Kisis neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Jaldi karo samjhay?http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Yadd rakhiye chahye ling kitni der ke liye bhi andar gaya bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Yeh bhi padho madd ke liye : http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Period ke DAURAAN? Tab toh preganant hone ka ko chance nahin hai beta… Yadd rakhiye chahye ling kitni der ke liye bhi andar gaya bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai.
Actually yeh poori tareh se na, ladki kee mahavari pe depend hota hai, yadi who bilkul nirdharit hai ya nahin jiski vajeh se bahut hee risk ka kaam bhi hai. Yadi aap bina kisi protection key ya bina surakhsha ke sex ki soch rahe hai toh shayad aap un dino ki baat kar rahe hain jin mein bachcha rukna mushkil hai. Yeh ho toh sakta hai lekin yeh poori terh se surakshit nahin mana jaata hai. yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Actually yeh poori tareh se na, ladki kee mahavari pe depend hota hai, yadi who bilkul nirdharit hai ya nahin jiski vajeh se bahut hee risk ka kaam bhi hai. Yadi aap bina kisi protection key ya bina surakhsha ke sex ki soch rahe hai toh shayad aap un dino ki baat kar rahe hain jin mein bachcha rukna mushkil hai. Yeh ho toh sakta hai lekin yeh poori terh se surakshit nahin mana jaata hai. yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
yadd rakhiye chahye ling kitni der ke liye bhi andar gaya bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai.
Hmmmm! Yadd rakhiye chahye ling kitni der ke liye bhi andar gaya bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Yeh bhi padho madd ke liye : http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Suno jaldi kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar saktey hain. Kisis neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Jaldi karo samjhay?http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Beta Mohit aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil saktee hai. Iske illava ,Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctore se mililye. All the best.
Beta Anil discharge andar ho ya bahar dono hi baton mein yeh unsafe hai. Yadd rakhiye chahye ling kitni der ke liye bhi andar gaya bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shukranu bhi kaafi hota hai. yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex
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