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How can I get rid of wet dreams?

By Auntyji Tuesday, June 16, 2015 - 09:30
I am very ashamed of myself. I think I am a sex maniac. I keep having nightfalls. Seems like I am thinking of sex even while I am asleep. I am so embarrassed by these wet dreams. Can you help me? Anonymous (19), Meerut.

Auntyji says… Hello dear Anonymous form Meerut! You think by putting your name here everyone in Meerut will call out to you as you walk down the street, “Look out, here comes the sex maniac, here comes bro Swapndosh!”?

Tanked up

So beta, first let me clarify. A bit of the problem is in the name itself. Swapndosh, when translated roughly means fault during dreams or sleep. So you all are raised thinking it’s your “fault” if you have this situation.

The problem – no one bothers to clarify what it actually is. So let me use a common analogy. The body, rather seminal vesicles, are like a water tank. They fill up with semen as a natural course of action. Now, as in any other water tank, if you open the faucet, nalkaa, the water will flow out and keep the tank at a level. If you don’t open the nalkaa, the water tank will overflow.

This overflow is nocturnal emission aka nightfall aka wet dreams aka swapndosh. This is often coupled with thoughts or images of sex. Thus the dosh or fault! No fault in the pipe lines, Sir. All working well, in fact!

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So now comes the other angle. You say, “I am a maniac and keep thinking of sex even during sleep.” “Even” matlab? Matlab all day long all you do is think of sex? Tum aur kuch nahin kartey kyaa? Is this you full-time occupation? College, career, goals, gym, movies... no? Only sex ke khayal?

Oye, wake up! Sex is a wonderful thing but so is a walk in the park. In fact, as you will discover in life sometime, the latter can be even better than the other at times. Beta, one has to do other things in life too na. Jaise ki go to college, study, masturbate, go running, watch a film, hang out with friends and family, go to sabzi market, masturbate.... Something like this, yes?

Now clearly when you go to, say a film, you don’t look at the girl selling popcorn and start fantasising, “Oh selling pop corn yaaaa, want some sexx yaaa...” Nor do you go to buy aalu-pyaaz and think, “Aaha this aunty should also be in my vegetable bag.” Do you? You do? If yes, you are a total jhalla!

Just hi, not high

Beta jee we make dosti first, we make friends and then we enter relationships, why? Because we like that person. We are social, we share, we come close, we learn to love and respect each other and that makes us like the other person. Feelings of sexual desire follow and things take a course.

We don’t see each and every person and say, “Hi I am Anonymous from Meerut, when can we do it?!” Better get ready for a jhaap if you were to try that. Beta ajee, mahila sex ki vastu nahin hai, not an object of sex ... Not an object for anything, get it?

So now, relax on the nocturnal emission. Fear no more. The water works work! Meet girls, hang out, and win them or her over with your charm and intellect! Put your hand out for friendship, for dosti, not any other body part, samjhe?!

To protect the author's privacy, the person in the photo is a model.

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Bete yeh smajh lijiye ki nightfall ya swapndosh bohot hi common baat hain isse na hi koi kamzori aati hai aur na kisi bhi tarah ki koi smasya hoti hai. Aur adhik jankari aap yaha se haaasil kar sakte hain: https://lovematters.in/en/news/wet-dreams-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Avnish bete uttejana hone par ya sex ki bhavana adhik hone par aisa hona bahut hi common hai. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
बेटे स्वप्नदोष होना बहुत सामान्य बात हैं. यह कोई बीमारी नहीं जिसे दूर करना होगा, इससे कोई नुकसान नहीं होगा इसलिए चिंता की कोई बात नहीं. और ज्यादा जानकारी के लिए आप यहाँ पढ़ लीजिए: https://lovematters.in/hi/term/wet-dreams https://lovematters.in/hi/news/wet-dreams-top-five-facts यदि इस मुद्दे पर आप और गहरी चर्चा में जुड़ना चाहते हैं, तो हमारे डिस्कशन बोर्ड, " जस्ट पूछो" में ज़रूर शामिल हों. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Relax Vishnu bete! Sorry hum kisi bhi dawa ke bare mein aapko nahi bata sakte, aur is tarah bina panjikrit doctor ke salah ke kisi bhi dawa ka istemal swasth nahi hota hai. Bas yeh samajh lijiye ki nightfall ya swapndosh bohot hi common baat hain isse na hi koi kamzori aati hai aur na kisi bhi tarah ki koi samasya hoti hai. Aur adhik jankari aap yaha se hasil kar sakte hain: https://lovematters.in/en/news/wet-dreams-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Sandeep beta iske liye kisi panjikrit doctor ya dermatologist se mil lijiye. Yadi aap kisi bhee anya mudde par humse gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
ससी बेटे, स्वप्नदोष होना बहुत सामान्य बात हैं. यह कोई बीमारी नहीं जिसका इलाज मौजूद हो, इससे आपको कोई नुकसान नहीं होगा इसलिए चिंता की कोई बात नहीं. बाकी आप यहाँ पढ़ लो : https://lovematters.in/hi/term/wet-dreams https://lovematters.in/hi/news/wet-dreams-top-five-facts यदि इस मुद्दे पर आप और गहरी चर्चा में जुड़ना चाहते हैं, तो हमारे डिस्कशन बोर्ड, " जस्ट पूछो" में ज़रूर शामिल हों. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
बेटे ये किसी यौन संक्रमण के कारण भी हो सकता है, इसलिए इसके बारे में आप एक पंजीकृत डॉक्टर से मिल लीजिए और उनके सलाह पर अमल कीजिए। इसे भी पढ़िए: https://lovematters.in/hi/safe-sex/stdsstis यदि इस मुद्दे पर आप और गहरी चर्चा में जुड़ना चाहते हैं, तो हमारे डिस्कशन बोर्ड, " जस्ट पूछो" में ज़रूर शामिल हों. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Bete nightfall se sex par koi bura asar nahi hota hai, yeh smajh lijiye ki nightfall ya swapndosh bohot hi common baat hain isse na hi koi kamzori aati hai aur na kisi bhi tarah ki koi smasya hoti hai. Aur adhik jankari aap yaha se haaasil kar sakte hain: https://lovematters.in/en/news/wet-dreams-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete yeh smajh lijiye ki nightfall ya swapndosh bohot hi common baat hain isse na hi koi kamzori aati hai aur na kisi bhi tarah ki koi smasya hoti hai. Aur adhik jankari aap yaha se haaasil kar sakte hain: https://lovematters.in/en/news/wet-dreams-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Naresh Kumar
Sun, 07/24/2022 - 21:41
Main ek Sadi suda hu mere teen bacche hai meri Sadi ko 12saal ho gaye hai pahle main sex roj nahi karta dha lekin ab roj man karta hai or bibi roj sex karti nahi hai ek baar main 1 ganta laga detaa hu or bibi kahtai hai 5 minat karo ji nahi karta hatne ko main kya karu ji batao
Dekhiye bete! Kisi bhi sexual activity mein ek cheez bohot hi important hai woh hai dono logo ki sehmati. Yadi woh is baat ke liye sehmat nahi ho pa rahi hain ya aapko kam time de rahi toh aap bhi force mat kijiye, sex me haan ya naa karna unka adhikar bhi hai, so yadi pyar karte hain toh unki marzi ka samman kijiye. Aur bhi activities hai jo aap try kar sakte hain. Is baare mein yaha padhein: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/meeting-someone/saying-no https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/do-indian-men-not-understand-consent Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna   chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Manish beta bas yeh smajh lijiye ki nightfall ya swapndosh bohot hi common baat hain isse na hi koi kamzori aati hai aur na kisi bhi tarah ki koi smasya hoti hai. Aur adhik jankari aap yaha se haaasil kar sakte hain: https://lovematters.in/en/news/wet-dreams-top-five-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna   chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
बेटे स्वप्नदोष या nightfall बहुत ही सामान्य है ये कोई बीमारी नहीं जिसका इलाज़ या उपाय मौजूद हो इससे आपको कोई नुकसान नहीं होगा इसलिए चिंता मत कीजिये. बाकी आप यहां पढ़ लो: https://lovematters.in/en/news/wet-dreams-top-five-facts यदि इस मुद्दे पर आप और गहरी चर्चा में जुड़ना चाहते हैं, तो हमारे डिस्कशन बोर्ड, " जस्ट पूछो" में ज़रूर शामिल हों. https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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बेटे स्वप्नदोष या nightfall बहुत ही सामान्य है ये कोई बीमारी नहीं, इससे आपको कोई नुकसान नहीं होगा बाकी आप यहां पढ़ लो: https://lovematters.in/en/news/wet-dreams-top-five-facts यदि इस मुद्दे पर आप और गहरी चर्चा में जुड़ना चाहते हैं, तो हमारे डिस्कशन बोर्ड, " जस्ट पूछो" में ज़रूर शामिल हों. https://lovematters.in/en/forum R
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