A waitress’s cleavage, a classmate’s killer legs, even the smell of a stranger’s perfume – it doesn’t take a whole lot for most men to feel desire and get turned on. And once they’ve got sex on the brain, the big orgasm’s the goal, and it’s all a pretty straightforward path from being horny to post-orgasm bliss.
Women, on the other hand, are a tad more complicated. The latest science reveals what it takes for them to get aroused, the reasons they have for wanting sex, and just how different they can be from men.
Suddenly in the mood
Unlike men, women aren’t always in the mood for sex before blood flows to their genitals and they get physically aroused. Sometimes it happens the other way around. A woman might see her partner’s erection and only when things start to heat up does she think hey, sex would be pretty great right about now.
That’s because women feel what scientists call ‘responsive desire’ – they get turned on as a reaction to something, like their partner’s hand on their breasts. But men are more often spontaneously horny. That’s why they have to deal with things like embarrassing erections when they least expect them.
Of course that doesn’t mean women are never suddenly in the mood for sex. It’s just that for them, spontaneous desire is a lot more common in a brand new relationship or after a long separation from a partner.
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Cuddles and kisses
During sex, the big orgasm isn’t always the goal for women. There’s no doubt that climaxing is part of the pleasure, but it’s not all a woman is after. Emotional closeness, a boost to her self-image, and showing her love are major reasons for a woman to want sex. Plus, if she feels great afterwards, chances are that thoughts of past adventures between the covers will arouse her in the future.
So guys, if you’re looking to turn your girlfriend on, you know what it takes – cuddles and kisses and intimacy can be what she needs to get in the mood. And if she doesn’t orgasm, it doesn’t mean she didn’t enjoy every minute of it.
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