It had been almost 4 years since my marriage but I had not yet become a mother. My husband Aditya and I tried a lot but nothing positive happened. Seeing other children, I always thought, when will I have a child? We tried all the measures that we could.
Like trying all kinds of sex positions, working on every desi nuskhe of my mother-in-law but nothing was happening. Then I felt that I was getting unbearable pain during periods, so I thought of consulting a doctor and told the same to my husband. Aditya took leave from the office and after a few days both of us went to the doctor for a checkup. There some tests were done on me and we came to know that the reports would be available in a day or two, so both of us came back.
PCOS diagnosed
After a few days, I got a call from the hospital saying that my reports were out. Aditya and I went to get the reports, where the doctor told us that I had PCOS - Polycystic Ovary Syndrome, due to which I was having a lot of pain during my periods and I was also having difficulty in conceiving because the size of the cyst had increased. For this, I went through an operation and doctors gave me some advice and medicines. I paid attention to my health for about 6 months and then we both decided to try again for the baby. After months, I was feeling mentally and physically healthy.
After feeling better, Aditya and I tried again for a baby and this time when I saw two lines on the pregnancy kit, my happiness knew no bounds. Yes, I was pregnant. I quickly called Aditya and told him that he was going to be a father and also told my mother-in-law that she was going to be a grandmother.
I was very happy and was trying everything to keep me and my baby healthy but one day when I was working in the kitchen, I suddenly felt something falling from my vagina. When I came into the room and looked, it was blood. My whole body was shaken. It felt like a shiver was spreading throughout my body. I quickly told my mother-in-law and we both reached the doctor, where we came to know that the baby growing in my womb died before coming into this world, which means Miscarriage occurred.
Why did the doctor ask me to get my husband tested as well?
I became very sad and by then Aditya had also reached there. When the doctor saw both of us together, he said, “Meghna, your reports were normal. I cannot understand any reason for the miscarriage because you have become medically fit.” After this, the doctor asked Aditya to get tested, so he agreed. After getting Aditya tested and giving samples, we both came home.
After a few days, Aditya's report also came and we were called to the hospital again. Where it was found that Aditya's sperm quality is poor, due to which there is a problem in pregnancy and there was a miscarriage. It was a little difficult for me to believe because for so long I was blaming myself but somewhere Aditya's test was also necessary, I realized this late. After this, some treatment was done and finally after a lot of difficulties and some complications, I became the mother of a son.
A man's test is just as important as a woman's
During this time, I realized that having a baby is not just my responsibility- my partner is equally responsible. If there is a delay or any problem in having a child, both the woman and the man should get tested. This helps in finding the right solution.
Note: Names and places have been changed to protect identities.
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