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Should I have sex with my cousin?

By Auntyji Friday, April 12, 2019 - 07:30
Hi Auntyji, I am in love with my cousin and want to have sex with him. I’m an unmarried girl aged 26. What should I do? Sukanya, Bhopal.

Auntyji says, ‘You would not be the first one, beta Sukanya, so I am glad you wrote here. Let’s talk more’. 

Is it really love?

Sukanya – look back. Who do we really hang out with – who are the ‘boys’ we grow up with? We hung out with our cousins – both boys and girls and they know us best. We had fun with them – we play and do masti with them, which establishes a real close bond. All fine! Thus far.

But somewhere down the line, you grow up and so do they! From a sister – you become – a girl! You are cute looking, sexy and smart and most crucially, you are most approachable and you are aas paas

The same applies for you. Your cousin has been around you, he gets you, you have been sharing so much with him and now... he has suddenly transformed into the sexiest man you know. When did that happen? Your old fun and comfort gets further concretised and you believe you are ‘in love’. Getting complicated?

The other party

There is one more player in this – your cousin. Just because he is a man – does not mean he will be ready to jump into bed with you. He may have an extreme reaction too. All this while you were his behen – and now what’s this sudden change of course. 

You may have all these feelings for him – he may still be only filial in his affections. What then? You make a move and he freaks out, ‘Didi – what are you saying’! He begins to avoid you and you are all flustered and now afraid. 

What if he tells someone in the family? And yes – what if he does? How will you ever manage that Sukanya, beta

Not a pretty picture

What do you think can be the repercussions of this? You lose a good friend to begin with. While no doubt some communities do make room for relationships between cousins, most don’t. 

In our work experience – this sort of a love story – while common as it may be – has never really had a happy ending of any sort. It gets so messy and so complicated. Families get involved and yeah, before you know it, it’s all out of control – with name calling and blame gaming between your parents. And you at the receiving end. 

Time out for yourself 

So what can you do now onwards? Trying to keep a distance from him, now onwards. Give yourself some thought time – even talk to a close pal if you want. Take a trip? A hobby class, the gym? Swimming? 

Break your regular routine in which your cousin and interaction with him plays a central role. Go out with your own gang of girls or pals. Don't beat yourself up on this though –its common, it happens. Wanting sex is no crime – no bad thing – its perfectly OK. Its sexy and your right too. Just choose your partner wisely Sukanya. 

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I am 22 years old boy. I am very interested in sex. So i naturally watch the blue films. After watching it i usually discharge semen. After a day a pimple appears on my face. So, how to control my feelings. Iam not even concentrating on my studies. Please give me suggestion.
At first u fear each other but when u enter into her you feel like to have sex more and more i had sex with my cousin 6yrs ago since then she calls me when she want it rem am married but i can't leave her.
ujjwal raj
Mon, 03/16/2015 - 10:43
Hello aunty ji, Abhi was going through your page regarding sex with cousin, i want to confess and need suggestions. I'm 23 old guy and my first cousin she will 23 in 2 weeks. Things started when we were kids and used meet at nani's home diring summer vacation, we used sleep together, it started with touching, kissing feeling of private parts of each pther and so on, it happed for many years whenever we met. When we both were 18 she said lets stop it. We stopped but next year we started again but this time with more activities, not intercourse, we enjoyed that for a year (whenevr we met). Then again she said lets stop. We stopped. A year back she came to my room started kissing me and asked for safe intercourse. Me being desperate of sex started loving her in sexual way but didint had intercourse. Than in october i had unsafe intercourse on her request for while( been lucky nothing happend) and in november end again had safe intercourse, after that i said we have to stop this is wrong and never talked. The reason I stopped was because i think whenever i had intercourse with i get loss in work, both the time i had intercourse my work suffered, it felt like I'm being punished by god for this. Not only that i'm scared may be having sex with cousin may give me bad karma. But I'm very much desperate for sex. Everynight i try not to think of her, I somehow recall all our moments. She also lil desperate. But dont know what to do...plase aunty ji do reply..need ur help..or else this desperation may destroy me.
OK So first!! Everyone calm down. Take a deep breath. So you want sex and she seems ready so you think its best with her- bluntly speaking?! Right!! She too is kind of ready it seems. So dude, I am not so sure about the bad karma angle… maybe its more in your head than actually happening?! One thing is seemingly more certain and that is that your guilt is killing you , for a while now. Dude, frankly speaking, guilt is not a good place to be. It keeps nagging at you and makes you half the man you are. So either you get over the guilt or the relationship. Make a quick decision and then irrespective of what happens, stick to it!! Don’t let your cuz talk you into anything thereafter , be really firm and unavailable. Read this column and see if it helps and take a few steps back to decide what you want to do. My “advise”, decide coolly, but quickly. All the best, bro https://lovematters.in/hi/news/should-i-have-sex-my-cousin
Hello Auntyji, my name is partik and i want help form you!! The situation is of back day when i was 17 yrs old, my cousin sister is vry mch attracted towards me! I noticed this thing when i was sleeping at night with her. She was kissing me many a times which made me partially wake up. Right after some kisses she started to unbutton my pant and wanted my organ desperately. Suddenly i stopped her from doing this. But, i could'nt resist my self from her and that night even i also accidently unbuttoned her bra and felt her upper region. I am very much attracted towards her and now i want to have intercourse with her. I am now 18 yrs old and she is about 28 and when ever we meet we often have such encounters. She is married and has a small daughter!! Please please please please help me auntyji. Thankyou!!
I am 18 yrs old and my cousin is 19..she is very close to me and very straight forward too,she shares everything with me,she had a BF and I hve GF..one night we are sleeping on same bed and unfortunately she had touched my dick.I've loosed control and I slowly rubbed her boobs she is awake and forced me to do so...after that we had sex..after sex I'm addicted to her to have sex but now she is not accepting what should I have to do...I'm also not interested on my GF
What is small cousin? Younger than 18 is rape and you are liable, lover boy. Have some sense!! Having sex with a person less than 18 is a crime, is abuse and violence. Having it with a relative is considered Incest in most cases. You are smart enough to say yes to sex, but not so smart to stop a younger cousin? I think not!! I think you are just taking advantage. STOP IT.
Hi Aunty, i am 26 years old man and she is 19 years old. Last year our family decided to make a marriage plan with us. Earlier we had also rejected their plan since i had never thought my cousin to marry. But later both were convinced to get married after 4 years since she is doing her studies. First 3 months went superb, i had also even started to love her. But unfortunately, she rejects me and the reason behind it was so silly that she feared a lot on my sexual expectations after marriage. We had never met since after our marriage proposals went on at our home. Just made some sexual chats over phone and this made her to think like i am a womanizer. My heart gone broke down and i was completely went face down after her opinion on me. 6 months went away with no contacts and now she is begging my friendship. She made me to feel guilty and now she is apologising me. The only mistake which i made was that i thought her like my fiancee and made some sexual talks on our daily chats. Do i really need to accept her friendship even after this incident? Kindly advice me please..
Abdullah – so you both are engaged just now, and it seems as if you both live far from each other, yes? Ok so your see Abdullah, she is still very young. She perhaps has no clues about sex and sex talk , which is why perhaps she got so nervous!! That’s understandable is it not? You see, perhaps you could have first checked with her about her feelings on this issue and then apporched the sex talk… Ok now that she is back, and is asking for your dosti and friendship, this is really a golden opportunity for BOTH of you to get close and friendly with each other. You can use this time to talk and get to know each other so that when you do get married, you are very comfy with each other, very relaxed with each other. This is a time for love and romance, enjoy it!! All the best!!
Hi aunty nw I M staying with my sister in our dad house when ever I c my sister I feel like having sex with her this I never had ever before y do I feel like that every time after seeing her
First thanks for writing and sharing your dilemma. very often we get confused and we mistake proximity with passion and love for affection. We are so physically close to our siblings that they become our ‘mates’ and unknowingly we become so close that we think this is love. Also, because cousins and siblings are very often the first “brush” of an adult person which again we mistake or mix up with passion, because they are close, and we are so comfortable with them, we can feel sexually attracted to them Beta, these are very touchy and delicate issues and frankly said some relationships are better off without sex, siblings and family members are such. Would you like to risk a life time of closeness, friendship and love- of a different kind no doubt- for the sake of a sexual move, which may jeopardize your present and future relationship, in fact not just yours but may well be others in the family too? I am sure you will come to a sound decision. Why don’t you take a short break or a holiday for a few days, far from your family…sister. Relax and stay well.
mam plz help me I want sex with my cousin sis..but she don't know ..I like her ..and want to spend a night with her .m afraid what she think or refuse me or tell my parents ...plz tell me what I do
Vanshaj very often we get confused and we mistake proximity with passion and love for affection. We are so physically close to our siblings that they become our ‘mates’ and unknowingly we become so close that we think this is love. Also, because cousins and siblings are very often the first “brush” of an adult person which again we mistake or mix up with passion, because they are close, and we are so comfortable with them, we can feel sexually attracted to them Beta, these are very touchy and delicate issues and frankly said some relationships are better off without sex, siblings and family members are such. Would you like to risk a life time of closeness, friendship and love- of a different kind no doubt- for the sake of a sexual move, which may jeopardize your present and future relationship, in fact not just yours but may well be others in the family too? I am sure you will come to a sound decision. Why don’t you take a short break or a holiday for a few days, far from your family……cousin. Relax and stay well.
yogesh...
Tue, 03/01/2016 - 10:48
auntyji main ek ladki se bahot pyar krta huon...3 saal se main one sided love kr raha huon... usse pats hain, main ussse pyar krta huon, lekin wo mjhe ye sub bhul jane ke liye keheti hain... wo aab baat bhi nhi krti, msg kru to rply nhi krti, milne ki baat to bahot durr ki hain, usse dikhna bhi aab mushkil ho gaya hai... maine kuch mahine pehele usse thodi galat bast ki thi... gusse main hone ki vajaha se mjhe late samjh aaya aab maafi magne se bhi wo baat nhi krti... aap hi batao kya karu main...plz...
I want to have sex with aunt(chachi) is not so beautiful but as i am virgin. I want to have sex with her. I like her a alot but i am sacred of my family realtionships with them that they don't tell to my parents or smething. What should i do. Please help Thank you
There is no way to seduce you own Chachi, you mad boy!! Are you crazy? Has she given you any reason to believe she want to have sex with you? Do you know what having sex with a family member means- it’s very difficult and extremely complicated. You are right to be scared of the outcomes. Here read this and beware that your Uncle does not get wind of your “desires and fantasies” https://lovematters.in/en/news/should-i-try-sex-older-woman If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete jo bhi hua wo bahut hi galat hua- lekin ismein aapke saath saath aapki bahan ki bhi utni hi galti thi - aur ab is baat ke liye aapko guilt ki feeling bhi ho rahi hai, so ab aage ki dekhiye - aur apna rishta sahi se nibhane ki koshish kijiye. Waise LM ki nazar mein, kuch rishtey sex ke liye nahin bane hain, un mein se ek bhai aur bahan ka bhi hai. Wasie bhi bhai/bahan, maa/ pita aur bete/ beti ke beech ka rishta kisi bhi samuday mein maananeey nahin. Kyunki yeh idea ki family ka koi vyakti sex ke liye ready ho sakta hai is me ek satta hai ek power ki jhalk jo ki kisi bhi soorat mein niyamit nahin hai!! Yeh bhee padh lijiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/i-am-attracted-my-sister Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
hii Auntyji.. i am in love with my cousin(Mother's Brother's daughter). she also loves me. so we want to marry each other. Is this thr right decision? we are belong from a hindu family, west bengal.
Hi! Right my dear, I hear you. So you see having a feeling of love for your cousin is not uncommon, it does happen. But is it permissible is the point, is it not. My dear, this only you can answer. How will it be understood in your family, how will they accepted your relationship? and it is complicated this too you will accept, Is it not. Ok read this and clear up your head a bit https://lovematters.in/en/news/it-ok-marry-my-cousin If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, ‘Just Ask’ https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hello aunty ji. I am 18 years boy and also good in studies till 11 class .But I fall in love with my cousin which is 15years old and both of us intersected to each other.But my wish is seduce it,But I don't know how to convence her for physical relationships . Please help me I can't focus on studies and my grades is decreasing please help me. I surely want to make relationship with her. can you please help me.
Right my dear, I hear you. So you see having a feeling of love for your cousin is not uncommon, it does happen. But is it permissible is the point, is it not. My dear, this only you can answer. How will it be understood in your family, how ill it be accepted by her… and it is complicated this too you will accept, Is it not. Ok read this and clear up your head a bit: https://lovematters.in/en/news/it-ok-marry-my-cousin https://lovematters.in/en/love-and-relationships/should-i-have-sex-with-my-cousin If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Rishi beta wife swaping ya threesome ya kisi bhee sexual activity mein dono ki sahmati hona zaruri hota hai- aapko threesome ki kalpana kar ke aanand ki anubhuti ho sakti hai- kuchh cheezen fantansy mein hi achchhi/sexy lagtin hain- lekin kya aapki wife bhee ise pasand karengi, kya veh sehmat hongee? Yeh baat kahan ja sakti hai- wo naraz ho saktin hain ya aap par shaq kar sakti hain- ya phir maan bhee sakti hain. Aap chahen toh unhe tatole kar dekh sakte hain lekin isse pahle swaping ya threesome ke bare mein- achchha/bura- jaan lijiye. Phir koi nirnay lijiye, theek hai bête! Bas yeh ek baat yaad rakhiye, ki swaping ya threesome itna asan nahin, so achhi tareh soch leejiye - yeh kadam uthane se pehle - aur of course, sabse badi baat, aapki wife ki readyness, razamandi. https://lovematters.in/en/making-love/ways-to-make-love/threesome-top-6-myths Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Right my dear, I hear you. So you see having a feeling of sex for your cousin is not uncommon, it does happen. But is it permissible is the point, is it not. My dear, this only you can answer. How will it be understood in your family, how ill it be accepted by her… and it is complicated this too you will accept, Is it not. Ok read this and clear up your head a bit: https://lovematters.in/en/love-and-relationships/should-i-have-sex-with-my-cousin If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
We can’t help you regarding this. Do ask if you have a question. But remember one thing that girls are not just a means of fulfilling Sex. If you would like to join in on any elaborate discussion on any topic, feel free to join our discussion board, ‘Just Ask’ https://lovematters.in/en/forum

Thank you Beta

 

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