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First date: do’s and don'ts

A first date is special but also nerve-racking - how do you make it the perfect night to remember? It’s so exciting yet gives you butterflies in the tummy! Where should you go, what should you wear, what should you say, what should you avoid saying... Phew!

All these worries could drive you nuts. If you’re headed for your first date with someone, here’s our collection of our do’s and don’ts to help you along. Good luck!


  • Find the right place
    Do your homework on what’s a good place for your first date. Keep in mind that the venue can really set the mood of the date. Keep a balance – think of something that’s not too steamy, but also not too unromantic. The spot should let you both have a comfortable, open conversation.
  • Kill the nerves
    As hard as it may seem, try to keep calm. As soon as you hear your heart racing, pause, and take a few deep breaths. Relax. It’s only a date, not the ultimate test of life. Remember that ultimately, it’s about having fun together.
  • Listen and talk
    Be attentive to your date. Converse. Ask questions. Be curious about their lives. And listen. Turn off your phone and put the rest of your life on hold.
  • Be flirtatious
    Be subtle but don’t hold back from flirting! It’s an important aspect of attraction. If you find them hot, let them know. Compliment them. But all in moderation.




  • Be late Don’t show up late on your first date. Once you’ve fixed up the date and time, look up how long it would take to get to the venue. Count in the traffic and every other factor that could delay you. Don’t give them the slightest chance to think that they’ve been stood up.
  • Lie Don’t be dishonest. Don’t tell them you’re a millionaire if you aren’t. First dates are often a start to something special and lasting. If you lie, you’d lay the wrong foundation and before you know it’s too late to repair.
  • Get too drunk Don’t drink too much on your first date. Too much alcohol can disorient you. You might say and do things that you later regret. Better safe than sorry!
  • Seem too desperate Don’t be too pushy. Read their body language. If you tried holding their hand or kissing and they didn’t respond positively, let it be. Don’t force yourself onto someone. Give them their space and time. Don’t come across as someone desperate to get laid on the first date.

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