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Wedding night sex: do's and don'ts

By Lyandra D'souza Friday, January 2, 2015 - 10:49
No matter how well you know your partner or how little, wedding night sex can still be tense. After the stress of the wedding, you may well feel nervous about the sex – especially if it's your first time. Read on to find out how to cope.

After the stress of the wedding, it's quite likely that the prospect of wedding night sex – especially if it's your first time – is likely to cause you some anxiety and nervousness. Read on to find out how to cope with the pressure.

Do...

  • Feel confidentThere's nothing sexier than confidence. So do whatever you can to make yourself feel as confident, desirable and beautiful as you can. Buy yourself some pretty lingerie, do some extra bridal beauty pampering. You can also set the mood by playing some romantic music. If you feel beautiful and sexy, your spouse is more than likely to agree!
  • Talk to each otherFor first time lovers, it's vital to communicate and share what you’re feeling with each other during sex. It may feel more natural, but it's important to tell your partner how you feel about what they're doing. If you like it, then you could say, "That feels good," or moan a little bit when you like what they're doing.Also, observe your partner's reaction to what you’re doing, and try and do it differently if they seem to be very still and quiet. Sex is supposed to be pleasurable for the both of you.
  • Take things slowlyAll the hype and sly jokes surrounding wedding night sex may make you keen to see what it’s all about and hurry. Instead relax and take it slow. Savour and enjoy every moment. Even if it may not be the best sex ever or meet your expectations, the wedding night is still likely to be amongst your most romantic experiences with your spouse.

Don't...

  • Expect too muchSavour and enjoy every moment. Even if it may not be the best sex ever or meet your expectations, the wedding night is still likely to be amongst your most romantic experiences with your spouse. Whatever happens, it's far more important that you enjoy yourself and feel connected to your partner.
  • Be stuck on the idea of the wedding nightBetween the endless round of relatives you've had to meet, the rituals you've had to go through, the parties you've had to attend and maybe all the alcohol you've had to drink, it is more than understandable if you’re both too tired for lengthy foreplay. If so, it might be better to wait for morning. You'll be more rested, fresher and still in your wedding bed. It’s a shame to waste your special occasion because you have the idea you have to ‘get the job done’ before bedtime!
  • Let the first time impact you too muchSex takes practice and if it's your first time ever, you're likely to feel a bit clumsy. Take things slowly and keep communicating with your partner. Don't focus just on the physical feelings instead be gentle with each other and remind yourself how lucky you are to finally be married and in each other's arms.

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Aunty ji Maine meri girlfriend k saath sex kiya par mai jaldi zad jata hu kay ye timing badhie ja sakati hai iskliye upay bstayie our our penis vegina mai dalane k baad kitni der tak sex chala chaiye Osaka normal timing Kay hai bataey plz plz plz auntyji
kamal sangrur
Thu, 05/22/2014 - 12:16
aunti g kya app mujhe bata sakte hai k agar shadi se pehle sex kiya ho to shadi k badh hubby ko na pta chle iska koi ilaz hai
just forget about ur virginity or her. but start a new life from that day. if u expect her to be good then u have to be gd and true to her. marriage is life time relation and is based only on faith and truth.
Anonymous.
Fri, 07/18/2014 - 17:17
Hii i am here to ask you something..Mai do ladkiyo se pyar karta hu. Wo dono bhi muze bahut chahti he. Infact wo dono ek dusre ki best friend he. Hum tino hamesha sath ghumte he. Even jab hum kuch waisa feel karte he to kissing bhi hoti he wo dono muze bari bari kiss karti he sathme ek dusreko bhi kiss karti he. Aur jab hamare khyal me shadiki bat ati he tab wo dono muzse shadi karna chahti he wo bhi ekhi mondap me. Please meri madat karo samaz nai aa raha kya karu??
Aap maharaja to nahi ke dono se shadi karlege... Then u will choose any one girl... Ek ko hert hoga but thats true... Yaa fir aap dono ko chor ke koy naya decision lo means arrang marriage ka... Sab solve ho jayega... Aapko taklif hogi but samay sab kuch sikha dita he thanku...
shadi sirf sex nahi hota hai b honest with u r partner thn u r life is gud sex gunna hota hai ok mr. Anonymous. u r wrong so I think u choose 1 gud partner for u these type of girls r selfish so dont wast u r time on these girls
i had sex with my partner,after 2-3 days later,c inform me, c getting irritation(itching) in private area,is is because of sex or any thing else.plz suggest me,
hii...muje masturbate krne ki aadat lagi hai..muje 5 saal ho gaye yeh krte hue..jab meri shadi hogi to kya muje sex mein kamzori aur sex ki kami ho jayega
Mene prostitutes se kai baar sex kiya hai aur meri teem girl frnds bhi hain aur teeno ke saath me sex kar chuka hun jinme se do pregnant ho chuki hain bataen me kya karun?
Apnay dar ko apnay mann nikal dijiey kyunki sex karnay may organ ka size nahi sex karnay ka tarika depend karta hai. Aur aap swayem apnay lorgan ka size ko chota bada nahi keh saktey. Is baray may aap yaha padhey http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes
Bete ho sakta hai ki wajah ye ho ki wo sex se santush nhi ho rahi ho yaa aap kewal khud ko santushth karkey so jatay ho jissay unkey mann mey sex kay prati lagav na raha ho unki samsya puchayn unsay aur sex ko boring tarikay ki bajaey or interesting baniey jissay unki dilchaspi ismay aey.
Meri gf sochti hei ki....agar mera sperm uske haat pe laga ho aur unknwnly wo sperm uske organ ko touch ho gaya to wo pregnant ho jayegi....is this possible..?
Mam Meri wife bolte hai ki mujh ko sex mai jada interest nhi hai mujh ko choti choti batho mai jo mann ko acha lagta hai vo sb acha lagta hai.for example unko mrg mai kiss kr k uttana, care krna etc...
Yes this is considered common, but may or not happen in one go or in all women. In fact some women don’t even have a hymen and for some it stays in spite of sexual contact. Read here for more info: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity#section-4
aunty ji meri gf mere sath shadi b krne ko tyar hai par abhi voh study kar rahi hai par mae usse sex ke baare mae baat kaise kru mera true love hai muje chodd na dae agr maine usse sex ke lia bola
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