AuntyJi
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Will my breasts grow too big if I don’t wear a bra soon?

By Auntyji Tuesday, October 10, 2017 - 14:43
Hi Auntyji... I see many girls wear a bra in my class but I don't wear it yet. My friend was telling me that if do not wear one too soon, I would end up losing the shape of my breasts or they will become huge? Is it true? Manmeet, 16, Guwahati.

Auntyj says...oye hoye, that’s a bit of a droopy situation beta Manmeet! But nothing to worry or be shy of – OK? Your Aunty will help you lift things up!

A friend in need

Suno beta, you are saying you don’t wear one, but the real question is – do you need one? Once breasts start to show up – sooner or later, you will! Everyone does. Well beta, maybe the time has come to check if your breasts could do with some attention. Beta the idea behind wearing a bra is to give support to breasts and to ensure you don’t hurt yourself in your daily hectic runabout schedule.

Given your age, I assume you can be into sports or some running around. As the body develops, while doing some of these tasks, some bouncing happens and the breasts can begin to feel the strain. It may even cause pain. If you are beginning to feel some strain or pain, a bra will help. Your friend is right in advising you to think about a bra. After all, what are friends for – always there to support, just like a bra!

Size up or down

The fear that they will become huge is not so true. The size of the breast is determined by what gene pool you take – nothing else. There are so many myths about breasts sizes – don’t believe them. Just take care of your body's changing requirements. I have also come across an equally silly myth that wearing a bra is dangerous and it will make breasts ‘stand out’. Well, what’s wrong with that? They will ‘stand out’ one day or the other – so why should you be made to feel bad about it?

Bra to boost confidence

Manmeet, the actual problem lies in linking a bra to ‘growing up’. Sometimes our families are hesitant and they fear that if they make a girl wear a bra, the girl looks too ‘grown up’. So what? You are growing up and so is your body. You have to embrace and accept that and so do people around you. A good bra will give you the freedom to do your own thing without people staring at you or making silly jokes. It will also help you feel good and confident about yourself. Beta, I see so many young girls who hide behind huge clothes or stoop their shoulders as they try to hide the changes in their body. NO need at all.

Celebrate the new you

The good news is that we have all kinds of bras available – some really cute ones too. Go get yourself fitted to your right size. Maybe you can begin with a sports bra, which is a smaller and a tighter version of a chemise/ baniyan. See how you feel.

Don't be shy at the shop. It’s your body and you need to take care of it without any shame. The shopkeepers too are there to help. Sometimes just need to get over our own inhibitions. Once you want to graduate from a sports bra, make sure you try a variety to understand what works best for you

You are changing Manmeet – celebrate that. Celebrate your beautiful body. And talking about celebrations. I am sure you still have some Diwali shopping due. How about gifting yourself a bra to lift you up this festive period!

Names changed. The person in the picture is a model. 


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Comments

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Prity kumari
Fri, 12/29/2017 - 21:37

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Aunty ji mere ling buhut chota aur palta hai Aur main hastmaithun bhi buhut Kar Tha hoon toh main jab bhi Kisi ladki Ke Saath sex Kar tha hoon toh mere virus Jaldi Nikal aata hai ab main kya Karo I'm 20 Year

Imran bete, is sab ke liye hastmaithun ko zimmedaar mat maaniye kyunki hastmaithun ek safe/surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jinmein aap samya bitaa sakte hain. Jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? Yeh bhi padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating https://lovematters.in/hi/news/i-could-masturbate-anytime-anywhere https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/are-my-sex-problems-caused-by-masturbation Aap khud ye nirnay le ki aapka ling chhota hai ya bada, mota hain ya patla yeh itna uchit nahi hoga. Aur sorry bête isay bada ya mota karne ka koi tarika nahi hai Ling ki sahi jaankari ke liye yaha padh ljiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes https://lovematters.in/hi/news/penis-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/news/worried-your-penis-too-small https://lovematters.in/hi/news/what-women-penis Relax, beta. Jaldi viryapaat hone se koi baat nahin, don’t worry. Toh sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Aur yadi shareer mein uttejna adhik ho, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheegra hi patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. Aisi stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay, yaani bete ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaen karna , jinse dono ko anand mile, apne partner ki uttejna badhana, yeh sab activities sabse zaroori hain. Iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehle jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kum karne mein madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum

Aunty ji .mai apne girlfriend ke sath unsef sex kiya aur viryapaat yoni ke barar kiya to kya isse pregnent hone ki koi sambhavana hai ya nahi

Raju bete, yaad rakhiye chahe ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua hao, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liye ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye yeh bhi padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum

Listen, our breasts and their shape and size are determined by our genes. The shape is also influenced by the surrounding muscle it may also be affected by hormonal contraceptives. So it is not possible to increase the size of it. https://lovematters.in/en/resource/breasts You can also look it this way...what if she says she finds your size small. Would you be able to do something about it? No, right? Then what's the point? Respect your partner's body. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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