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Is it ok for women to talk about sex?

By Auntyji Thursday, March 8, 2018 - 11:31
Hi Auntyji, as a woman, don't you feel uncomfortable talking about sex? How and when did you make a start? Preet, 24, Jalandhar.

Auntyji says, ‘Arre beta!! Yeh kyaa yaad dila deeya – you have tugged at my heart strings, you know!’

A few good men and women

Frankly I tell you, Preet beta, I don’t even recall when I began to talk so much about sex. And when your Auntyji went from ‘besharm’ to ‘bindaas’ to ‘badass’! Yes puttar, all these and many more are words of love for your Auntyji. And I am very proud of them.

Hum to mohabbat karega, duniya se nahin darega’! And do you know one thing beta – I was able to do all this ‘sexy’ and taboo work because I had the support of first my father – a man, who was never scared what the duniya and samaj will say about what his daughter does.

And then Auntyji ki woh saheliya, who understood how important it was to talk about sex. Even though many of my pals couldn’t talk about sex in the open themselves, our long night chats on the issue helped. Naughtier the chats, deeper the friendships, yaad rakhna beta!

Yay to sex

Puttar, women’s groups, feminists have claimed many a fight, many a morcha, raised many banners on many issues.  But puttar, have you ever shout out, ‘Yeh girl maange more’, ‘Women love it too’, ‘Sex is on my mind’, ‘A good girl wants good sex’,  ‘Each day – sex day’!

Women and their sexual pleasure have been kept out of conversations about our well-being for far too long now. Talking  about sex is ok and a right women need to claim. And that puttar is your Auntyji’s mudda!

Whitewashed under

Aare beta, traditionally we are a society who has always loved and celebrated sex. Women, men, others were revered as partners to the joyful experience of consensual sex. But talking about sex suddenly became this ‘dirty’ thing – looked down upon.

Talking and asking about sex got an Angrezi whitewash due to which, all conversations around it stopped and went undercover. Yes believe it or not. A lot of the conservatism in our society came with the British Raj. Both men and women forgot how to seek help, information and awareness on this issue. All that was available is fragmented, sensational bits and pieces of information which completely besmirched the whole hearted approach to sex! Aur abhi bhi, we are under that same white wash! Chuna lag gaya beta ji!

Salute to sex!

Beta, talking freely about sex or claiming good, equal and safe sex is no dirty thing. It’s wonderful and intimate and also an assertion of your identity. But beta, there are ethics of sex too! That we all must be aware of. The key is sehmati or consent.

Partners need to agree on the rules that bind them. Everyone ought to be allowed to make their own choices and decisions around sex – when they want it with whom, how many times, where and how! This is for the actors of sex to decide – not anyone else.!  Auntyji offers her support on this always, beta jaan and urges you, let’s fly our flag high. ‘Sex ko Auntyji ka salaam’.

Sing with me, ‘Sex deeyan gallaan, karanage naal naal bey ke, hath vich hath paa kee’... one more time..., ‘sex deeya gallann....’

On International Women’s Day, Love Matters celebrates women’s right to talk about sex. Come join the movement!

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This might be because of the foreskin. If it doesn't go back properly, it can lead to painful sex. Foreskin ought to be easy to pull back softly while bathing for cleaning, But if it bleeds and you face problem while pulling it back consult to doctor. Also this, could well be a cleanliness issue. See a doctor. Take care! https://lovematters.in/en/resource/penis If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, ‘Just Ask’ https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hi auntiji.. im 22 yrs old n my gf 21 yrs old... N we started having sex a year ago. So I was thinking of having anal sex with my gf. Is it safe to have anal sex?
If this works for both of you, go ahead but remember to use condom! There is no possibility to get pregnant through anal sex, don’t worry! But for cleanliness sake it is recommended that you use a condom. Remember that not everyone is interested in anal sex, so if she says no, respect her choice. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, ‘Just Ask’ https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Where did you get this idea from? Perhaps from a chat room or a porn movie? Improve your line of thought. She is already in a relationship. Respect that. Connect with people your own age, around you, in your college. How will your brother react when he gets a whim of what kinda thoughts you have about your bhabhi. How will your parents feel. It's true that a lot of people are attracted to older woman, but some people are off limits!! If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, ‘Just Ask’ https://lovematters.in/en/forum
I want to have sex with my boyfriend whom I love but I am afraid that if our marriage doesn't happen then I will be aksed abusive questions about my virginity. What to do?
The decision to have sex is entirely yours. If you are scared, you don't have to do it to show your 'love'. But you should know the only way one can make out or guess is if the hymen has broken, which can be for any reason actually. No one can know anyhow about your virginity unless you yourself didn’t admit or tell them about it ok? Read more here: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, ‘Just Ask’ https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Arpit bete, bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhi nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Relax! It's not really that uncommon to ejaculate prematurely. Pay attention to your partner's body, understand it. See, the more turned on you are, the more likely you are to ejaculate. In such a situation, it's important to focus on the partner's body and foreplay. Also, you can masturbate before sex at an interval that it takes you to become erect again. Using condoms can also help in prolonging erections. https://lovematters.in/en/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, ‘Just Ask’ https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Relax! It's not really that uncommon to ejaculate prematurely. Pay attention to your partner's body, understand it. See, the more turned on you are, the more likely you are to ejaculate. In such a situation, it's important to focus on the partner's body and foreplay. Also, you can masturbate before sex at an interval that it takes you to become erect again. Using condoms can also help in prolonging erections. https://lovematters.in/en/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, ‘Just Ask’ https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Relax, Virat beta! Jaldi viryapaat hone se koi baat nahin, don’t worry. Toh sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Aur yadi shareer mein uttejna adhik ho, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheegra hi patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. Aisi stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay, yaani bete ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaen karna , jinse dono ko anand mile, apne partner ki uttejna badhana, yeh sab activities sabse zaroori hain. Iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehle jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kum karne mein madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Relax, beta! Jaldi viryapaat hone se koi baat nahin, don’t worry. Toh sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Aur yadi shareer mein uttejna adhik ho, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheegra hi patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. Aisi stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay, yaani bete ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaen karna , jinse dono ko anand mile, apne partner ki uttejna badhana, yeh sab activities sabse zaroori hain. Iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehle jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kum karne mein madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Sahil bete, yadi shareer mein uttejna adhik ho, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheegra hi patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. Aisi stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay, yaani bete ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaen karna , jinse dono ko anand mile, apne partner ki uttejna badhana, yeh sab activities sabse zaroori hain. Iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehle jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kum karne mein madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Konse din hote hain jab mai jaldi pregnant hone ke liye sex kru.. Am 22+ aur mje smoking ki b adat hai... Mere husband ka spermatozoa analysis kraya maine.. Wo I think 40million/microlitre... Aur pregnancy k liye 80 chaiye... Btao mai kya kru... Aur mai kafi healthy hu
Hmmm! Kya aap is bare mein abhi tak kisi doctor se millein hai? Ek visheshagya ya achchhe panjikrit doctor se consult kijiye. Dekho bête yeh keh pana ki kaun kab aur kis din garb dharan kar lega ya falana din mein koi garbh dharan kar leta hai zara mushkil hai kyunki yeh har kisi ke liye alag hai. Iss baare mein aur zyaada detail mein yah padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/pregnancy https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Saath hi jaldi pregnancy ke tips bhi yaha padh lijiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/tips Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Pay attention to your partner's body, understand it. See, the more turned on you are, the more likely you are to ejaculate. In such a situation, it's important to focus on the partner's body and foreplay. Also, you can masturbate before sex at an interval that it takes you to become erect again. Using condoms can also help in prolonging erections. https://lovematters.in/en/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, ‘Just Ask’ https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Aunty ji namaste,aunty ji meri wife k seene m gathan h Dr ko dikhana operation karaya PR kuch khaas fayda nhi hua vo vaapas ho gyi , iski vajha s usko boht pain hota h kamzori aa gayi h ,8 times tofoid b ho chuka h , uske ilaaj k lye kya kru
Lucky bete, please is baare mein ek visheshagya ya achchhe panjikrit doctor se consult kijiye. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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