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Unsafe sex, missed period: early signs of pregnancy?

By Auntyji Tuesday, February 2, 2016 - 15:56
Auntyji, I had unsafe sex with my boyfriend recently. And he withdrew half a second late. I haven’t got my periods yet. Am I pregnant? I don't know how to check pregnancy at home. I am worried, please help! Rupa (23), Gurgaon.

Auntyji says… The answer is simple, I'm afraid. Yes, you might be pregnant. Missed period + unsafe sex = possibly pregnant! Yes, these are early signs of pregnancy, until you test! 

Unsafe sex or no sex, a delayed period could be because of any random reason. In this case, watch for a few days, take a breather, but otherwise…

Facts first

The first thing you should do after you read this is to run to a chemist. No, wait before you read any further. Call the pappa to be – create a world crisis panic and get him to go to a chemist and ask for the home pregnancy test kit, now! Do you know how to check pregnancy at home? If not, check this article. Do you know what are early signs of pregnancy

What is it that I hear? Squeaks of dissent? Bunged up bro – GO! And it better not be the chemist near your house or your locality. So that the next time you step down for an aspirin he doesn’t give you a familiar look and whisper silently, “Hello bhabhiji, kasie hain aap?” Now read on…

Less is enough

You two thought you were having safe sex? Both of you must have talked about it, right? I am sure you are sexy at it and turned on with it. But in the din of all the excitement, he just missed to withdraw by half a second and you heaved a sigh of relief, lying back in a post coital haze. Long live coitus interruptus.

Well, let me do some interrupts here. Did you say half a second late for withdrawal? Bro, one or two drops of semen can hold thousands of tiny sperm inside them. What if one of them was the smart ass swimmer? First prize to that drop with ovum award!

Joker in the pack

This unfortunate truth equally applies to ‘just let me feel how you feel inside baby’ or ‘just in and out’ please too! Intercourse is not a trip to the ATM, in and out!

Those ‘few glistening drops of fluid’ or even pre-cum often pretend to be just lubrication or a sign of being too excited. However, they too can do the job of sperm carrier.

Tried and tested

So now comes the pregnancy test. Do you know how to check pregnancy at home? Well, wait for ten days before you do it. Hold your heart. ‘Gonadotropin’ (a hormone) in your urine will decide if it’s a yes or no. To be extra careful, use the first urine sample of the morning after a ten day wait.

Read all the instructions on the kit carefully. According to most tests, if one clear line appears, jump with joy. If it’s two – well, no jumping with joy. If it’s one and very light, it indicates you should repeat the test after two days.

This way or that

Let’s say your test results are positive. First, let your boyfriend know. Don’t get on a self-blame trip. You have enough on your plate to handle and the fella has an equal if not more role to play in this. If you did it for his sake, then kick yourself once too! Badi aayee, main tulsi tere aangan ki!

Beta, you are quite young. So both of you think about the decision to be made – are you ready to be pregnant and have a child at 23? Give up all your career and other dreams and raise kids now? If the answer is yes, great, go ahead and figure out the best way ahead with him!

If not, don’t worry. It happens to a lot of women a lot of times. You’re definitely not the only one. Abortion is an option and your right. You need to find a reliable doctor or a clinic and visit it. Don’t let the doctor embarrass you or make you feel uncomfortable.

There are two options – medical and surgical abortion. Consult your doctor on what’s the best for you. Keep in mind that medical termination of pregnancy (MTP) is your right under the law. Ensure that you and the pappa go together. It’s as much his responsibility as yours.

Do not trust anyone but a doctor. No chemist, no good-friend-said, no home remedies – all this can be disastrous – it’s your body after all. Finally, here’s a thought I am leaving you with. ‘Never without a condom! Condoms rule!’

To protect the privacy of the author, the person in the picture is a model. 

Have you ever had an unwanted pregnancy? What did you do? Do you know how to check pregnancy at home? Do you know early signs of pregnancy? Write your queries on our discussion board or comment on Facebook.

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Comments
Sanju Kumari
Tue, 01/30/2018 - 06:15
Hello mam Maine apne boyfriend ke sath first time unsafe sex kiya tha phir agla 4 din bad Mera periods time pr as gya tha bt next month me Avi tk ni aaya . Kya aise me pregnancy ka chance hai . Plz help me
Hello, Sanju bete. Ummm! Yadi unsafe sex ke baad bhee aapkhe periods ho rahe hain toh ismein pregnancy ke chances na ke barabar hai. Phir bhi yadi aap aur safe hona chahtey hain to ek Home pregnancy test kar leejiye aur stithi nischit kar leejiye. Kripya aaj ke baad condom ka nirdharit upyog keejiye, apne liye aur apni partner ke liye. Yaha padho zara: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Ritika jha
Sat, 08/11/2018 - 15:48
10 may ko mai sex ki thi last or 16 ko pridos v aa gaya tha or fir 2 month se nhi aa raha hai to kya pregnt hone ke chance hai
Yadi akhiri periods ke baad koi unsafe sex nahi hau hai toh iske chances nahi hai. Lekin 2 mahine se periods na hona swasth nahi hai. Ek vishehshagya se mill lijiye. Yadi aap iss mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judhna chahte hain toh hamare Discussion Board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho!
I have had sex with my girlfriend more than one month ago.. But till now she didn't get periods....why..?? Tell me... I'm worried
Suman bete if the sex was unsafe, then chances of pregnancy may be there. Take a home pregnancy test at the earliest. Then consult a registered doctor and see what can be done. Also, you can contact FPAI clinic information about which you can get at their website. https://lovematters.in/en/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Kamal Jeet Singh
Sat, 11/23/2019 - 00:27
Hmm 25sall ke he or hmmari girl friend 27sall ki. Uss ki period date 21ki he or hmm ne 16ko sex Kiya but abb next date 22ho gyi usse period nhi Hua, after text ager text positive rhe tbb hmm ki perkar se or kiss medicine se period LA sakkte he. Plz hmm kaffi nervs he hmm jalld answer de
Kamal bete yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Iske liye unsafe sex ke 10 din poore hote hee chemist se liya gaya ek home pregnancy test kit se test lijiye. Phir kisi vishesagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se mill lijiye aur dekhiye kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/home-pregnancy-tests-dos-and-donts https://www.ippf.org/about-us/member-associations/india Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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