Sex during my period – do I need contraception?
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Sex during my period – do I need contraception?

By Auntyji Tuesday, January 7, 2014 - 11:30
I have just started a sexual relationship. My boyfriend lives out of the city and comes over once or twice a month. During that time, I may be having my periods. Is it OK to have sex during periods – like I won’t get pregnant, I hope? And is it actually normal to have sex during periods? Reva, 24 years, Rajasthan

Auntyji says... O beta Reva, Happy New Year beta! I can see you are beginning this New Year with a new kind of hope and it's quite a good New Year's resolution – not to have an unwanted pregnancy.

Now your question is a bit of a tricky one and on the face of it, the answer is no you will not get pregnant if you are having sex during your periods.

BUT…

…a lot of it is dependent on how regular a menstrual cycle you have and how many days you bleed for. So typically, most women have 28- to 32-day cycles, and if someone with this cycle has an average two- to eight-day period, she will probably not get pregnant during her period.

But there is a very remote possibility that you could get pregnant– remote but it exists. This may happen if the woman’s egg gets released at an unusual time and she is near her periods or is already bleeding yet this happens. It is not common but in a freak chance, can happen.

Contraception?

Lekin Reva here is my question to you ji. This boyfriend does come around when you are not menstruating, is it not beta? What contraception do you use then? And what is stopping you from continuing the same during your periods?

I can completely understand the aspect of not wanting to use condoms sometimes – to get what some people call the ‘real feeling’.

During your periods as is there is enough lubrication and wetness and in some women, even the desire for sex is heightened. So I say if you are feeling sexually charged, then if you do use condoms perhaps you won’t miss that ‘real thing experience’ as much as you think, simply put because you are having such a great time anyways!

Safe sex is good sex

Sach to yeh hai beta, that your Aunty is not in favour of unsafe sex – ever. You know it is not just about pregnancy. It’s also about not taking the risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease. So while beta I do get the ‘sexier without a condom’ aspect, I will always urge you young people to keep it safe.

Sex during periods

Now your other question. Is it ‘normal’ to have sex during your period? Yes, it’s fine. If you’re both OK with it, go ahead.

Haan, I will again add, keep it safe. Oral sex is not usually suggested during this phase, just for cleanliness reasons. Also during this phase the mouth of the cervix is a little open so the risk of any infection getting by is higher. Conversely, menstrual blood is rich in bacteria and of course HIV or any STD bug, so men need to watch out too.

Safe and Happy New Year!

Like in every other situation of sex, ensure you both are OK with it – periods or not. Ensure you both want it, and are sure what it signifies for you. Use a towel or extra sheet to the line where ever you are having sex, just to keep things clean.

Now have a happy, healthy and safe new year! 

This wish also comes from Auntyji’s team sitting quietly behind the scenes at Love Matters. They all love and care for you all a lot! Keep in close touch with us, because you know my little sitaaras, love makes the world a better place, haan haan, love and love making! Pyaar karo aur pyaar se pyaar karo.

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aunty g help 1st time sex krne ja raha...or hm doni ko baby ni chahiye...kya kre hm dono safe sex k liye
satwinder singh
Wed, 09/30/2015 - 19:11
2 mahine baad meri shaadi hair, aur hum dono he virgen hai, mujhe thodi boht knowlage hai, par fir b darr lag raha hai kaise karu qya Karu Plz help me someone
Bete Satwinder sabse pehle toh sorry bete late jawab dene ke liye. Just relax zara yeh niche diye huay links detail mein padh lo. Aur phir hum hamesha yaha hai apke liye. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts
Ji, Aashis bete. Yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete apne se umar mein badi mahila ke saath sambadh ke bare mein bahut se log sochtey hain. Lekin apki is soch ke karan kahin aap kisi badi musibat mein na padd jaye isliye zara aap swayum chintan kar leejiye Yeh aap swayum chintan kar leejiye, aur soch leejiye. Jara yeh writup bhi padh lo : https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/turned-on-by-older-women-is-that-normal https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/should-i-sleep-with-my-neighbourhood-bhaabhi Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum

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Vishal bete, sex ke liye dono partners ki barabari ki manzoori ka hona zaroori nahi. Agar unki naa hain toh aap kuchh mat kijiye aur sahi samay aane ka intezaar kijiye jab wo khud sehmati dikhaye sex ke liye. Kyunki kisi bhi rishte mein zabardasti acceptable nahi hai. Inn baton se dhyaan hataiye aur apne rishtey ko aur mazboot banaiye https://lovematters.in/en/news/how-can-i-convince-her-have-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Rohit kumar
Tue, 06/12/2018 - 11:54
Mam maine zindagi main pehli bar sex kiya hai aur wo bhi sirf ek min ka intercorse kiya tha aur wo din uske periods ke bad ek din bad kiya tha ky isme mujhe darr lag rha hain ky aap meri mdt karenge plzzzz
Rohit bete, pehli baar se farq nahi padta. Yaad rakhiye chahe ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua hao, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liye ek shukranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya Phoren kisi visheshagya ya achchhe panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Yadi aapke man mein koi bhee aur sawaal hain aur aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Roshan bete, yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho sakte hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi visheshagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakte hai jiski jaankari aapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ Yadi aapke man mein koi bhee aur sawaal hain aur aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
31march ko period aya tha 5march ko unsafe sex hua to maine unwanted 72 le li aur dobar mujhe 12 April ko period aa gya to mai kya kru koi problem to nahi ho gyi
bête yeh hona toh common hai, is goli ko lene ke baad bleeding ho sakti hai. Aur is goli ko lene ke baad pregnancy ke chances bahut kam ya na ke barabar rah jate hai. Unwanted ek emergency goli hai jo ki unsafe sex ke 72 ghanton ke andar hee lee jaati hai, lekin yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai. PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye. Yaad rakhiye Safe sex ke liye condom ka istemal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bête, yeha padhiye zara: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex https://lovematters.in/hi/birth-control/top-10-facts-about-emergency-contraceptive-pills https://lovematters.in/hi/birth-control/chosing-the-right-birth-control/morning-after-pills-instead-of-condoms-is-that-ok Phir bhi yadi aap aur safe hona chahtey hain to ek Home pregnancy test kar leejiye aur stithi nischit kar leejiye. Kripya aaj ke baad condom ka nirdharit upyog keejiye, apne liye aur apni partner ke liye. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gahri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum

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यदि आप इस मुद्दे पर हमसे और गहरी चर्चा में जुड़ना चाहते हैं या अपनी समस्या हमसे शेयर करना चाहते हैं, तो हमारे फेसबुक और इंस्टाग्राम के इन्बॉक्स में अपनी समस्या लिखें ताकि हम आपको सही सलाह दे सकें-

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