Well, most women have uneven breasts – that was no reason to worry. But my friend remained unconvinced, “It makes me conscious and uncomfortable. How can I not worry?”
Uneven forever
My friend has had uneven breasts since she can remember. “I knew it all along, and it didn’t matter because the difference is only marginal. It’s not as though I needed different cup sizes on each side,” she said.
But it all changed when her boyfriend made a comment about her asymmetry. “He pointed at the bigger breast and asked me, why it was so. That left me embarrassed. I didn’t know what to say,” my friend complained.
On her mind
When her boyfriend noticed he had made her uncomfortable, he apologised. “He said that it really didn’t matter and that he could hardly notice the unevenness. But the damage was done. I was already conscious of my breasts,” my friend told me.
Since that night, my friend has been constantly measuring and assessing the difference in her breasts. “I keep judging myself and wondering why it’s so. I can’t stop thinking about it! What can I do?”
Whatever your breasts are like, you’re not alone! If you’re interested to see the huge variation there is in the shapes and sizes of normal breasts, there are photo galleries at 007b.com and Channel 4’s ‘embarrassing bodies’ website.
Ugly?
So my friend has been suffering from low self-esteem because of her uneven breasts. But uneven breasts are the most common thing among women. Hardly anyone has even breasts. And as long as she’s healthy otherwise, why should it matter? Does a little bit of asymmetry make you ugly, I wondered.
“It’s just that someone I love pointed it out to me. That makes me want to be perfect. I read that I could do a surgery to get it corrected. I might think about it seriously,” my friend confessed to me.
OMG, I thought, she must be kidding. I told her she was making a mountain out of a molehill. She should just quit worrying. “Easy for you to say. It’s not your boyfriend pointing at your breasts and demanding an explanation.”
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Gayatri Parameswaran is a multi-award winning writer, director and producer of immersive media works. She was born and raised in India and is currently based in Berlin, where she co-founded NowHere Media - a storytelling studio that views contemporary issues through a critical lens. She also edited the Love Matters website in its initial years. Check out more about her here.