“I think arranged marriages are pretty cool!” says Anushree, a young, hip, single Mumbaikar. Her take on choosing a spouse: “My mom knows what’s best for me.’
But Arpan thinks arranged marriage is actually a big gamble because the couple just don’t know each other. “The girl and boy know better,” says Rishit. “They know their priorities, their likes and dislikes.”
You can look at it like this…
You bump into some random person, get a crush on them, you hold hands, kiss. Maybe have sex. At this lovey-dovey stage, everything about them just seems perfect. So... you agree to spend the rest of your lives together.
Unfortunately it’s easy to fall in love, but a whole lot harder to stay with someone for 50 years and bring up a family. That takes a more solid basis than just moonlight and romance. Sadly, many love marriages end in divorce.
This is actually why many people around the world are turning to online dating or matching. Instead of leaving compatibility to chance, you check out all the person’s details in advance. In fact you arrange your own marriage! Luckily in India we have a pretty neat system to do that already. And a loving mom and dad to help out.
Why should you let your parents make the most important decision of your life? Choose who you have sex with? Choose your babies’ genes?
You know best who you want to be with. A lifetime of happiness is about more than just who has the right background, caste, family, job, bank balance. A marriage is about chemistry. It’s your right to choose the love of your life.
This article was first published on December 8, 2014.
*To protect the identity, names have been changed and the person/s in the picture is/are models.
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