Dear Ruchi puttar, I totally understand. Whether it’s a boy or a girl, when people keep bringing up marriage, even the calmest ones feel their tea boil over!
Now, the question is simple - "When should one get married?" But the answer is like mom’s secret rajma recipe -a bit tangled, a bit close to the heart.
So come, let Aunty explain this to you properly - when to marry, why to marry… and most importantly, whether to marry at all!
What is the right age to marry?
Puttar ji, in our society, people often say things like, “The girl is 25? Get her married now.” Or “The boy is crossing 30? Time to settle down.”
But what they don’t understand is that there’s a difference between the legal age for marriage and the right age to get married.
You see, Ruchi beta, the "right age" isn’t a fixed number. It’s not like school admissions - turn 5 and get enrolled.
Marriage should happen when you are truly ready - emotionally, mentally, and in terms of responsibility.
Yes, the law says that a boy can legally marry at 21 and a girl at 18. But that doesn’t mean one must become a bride or groom as soon as the calendar flips. Because marriage is much more than just a legal checkbox - it’s a lifelong commitment.
What does responsibility really mean?
Now you might be wondering - Aunty Ji keeps going on about “responsibility,” but what does it actually mean?
Well, Ruchi beta, being responsible means:
- You are emotionally mature
- You can make your own life decisions
- You are somewhat settled in your career
- You have some savings of your own
Of course, responsibility looks different for everyone but before tying the knot, one should definitely have clarity on these things.
Should you marry just because everyone else is?
Sometimes it feels like -“Everyone’s getting married, maybe I should too.” But, Ruchi beta, you’re not a mobile phone that needs an upgrade just because others are getting one!
Marriage isn’t a trend -it’s a big life decision. “Everyone’s doing it, so I should too” is not a reason to get married. “I feel ready now” - that’s the real reason.
Look beta, marriage is like a sweet - eat it only after thinking carefully. Otherwise, it can spoil the taste of your entire life.
So here’s your answer in one line - The right age to marry is when you can make the right decision for yourself. Not too early, not too late. Just at the right time, with the right person.
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