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Auntyji, what if I'm pregnant?

By Auntyji Tuesday, April 29, 2014 - 10:26
Auntyji, I could be pregnant. I didn't even want to have sex that day, but he was so persistent. I don’t know how it happened. What if it's true? I feel I have some early signs of pregnancy too! My family will kill me and I'll kill myself. Babita (19), Faridabad.

Auntyji says... O meri beti, wait, listen to me for a minute first. Go get yourself a glass of water, chalo!

Facts first 

How do you know you are pregnant? What early signs of pregnancy do you have? You don’t know for sure, hai na? So sabse pehle, let me give you a little bit of information. Do you know how to check or test pregnancy at home? The fear in your tone tells me that you must have found out enough already, but you also sound like you're suffering a panic attack of sorts.

So listen beta, it's very straight forward. Unless your bf discharges inside your vagina i.e. his sperm enters your vagina, you cannot get pregnant. Unless you are ovulating at the same time, that is you are in the middle of your menstrual cycle and an egg has been released which meets the male sperm and fertilisation happens, you cannot get pregnant.

Now is there any of this you can ascertain? Discharge inside? Do you know if you could have been ovulating then? Check!

Test it

Do you know the early signs of pregnancy? Some people may have many, some will have none. So do not reply on them. Let me tell you how to check pregnancy at home. Now the easier way out is to do a test and do it immediately. Ok I can almost see you going blue in the face, but beti this is the only way. How many days have gone past since you had this episode? If it's over 10 days, just run to the chemist – or make your boyfriend do it. Buy a home pregnancy testing kit, it is very easily available and do the test. You will have a clear answer.

Now the fear is, what if it is positive. First, kick your boyfriend's butt! Then, do it again. I am guessing you don't want to go on with this pregnancy which is why I am now suggesting the next steps. Find a very reliable and dependable doctor or clinic and go and seek advice. Immediately.

Take your dear bf with you everywhere you go... he has to be at your side each step of the way. You may not need a surgical abortion and may even be able to get help with the use of medicines. Don’t panic, get your body in order first.

Do you know how to check pregnancy, test at home? If not, read this article. 

Flip-flop

Ab, you did not want it and he insisted. Do you see a bit of a confusion here? You did not want it and yet you went ahead and you did even not insist on safety – a condom either? Yeh kya baat hui beta? You need to reflect on this, don’t you think? That could have been a point of negotiation, no?

Acts of unsafe sex have all sorts of repercussions for both partners, but mainly they act out in the woman’s body, in the woman’s life, as you can clearly see. More commonly the dice are rolled with the odds against her. She really has much more to deal with vis a vis the man.

Getting it his way

Now for Mr. Insistent! Sometimes we don’t even know it but we are giving into some sort of arm twisting, emotional blackmail. So beta... now you decide what you want to do.

I will always say this sort of behaviour is least wanted in any relationship...and you have to decide how you are going to change it, and change it you must. So you have one very zaroori conversation coming up. Don’t shy away from it.

Also, whatever goes on in your body, mind and soul right now is what you are experiencing personally. What is your bf doing meanwhile? Does he see how worried you are, how terrified? Does he realise he is largely responsible for this? Do you realise this, my dear?

In your control

So get on with it now. No need to kill yourself over this – let’s get clarity and take the required action first. Beta, be careful. It's your body, the right over it should be yours.

You don’t feel like sex and yet go ahead... Ok, I guess people do it for love or whatever, but to not even use precaution shows a defencelessness, a lack of control over yourself... Come on Babita, never again. Take charge my girl!

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aunty ji Gud evning mene apni gf k sath sex kiya or 7 ghante baad mene usko unwanted 72 goli khilai pr aaj 6 din ho gye h avi tk use mc nhi huyi h plzz aunty ji m kya kru
Safe sex ke liye condom ka istemaal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bete, Yeh mahila ke masik dharam par asar kar sakti hai. In goliyoun ka laparvaahi se istemaal nahin hona chahiye.yaha padho zara: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Aunty ji me bahut preshan hu mera boy friend bhi kabhi kabhi mere saath jabardasti karta hai aur vo mujhe jadya periods ke dino me sex karta hai jo ki mujhe bilkul pasand nahi hai aap batiye me kiya karu aur use kaise samjahaon aur vahe kabhi kabhi mere undergarments bhi phenta hai aur i metre sanatry kit bhi cherta hai kiya yeah sab sahi hai . Vo hai bahut accha lekin kiya yeah sab normal hai
Sex mein zore zabardasti ki koi bhi gunjaiyesh nahin. yeh bilkul mananeeya nahin. Kisi bhi tareh nahin. rahee baat apke kade pehene ki- yeh kai log pasand artey hain- nisandeh- lekin sirf sex ko aur ruchidaar baane ke liye, as long as dono log is mein razamand hai. Rahee bat aapke sanitary kit ki - yeh definatey anuchit hai - aur ek kism se zara sa ajeeb bhi. Kyaa aapne unse in sab baaton pe charcha kee hai- kya kehna hai unka? beshaq woh ek bahut badhiya vyakti hain, insaan hai- aap dono ki bantee hai- lekin kya woh ek ""boyfreind"" bane ke liye ready hai... yeh aapko zara sochna hoga. Shayed veh bhi apna astitva talash rahe hain... Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
hello aunty ji meri shaadi ko 6 mahine se uper ho gye h or m uske sath continue sex bhi krta hu lekin wo pregnant nhi ho pa rhi h kya karan ho sakta h plsssssssssss tell meeeeeeee
Hmmm! Kya aap is bare mein abhi tak Kisi doctor se mile hai? Ek visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se consult kijiye. Aur Jaldi pregnancy ke tips yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/tips Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
I want to know how many days sperm survive inside a girl body of age 10 years ....will there be any risk of getting pregnant after 2 years
The sperm is alive in a adult woman's body for no longer than 3 - 5 days maximum, if all conditions inside the uterus are conducive. This may not be applicable for a 10 year child, again depending on how he body is developing. Thinking about sex with a 10 year old is just reprehensible, not to mention unlawful. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Period ke DAURAAN? Tab toh pregnant hone ka chance naa ke barabar hota hai beta. Phir bhi kisi bhi risk ya sankraman se bachne ke liye condom ka istemaal anivaarya hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-period https://lovematters.in/hi/news/sex-during-my-period-do-i-need-contraception Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Bete isse Anal sex ya guda methun kehte hai.Yadi dono partners ki poori sehmati hai isse karne mein toh kar sakte hai lekin wo part bohot dry hota hai jiske liye koi chiknaai Jaise ky jelly ka istemaal kiya jaa sakta hai ya chiknaai yukt condom bhi use kar sakte hai, yadi condom ka istemaal kiya jae to koi side effect nahi hai. LEKIN, yeh jaan leejiye ki har koi har kism ke sex ke liye tayaar nahi hota – isme unki marzi honi chahiye. Yadi unhe yeh pasand nahi toh iska matlab hai, NAHI. Samjh Gaye? https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex Ab baat aati hai ki kya isse pregnancy ho sakti hai? Toh nahi isse pregnancy nahi hoti lekin Kyunki guda maithun ka sabse ehem pehlu hai atyant saaf safai rakhe aur dryness naa hone de, dono partners ko iska dhyaan rakhna hoga. Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Dhananjaya
Sun, 07/10/2016 - 06:57
Ma'am hmari gf ka period lagbhag 54 day se nhi aaya hii hmne pregnency KIT se bhi do bar check kr chuke hii pr negetive hota hii bahit paresan hii bolti hi ki khud ko marr lugi aur bahut ku6
Beta pehli baat toh yeh ki apne aap ko maarne se kisi ko kuch nahi milta, kuch haasil nahi hota. Yeh itni badi baat nahi hai.... Iske liye ek ache panjikrit doctor se mil liye aur pata karie ki essa kyu ho raha hai. Be relax and tension mat lijiye. https://www.fpaindia.org/ https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Aunty ji mene apni gf ke sht sex kiya bina condom k par usko uske baad unwanted 72 khila di thi par uske baad bhi uske period nahi hue fir mene mtp kit khila di uske baad sirf ek din hue uske baad ab tk nahi hue me kya karu btaoo pllzzz
Safe sex ke liye condom ka istemaal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bete, Yeh mahila ke masik dharam par asar kar sakti hai. Aur essi stithi mein medical se salha lene ki vajay doctor ki salha leni zaruri hoti hai. Ghar par abortion pill use karna uchit nahi hai isliye iski salha nahi di jaati hai,yeh ek bohot serious matter hai aur isliye isme ek doctor ki salha lena anivarye hai. Ab please aur koi dawai mat dijiye unhe, Ab, Please body ka normal cycle waapis aane deejiye. Periods ko ek system mein aane ka mauka deejiye. Ab koi aur dawa mat leejiye aur yadi sex karein to condom use keejiye. Pyaar kartey hain, to izzat bhi keejiye, unki aur unke shareer ki. All the best. https://www.fpaindia.org/ https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Hi aunty maine apni gf ko fuck kiya period ke 10din baad lekin use ke baad use ka kaafi tabiate kharab ho gya means tb ho gya tha so bhut jaad weeknes ho gya tha lekin abhi bhi period nhi aaya kya wo preganent h or ha prega news me positive so kr rha h kya prega news sahi bataa h...kon sa medicine du
Beta commonly yeh test sahi hote hai aur chahe toh ek ache hospital mein bhi jaach kara sakte hai, apne aap koi davai mat lijiye yeh haani karak ho sakta hai. Jaldi kisi visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar sakte hai. Kisi bharosemand doctor ki rai leejiye aur kisi neem hakeen ya chemist ki baaton mein bilkul mat aa jaaiye Iske alawa aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakte hai jiski jaankari aapko issi website pe mil jayegi. https://www.fpaindia.org/ https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Beta isse safeed paani kehte hai, yeh bohot hi coomon baat hai, essa kai mahilao ko hota hai. Pregnancy ka virginity se koi talluk nahi hai, chahe ladhki virgin ho ya naa ho ya fir safeed paani aaya ya nahi, kyunk pregnant hone ke liye purush ka ek shukranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Isse bachne ke liye condom ka istemaal karna chahiye. Zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/10-most-common-contraception-myths Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Antyy ji Maine apni gf k sath 8 July ko sex kiya without protection uske periods 23 June ko aye the kyaa vo pregnant ho skti h n uske stomach me dard bhi ho rhi h bhut jada uske dard ka koi solution h aur kya vo pregnant ho skti h
Safe sex ke liye condom ka istemaal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bete, Yeh mahila ke masik dharam par asar kar sakti hai. In goliyoun ka laparvaahi se istemaal nahin hona chahiye.Sure hone ke liye unprotected sex ke 10 din baad aap ek home test kar sakte hai. Saath hi kisi visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se bhi mil lijiye aur dard ka karaan pata karie.. https://www.fpaindia.org/ https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
main apne hone wale husband k sath 10 ko sex kiya tha or date mujhe 2 ko ayi thi last month or humne piche sai unsafe sex kiya tha bt waise safe sex kiya tha 12 days upr ho gye h mujhe date ni ayi....plzz suggest me mam
Bete isse Anal sex ya guda methun kehte hai. Kisi bhi yon sankraman se bachne ke liye condom ka istemaal karna chahiye. Ab baat aati hai ki kya isse pregnancy ho sakti hai? Toh nahi isse pregnancy nahi hoti lekin Kyunki guda maithun ka sabse ehem pehlu hai atyant saaf safai rakhe aur dryness naa hone de, dono partners ko iska dhyaan rakhna hoga. Yadi yeh safe sex tha toh isme pregnancy ke chances naa ke barabar hote hai jab tak ki condom mein koi damage yaa leakage naa hui ho.... Essi stithi mein periods ka itna late hona theek nahi, iske liye ek doctor se mil lena theek hoga. Aur sure hone ke liye ek doctor se bhi mil sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Meri gf mc ke samay usne meri penis khaya.aur mujhse control na hone ke bajey se uska moon mein meri sperm chala gaya tha aur usne kha bhi liya tha.. Abhi uske is mehena me mc nhi ho raha hai. Pls bataye na aunty ji abhi kya karoon
Jee nahi isse pregnancy nahi ho sakti. Kuch roz dekhiye aur ek panjirkti doctor se sampark kijiye ek home pregnancy test bhee le lijiye. gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Mere date 3 ko ate h har month Maine apne bf ke sath 14 ko unsafe sex kiya or is month mujhe date ni ayi 14 date hi ho gye h aj kya kru ab me pls suggest
vanshi ab kya sthithi hai please jald ek home pregnancy test le lijiie aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Sonam patel
Sun, 09/25/2016 - 22:16
Mere ultrasonigraphy hui thi or mene ovulation ke time sex kiya kya me pregnant hu jaoge plz help me mere sadee ko 3sal hu gye h abhe tk bachcha nhi hua mene kabhe koi tabelt nhi li or kuch bhe nhi kiya
Sonam please ek home pregnancy test le lijye aur Kya aap is bare mein abhi tak Kisi doctor se millein hai? Ek vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se consult kijiye. Aur Jaldi pregnancy ke tips yaha pahdiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/tips-get-pregnant Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Mam my age ki 18 an my gf age 15 an wo muj se sex karna chati h to msm kya sex karne me koi problem to nhi h or kya uske baby ho shkta h answer please
Bete sandy c suniye 18 saal se kam umar ki mahila ke saath kiya gaya sex chahein woh uski marzi se hee kyun na kiya gaya ho RAPE ki category mein aata hai. Isliye aisi baton ka vichar karne wale viyakti ko netik-anetik baton ka vichar karna chahiye. adi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
smita ojha
Tue, 09/27/2016 - 16:58
Dear Anti,, Mai apne husband relation banaya mera date 17 to 20 sep ko tha but abhi tak nhi aaya hai.. or mann kafi thik bhi nhi lag raha hai womating, chhakar sir me dard ka problem ho raha hai pls suggest
bhavesh solanki
Sun, 10/02/2016 - 15:40
meri gf ko me sex karta hu. our virya uski vagina me nahi dalta hu to vo pregnent nahi ho sakti hena. koi nuksan to nahi hota he na hamare sex ko plzz replay me
Beta Bhavesh, ye ek safe tareeka bilkul nahi hai. Yadd rakhiye chahye ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua hao, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Jo ki unsafe sex ke 10 din ke baad lete hain. Aur yaad rakhein ki iske liye morning urine sample behtar maana jata hai. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
After 10 days aap ek home test kar saktey hain. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
manu yadav
Wed, 02/22/2017 - 15:50
Maine apni bibi ko 72 ghante ki dava khilai thi uske baad uska mahina 7 din me 2 baar aaya 2-2 din ke liye kya mam koi dikkat hai plzzzzz mam btao
Bete manu yadav iska karna emergency pill ho sakti hai isliye emergency pil ke sthan par hamesha condom ke istemal ki salah di jati hai. yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
AWADHESH KUMAR YADAV
Wed, 02/22/2017 - 20:29
mam mera virya uski yoni ke upar silvaar par gir gya hai kya vo pregnent ho skti hai aur mc bhi nhi aa rhi thi mam plzz tell me mai bahut pareshan hun
Jee haan pregnancy ke chances ho sakte hain isliye jald ek home pregnancy test le lijiye. yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Anty, Meri g.f ka period 5 feb ko aya tha or hm log 12 feb ko sex kia tha bina condom ka but mi apna birya hr bar baher chora tha. Pura concentration ke sath or aj 3 march ho gya uska period ni aya, May she pregnent or not? Plyse help me. Thanks
Jee haa bete pregnancy ke chances ho sakte hain. jald ek home pregnancy test le lijiye. Aur haan yeh ek bohot badi mithya hai ki sperm bahar nikalne se garbhdharn nahi hota hai kyunk pregnant hone ke liye ek shukranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/10-most-common-contraception-myths https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/withdrawal yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Mene apne bf k sath mere periods aane ke 3 din pehle sex kiya pr humne sex bhi nhi kiya srf usne andr hi dala tha or wo pura andr bhi nhi gya tha pr uska sperm thoda sa andr ki taraf nikl gya or ab mujhe periods nhi aae to kya isse pregnant ho skte hai plz aap iska answer jrur dena
Pregnant hone ke liye ek shukranu bhi bohot kaafi hota hai. Zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/en/news/10-most-common-contraception-myths Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Aryankhanna89
Fri, 03/24/2017 - 22:14
Auntyji pranam mere se 1 prblm ho gyi h m jb apni gf konkiss kr rha tha tb m seduce ho gya thn maine apne private part ko adjust krne k lye apni pant se hi adjust kia bt msine pant nhi kholi thi bt m kya dekhta hoo ki mri pant pr kch liquid sa tha thn maine apni gf ko fingering kr di kya pregnancy ka koi chance toh nhi h na
Ji nahi, Aryan bete! Pregnant hone ke liye purush ke shukranu ko mahila ki yoni mein jakar dimb ko nishechit karna bohot zaruri hai. jo ki sirf Yoni Maitun ke dwara ho sakta hai. Zara yeh padho. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
AuntyjI kia kisi b Larky sy khabi bhi sex na kia ho pr agr kisi lrky ny kisi kapry sy apni Penis clean ki ho or phr usi kpry sy koi lrki apni wajina clean kry to pregnancy k chances hoty hn plz jldi bta dain
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