Serious relationship or just a hookup - how to find out?
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Serious relationship or just a hookup - how to find out?

Navigating the dating world can be confusing, especially when it comes to determining what the other person is looking for. It can be even more confusing when the relationship starts online, as is the case with Anay and Shalini. While Anay may have been clear about his intentions in the beginning, it can be difficult to decipher if he wants a serious relationship or if he's just looking for a casual hookup.

However, there are a few ways that Shalini can figure out if Anay wants a serious relationship or if he's just looking for a fling.

How they talk to you! 

One of the biggest indicators of whether someone is looking for a serious relationship or just a hookup is their communication style. If Anay is constantly texting or calling Shalini and making an effort to get to know her, it's a good sign that he is interested in a serious relationship. 

On the other hand, if Anay only contacts Shalini late at night or when he wants to hang out, it could be a sign that he is only interested in a casual hookup.

How they treat you

If Anay is always making an effort to take Shalini out on dates, or if he is attentive and considerate towards her needs and wants, it's a sign that he is looking for a serious relationship. Eg: He gets worried when she does not reply when she is sick or if she is having a stressful day - he asks what happened. 

However, if Anay only contacts Shalini when he wants to hang out and doesn't make much of an effort to get to know her, it could indicate that he's just looking for a casual hookup.

Ask them directly 

While it may be uncomfortable, the most straightforward way to determine Anay's intentions is by asking him directly. Shalini can start by asking him what he is looking for in a relationship and if he sees a future with her. This can give Shalini a clear understanding of where Anay stands and if he is looking for a serious relationship or just a hookup.

It's important to remember that everyone's intentions are different and that it's okay to have a casual relationship if that's what both of you are looking for. The most important thing is, to be honest with each other about your expectations and desires.

To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model and names have been changed. 

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Unfortunately, when we are young and foolish 'love' is thrown around freely as a pretext to get into a women's pants and women are too full of foolish gender stereotypes about being forgiving/ accommodating and generally 'feminine' and not noticing or acting decisively enough with regard to the 'obvious signs'.
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