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Parents v/s partner: Who would you pick?

By Sanghamitra Bhowmik Monday, February 22, 2016 - 15:20
Would you feel guilty being in love with your partner, if your parents disapproved of your choice? Love Matters asked some youngsters if they’d dare to pick a side…

‘My parents only have good intentions’

-Mayank Ghosh (23), management trainee.

If my parents were to disapprove of the person I love, I’d most definitely call off the relationship. My parents will never suggest that unless they are 100 percent sure that it won’t work out for me.

I know my parents have always helped me with my choices. Asking someone to break off their relationship is not easy. My parents won’t ask this just out of the blue. The suggestion would be well-thought and reasonable. In fact, they’d even understand that I’ll be heartbroken. I guess it will be difficult for them too.

Having said that if I am very keen to pursue the relationship, my parents wouldn’t come in the way. They’d talk me through it but will definitely not give me a hard time about it.

‘My own decisions and mistakes’

-Sujata Ghosal (24), advertising professional.

What is there to feel guilty about? If I love someone or wish to be with someone, it is my decision. It isn’t like my parents have to spend time with them.

I’m not in such a situation currently but if I were, I don’t think I’d wait for my parents’ approval. Also, I am capable of making my own decisions as well as mistakes.

‘I’d be devastated’

-Bansi Mehta (22), post graduate student.

I’d hate it if my parents weren’t supportive of my relationship. My parents have been an integral part of my life in every walk – be it school, college or career. Relationships are a very big part of our lives. So, if my parents were unhappy with my decision I’d be devastated.

Of course, I’d feel guilty of my relationship. How can I be happy when my parents are unhappy with my decision. I’d obviously try to convince them but I will definitely find it difficult to be in such an arrangement.

‘I’ll never be in such a situation’

-Dipti Sathe (27), dentist.    

I don’t think I’ll ever be in such a situation. I consult my mum for everything from clothes to career. So why not take her opinion to choose my partner? I always go to her for advice and I will definitely go to her when it comes to matters of the heart.

My parents are reasonable and have always taught me to evaluate my choices wisely. I don’t think I’d ever choose a partner they don’t approve of. In fact, it is one of my pre-requisites while choosing a partner. I am the only child and I would like my parents to be involved in all aspects of my life, even after marriage.

What will be your plan of action with your parents? Share your questions with us on our discussion forum or on Facebook.

‘My parents only have good intentions’

-Mayank Ghosh (23), management trainee.

If my parents were to disapprove of the person I love, I’d most definitely call off the relationship. My parents will never suggest that unless they are 100 percent sure that it won’t work out for me.

I know my parents have always helped me with my choices. Asking someone to break off their relationship is not easy. My parents won’t ask this just out of the blue. The suggestion would be well-thought and reasonable. In fact, they’d even understand that I’ll be heartbroken. I guess it will be difficult for them too.

Having said that if I am very keen to pursue the relationship, my parents wouldn’t come in the way. They’d talk me through it but will definitely not give me a hard time about it.

‘My own decisions and mistakes’

-Sujata Ghosal (24), advertising professional.

What is there to feel guilty about? If I love someone or wish to be with someone, it is my decision. It isn’t like my parents have to spend time with them.

I’m not in such a situation currently but if I were, I don’t think I’d wait for my parents’ approval. Also, I am capable of making my own decisions as well as mistakes.

‘I’d be devastated’

-Bansi Mehta (22), post graduate student.

I’d hate it if my parents weren’t supportive of my relationship. My parents have been an integral part of my life in every walk – be it school, college or career. Relationships are a very big part of our lives. So, if my parents were unhappy with my decision I’d be devastated.

Of course, I’d feel guilty of my relationship. How can I be happy when my parents are unhappy with my decision. I’d obviously try to convince them but I will definitely find it difficult to be in such an arrangement.

‘I’ll never be in such a situation’

-Dipti Sathe (27), dentist.    

I don’t think I’ll ever be in such a situation. I consult my mum for everything from clothes to career. So why not take her opinion to choose my partner? I always go to her for advice and I will definitely go to her when it comes to matters of the heart.

My parents are reasonable and have always taught me to evaluate my choices wisely. I don’t think I’d ever choose a partner they don’t approve of. In fact, it is one of my pre-requisites while choosing a partner. I am the only child and I would like my parents to be involved in all aspects of my life, even after marriage.

What will be your plan of action with your parents? Share your questions with us on our discussion forum or on Facebook.

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