Where is my clitoris
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Clitoris….wait, where is it anyway?

Do you know where or what a clitoris is? Love Matters asked ten young women and here’s what we found. It’s is quite a secret even in these times, we must say!

Yet to find

What clitoris? I haven't discovered it.

Isha, 20, student

Researching my body

I discovered my clitoris around the age of 16, during the time of periods. How? That's the time when I did a lot of research about the body and found out about the clitoris.

Avi, 23, student


I don't know about it. Haven't heard this word. Sorry. And I'm not married.

Deepa, 31, BPO backend-team in-charge

I’m glad I came 

I was four or five years old when I first felt the tingle of my clitoris. But with complete awareness, it was around the age of 23. As a kid, I was doing somersaults wearing a thin cotton-frock, with a fan running overhead. The rush of blood from my posture gave me a sensation down there. I paused in half-somersault, lying on my back and holding my legs up with my vulva facing the fan, and the cool wind brought me another shiver.

As an adult, I tried to find my clitoris after a friend urged me to explore and pleasure my body. I shaved my vulva and touched around, trying for a few days. I’m glad to have found it.

Shikha, 28, writer


When I preparing for the first period


I was 11 or 12 when I found out about it. I’ve never given much thought to how, so don't remember precisely. But, I think it was while being taught to use a pad.

Soujanya, 26, lawyer

In the course of things…

I discovered my clitoris when I was 13 or 14 years old. In the course of things, you have sensations there, you know. Like, while watching something arousing...

Anju, 26, lawyer

Through swing and sex

I vaguely discovered it very early on, when I was in class five, meaning I was around 10 years old. But, with full consciousness, I discovered my clitoris when I had sex for the first time. I was 18 years old then. As a toddler, I felt a ticklish sensation down there when on a swing, and I touched myself once or twice to get that sensation myself. But, my mother used to teach me that no one but your mother is allowed to touch you down there. So, I assumed what I was doing was wrong and feared mother’s scolding for feeling myself.

Prerna, 27, filmmaker

In the course of my course

I discovered my clitoris when I was 15 or 16 years old. I was a medical student, and I discovered it through my studies as we studied body parts.

Vanshika, 22, trainee doctor

‘twas a good feeling

I was 12 or 13 years old when I discovered my clitoris. My memory about it is a little hazy, but, I had discovered it accidentally during my periods. I remember it to be a good sensation.

Zeba Parvin, 25, tele-calling professional

Laws of attraction

I was in class nine or ten around the time when I discovered my body down there. Around that age, we begin to experience sexual attraction, and along with that, also experience the reactions of those feelings in our own bodies. That’s how I discovered it too.

Prema Kumari, security in-charge

We haven’t met yet

I’ve never been sexually active and I don’t think I have experienced my clitoris.

Aakanksha, 25, school-teacher

*To protect the identity, names have been changed and the person/s in the picture is/are models.

This article was first published on October 8, 2018. 

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