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Parents v/s partner: Who would you pick?

Would you feel guilty being in love with your partner, if your parents disapproved of your choice? Love Matters asked some youngsters if they’d dare to pick a side…

‘My parents only have good intentions’

-Mayank Ghosh (23), management trainee.

If my parents were to disapprove of the person I love, I’d most definitely call off the relationship. My parents will never suggest that unless they are 100 percent sure that it won’t work out for me.

I know my parents have always helped me with my choices. Asking someone to break off their relationship is not easy. My parents won’t ask this just out of the blue. The suggestion would be well-thought and reasonable. In fact, they’d even understand that I’ll be heartbroken. I guess it will be difficult for them too.

Having said that if I am very keen to pursue the relationship, my parents wouldn’t come in the way. They’d talk me through it but will definitely not give me a hard time about it.

‘My own decisions and mistakes’

-Sujata Ghosal (24), advertising professional.

What is there to feel guilty about? If I love someone or wish to be with someone, it is my decision. It isn’t like my parents have to spend time with them.

I’m not in such a situation currently but if I were, I don’t think I’d wait for my parents’ approval. Also, I am capable of making my own decisions as well as mistakes.

‘I’d be devastated’

-Bansi Mehta (22), post graduate student.

I’d hate it if my parents weren’t supportive of my relationship. My parents have been an integral part of my life in every walk – be it school, college or career. Relationships are a very big part of our lives. So, if my parents were unhappy with my decision I’d be devastated.

Of course, I’d feel guilty of my relationship. How can I be happy when my parents are unhappy with my decision. I’d obviously try to convince them but I will definitely find it difficult to be in such an arrangement.

‘I’ll never be in such a situation’

-Dipti Sathe (27), dentist.    

I don’t think I’ll ever be in such a situation. I consult my mum for everything from clothes to career. So why not take her opinion to choose my partner? I always go to her for advice and I will definitely go to her when it comes to matters of the heart.

My parents are reasonable and have always taught me to evaluate my choices wisely. I don’t think I’d ever choose a partner they don’t approve of. In fact, it is one of my pre-requisites while choosing a partner. I am the only child and I would like my parents to be involved in all aspects of my life, even after marriage.

What will be your plan of action with your parents? Share your questions with us on our discussion forum or on Facebook.

‘My parents only have good intentions’

-Mayank Ghosh (23), management trainee.

If my parents were to disapprove of the person I love, I’d most definitely call off the relationship. My parents will never suggest that unless they are 100 percent sure that it won’t work out for me.

I know my parents have always helped me with my choices. Asking someone to break off their relationship is not easy. My parents won’t ask this just out of the blue. The suggestion would be well-thought and reasonable. In fact, they’d even understand that I’ll be heartbroken. I guess it will be difficult for them too.

Having said that if I am very keen to pursue the relationship, my parents wouldn’t come in the way. They’d talk me through it but will definitely not give me a hard time about it.

‘My own decisions and mistakes’

-Sujata Ghosal (24), advertising professional.

What is there to feel guilty about? If I love someone or wish to be with someone, it is my decision. It isn’t like my parents have to spend time with them.

I’m not in such a situation currently but if I were, I don’t think I’d wait for my parents’ approval. Also, I am capable of making my own decisions as well as mistakes.

‘I’d be devastated’

-Bansi Mehta (22), post graduate student.

I’d hate it if my parents weren’t supportive of my relationship. My parents have been an integral part of my life in every walk – be it school, college or career. Relationships are a very big part of our lives. So, if my parents were unhappy with my decision I’d be devastated.

Of course, I’d feel guilty of my relationship. How can I be happy when my parents are unhappy with my decision. I’d obviously try to convince them but I will definitely find it difficult to be in such an arrangement.

‘I’ll never be in such a situation’

-Dipti Sathe (27), dentist.    

I don’t think I’ll ever be in such a situation. I consult my mum for everything from clothes to career. So why not take her opinion to choose my partner? I always go to her for advice and I will definitely go to her when it comes to matters of the heart.

My parents are reasonable and have always taught me to evaluate my choices wisely. I don’t think I’d ever choose a partner they don’t approve of. In fact, it is one of my pre-requisites while choosing a partner. I am the only child and I would like my parents to be involved in all aspects of my life, even after marriage.

What will be your plan of action with your parents? Share your questions with us on our discussion forum or on Facebook.

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Nhi agar pyar ke liye maa baap ko chodo ge to wo bhi galat h or maa baap ke liye pyar ko chodo ge to ye bhi galat h ..maa baap se pyar se baat kro or bolo ki mujhe jo ladka ya ladki pasand h mai uske saath happy rahu gi ya rahuga ..agar aap usse sadi kr wa do to thek h nhi to na mai usse pyar kruga ya krugi jisse aap chayte ho or na jisko mai chayta hu ..mai sadi hi nhi krugi ya kruga ...to dhekho maa baap kya bolte h
Apna mat rakhne ke liye dhanyawad bete!! Ye padhiye: https://lovematters.in/en/love-and-relationships/parents-vs-partner-who-would-you-pick Yadi aap kisi bhee mudde par humse gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Priti bete ismein samasya to ho sakti hai!! Isliye koi bhi kadam uthane se pehle - jis mein caste, dharam, age, parents ka virodh jaisee stithi saamne aa rahee ho- apni family aur apne lawyer / vakeel/ local police thaane, aas-paas koi NGO se apne haq aur adhikaron ke baare mein poori jaankari lein. Aapko, hum sab ki ore se - best of luck. https://lovematters.in/hi/marriage/thinking-about-marriage/love-marriages Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Main ek ldake se bhut pyar karti hu pr meri sadi ni ho sakti kuki wo ladka mere ghar ke pass plzz mujh ase me kya krna chaye main bhut peresan hu hr jo mne usse chod diya to wo ladka mr jayega
Anjali bete hum aapki pareshani samajh sakte hain, lekin jis rishte mein caste, dharam, age, parents ka virodh jaisee stithi saamne aa rahee ho- apni family aur apne lawyer / vakeel/ local police thaane, aas-paas koi NGO se apne haq aur adhikaron ke baare mein poori jaankari lein. Yadi koi kadam uthate hain - to uske kya parinaam kya ho sakte hain - sab pooch leejiye aur aapko aur family ko kiss-kiss stithi ke liye tayyar rehna hai - uski poori knowledge le leejiye. Aapko, hum sab ki ore se - best of luck. https://lovematters.in/hi/marriage/thinking-about-marriage/love-marriages Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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