© Love Matters | Rita Lino

How do men masturbate?

Many men masturbate. When you masturbate, you hold the penis in your hand or between your fingers and stroke it up and down. You can do this until you have an orgasm. When this happens, you ejaculate semen out of your penis.

Hold your penis in your hand or between your fingers. Stroke your penis in an up and down action. Once you’ve begun to feel aroused, try varying the speed and pressure, until you have an orgasm. 

There are many different ways to masturbate

  • You can try rubbing or stroking up and down over the head of your penis.
  • You can try long or short movements using your whole hand or just two fingers
  • You can use spit or lubricant to make your hand or fingers glide up and down more easily

Circumcised?

If you’re circumcised, you don’t have a foreskin and the head of your penis is always uncovered. Sometimes this makes the head of your penis less sensitive. Using spit or lubricant can make it more slippery when you masturbate. You can also try rubbing under the rim of the penis head to get extra sensation.

Fantasies

While you masturbate you'll probably like to think about things that make you feel turned on. You might think about anything from simply the  clothes you're wearing, to a particular person, to a whole story you find exciting. You might fantasise about things you actually wouldn't want to do at all in real life.

Masturbation myths 

Some say masturbation gives you acne, others say it makes you blind or bald or gives you hairy palms. The list goes on... Well, none of that is true. Masturbation doesn’t make you blind or bald or give you acne. In fact, research has shown that it can help relieve stress, lift your mood up and give you good health.

Although, it isn’t very common, some people get addicted to masturbating. They end up masturbating so often (to be clear, we’re talking a lot of times a day here) it keeps them from dealing with daily tasks. If you’re experiencing something similar, don’t worry because it can be cured like any other form of addiction. Seek help from your gynaecologist. 

Another myth doing the rounds is that men could ‘lose’ all their sperm if they masturbate too often and that could make them impotent. Well, that’s just not true. Because as long as a man has healthy sexual organs, he keeps producing sperm, whether or not he masturbates. 

In fact, for guys who are trying to get a their partner pregnant, it’s actually good to keep the semen flowing! Older sperm that have been hanging around in there for a few days are less likely to be in tip-top condition.

Both single and people who are in relationships masturbate. People who are in relationships masturbate, not because they don’t like having sex with their partners. They masturbate when their partners are not available. Or just because they feel like it and, hey, masturbating is a totally different experience after all. Or because they want to rehearse for the real sex!