Far from home, but close to love
Shobha puttar, every girl carries the fragrance of her parents’ home Diwali in her heart but after marriage, a new story begins with new bonds, a new home and new love. Share your childhood Diwali stories with your partner, show him old photos and make a video call to your parents together. That’s what true companionship is when two people share not just a home, but also their feelings.
Memories in the heart, light in the eyes
Diwali is not just about fireworks, it’s about togetherness. When you pray with your partner, decorate your home or share sweets, it’s more than a ritual- it’s a sign of love. Tell him honestly, “I’m missing Mom and Dad today but I’m happy you’re with me.” Small moments like this bring hearts closer.
Take the help of technology
These days, everything happens on mobile but a small handwritten letter still feels special. You can write to your mom, “Diwali feels incomplete without you but the laddus from your recipe turned out perfect.”
Write to your dad, “I’ve hung the same lights on the balcony, just like you used to.”
Such letters bring back memories and make relationships stronger.
And Shobha, if you don’t have time to write, just video call them on Diwali. Light lamps, eat sweets and share what new things you did this year.
Traditions can be sexy too
Add your own style to your new home. Recipes from your parents' home, your favorite lights and decorating together with your partner will not only enhance your home but your relationship as well. Laughing together, clicking photos and wishing each other well with diyas in hand!
Make your partner a part of the festival
Shobha, your husband is not just there to share duties or enjoy sweets. Talk to him about your parents and share their stories. Decorate the house together, do the puja, and give sweets to those in need. When two people celebrate together, they create new memories and keep the warmth of old ones alive.
Give yourself some time
Beta ji, trust me, every heart has a little bit of “Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham” in it. Feeling a little sad is fine, just don’t let it become a full movie! Think, if you stayed upset, could your parents enjoy their festival? Nope. So smile a little, even if it’s that “Kuch Kuch Hota Hai” smile, look at some old pictures, and let your heart light up before you light those diyas.
Aunty ji’s special relationship tips
- Video call on puja: Connect both homes, your parents’ and your in-laws’ through a video call.
- Couple Self-Care: During the festival, care for each other as much as you care for your home.
- Our First Diwali Ritual: Start something new together every year; make it your special couple tradition.
- Sweetness of Touch: Along with sweets, share a warm hug or a gentle touch.
Now go, beta ji, light the diyas, not your stress! And remember, even if life feels like Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham, at least there’s always extra mithai at the end! Also smile wide, neighbours should think you just got a Diwali bonus, not an emotional lecture from Aunty ji!
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