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Auntyji, what if I'm pregnant?

By Auntyji Tuesday, April 29, 2014 - 10:26
Auntyji, I could be pregnant. I didn't even want to have sex that day, but he was so persistent. I don’t know how it happened. What if it's true? I feel I have some early signs of pregnancy too! My family will kill me and I'll kill myself. Babita (19), Faridabad.

Auntyji says... O meri beti, wait, listen to me for a minute first. Go get yourself a glass of water, chalo!

Facts first 

How do you know you are pregnant? What early signs of pregnancy do you have? You don’t know for sure, hai na? So sabse pehle, let me give you a little bit of information. Do you know how to check or test pregnancy at home? The fear in your tone tells me that you must have found out enough already, but you also sound like you're suffering a panic attack of sorts.

So listen beta, it's very straight forward. Unless your bf discharges inside your vagina i.e. his sperm enters your vagina, you cannot get pregnant. Unless you are ovulating at the same time, that is you are in the middle of your menstrual cycle and an egg has been released which meets the male sperm and fertilisation happens, you cannot get pregnant.

Now is there any of this you can ascertain? Discharge inside? Do you know if you could have been ovulating then? Check!

Test it

Do you know the early signs of pregnancy? Some people may have many, some will have none. So do not reply on them. Let me tell you how to check pregnancy at home. Now the easier way out is to do a test and do it immediately. Ok I can almost see you going blue in the face, but beti this is the only way. How many days have gone past since you had this episode? If it's over 10 days, just run to the chemist – or make your boyfriend do it. Buy a home pregnancy testing kit, it is very easily available and do the test. You will have a clear answer.

Now the fear is, what if it is positive. First, kick your boyfriend's butt! Then, do it again. I am guessing you don't want to go on with this pregnancy which is why I am now suggesting the next steps. Find a very reliable and dependable doctor or clinic and go and seek advice. Immediately.

Take your dear bf with you everywhere you go... he has to be at your side each step of the way. You may not need a surgical abortion and may even be able to get help with the use of medicines. Don’t panic, get your body in order first.

Do you know how to check pregnancy, test at home? If not, read this article. 

Flip-flop

Ab, you did not want it and he insisted. Do you see a bit of a confusion here? You did not want it and yet you went ahead and you did even not insist on safety – a condom either? Yeh kya baat hui beta? You need to reflect on this, don’t you think? That could have been a point of negotiation, no?

Acts of unsafe sex have all sorts of repercussions for both partners, but mainly they act out in the woman’s body, in the woman’s life, as you can clearly see. More commonly the dice are rolled with the odds against her. She really has much more to deal with vis a vis the man.

Getting it his way

Now for Mr. Insistent! Sometimes we don’t even know it but we are giving into some sort of arm twisting, emotional blackmail. So beta... now you decide what you want to do.

I will always say this sort of behaviour is least wanted in any relationship...and you have to decide how you are going to change it, and change it you must. So you have one very zaroori conversation coming up. Don’t shy away from it.

Also, whatever goes on in your body, mind and soul right now is what you are experiencing personally. What is your bf doing meanwhile? Does he see how worried you are, how terrified? Does he realise he is largely responsible for this? Do you realise this, my dear?

In your control

So get on with it now. No need to kill yourself over this – let’s get clarity and take the required action first. Beta, be careful. It's your body, the right over it should be yours.

You don’t feel like sex and yet go ahead... Ok, I guess people do it for love or whatever, but to not even use precaution shows a defencelessness, a lack of control over yourself... Come on Babita, never again. Take charge my girl!

To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model and names have been changed. 

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Comments
maine period k time apne bf k sath sex kiya hai aur bleeding nii ho rhii thii lekin sex k bad mjhe bleeding huyi kya me is bjh se pragnant ho skti hu
Sandeep 123
Wed, 11/04/2015 - 14:43
auntyji meri gf ka period chal raha tha aur maine sex kiya uske next month usko period nahi aaye kya wo pregnent ho sakti hai
Period ke DAURAAN? Tab toh pregnant hone ka chance na ke barabr hai beta.Phir bhi kisi bhi risk ya sankramn se bachne ke liye condom ka isteaml anivarya hai. So sabse better yeh hoga ki aap kuch roz dekh leejiye aur phir phoren ek doctor ko mill lejiye. https://lovematters.in/en/news/sex-during-your-period-top-facts
Sunny rdx
Sun, 11/29/2015 - 09:17
Aunty meri gf je mera dick choos liya tha .. First ho hum ne oral sex oiya tuen usne zor se choosa or mera nikal gya uske muuh me ... Or vo andar le gyi... Koi problem to nhi hogi na....??
aunty g muje 25 october ko periods hue or maine 29october ko sex kia ab muje periods nhi ho rahe kaya m pregnent ho skti hu pls aunty g m so afraid pls muje koi rasta btao
Bete yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy http://www.fpaindia.org/
Mem mene apni gf ke sath 28oct ko sex kiya 30 ko ipll ki tblet di usko .. meri gf ko 14 ko periode ate he jo ki aj 28 nov ho gya avi tk Preaode nhi hua. Than humne pregnancy test kit liya result positive aya ..mem kuck gharelu upaye btaye ..ya kuch ache doctor btaye jo humari is bat ko samjh sake plzzzzz mem help me
Suno Akhilesh bete in mamlon mein gharelu upyae ka vichar karna bilkul bhee sahi nahi. So suno jaldi kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar saktey hain. Kisi neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Iske alawa aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. http://www.fpaindia.org/
shubh jeet
Wed, 12/02/2015 - 12:38
Hlo aunty ji...maine apni gf ke satb 8 octbr. Ko sex kiya thaaur protection b use kiya par pta nhi condom explosure hua tha syd n i am not cnfrm ki sprm goes inside or not. Uske bad uske periods 27 octbr ko a gye the n phr hmne sex nhi kiya par is month aj 3 dec ho gye aur periods nhi aye .kya wo pregnant ho sakti h.?
Yadi un periods ke baad apne koi unsafe sex nahi kiya toh ismein pregnancy ke chances na ke babar hain. Unke periods ki date kb ki hai? Aap please kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se mill lijiye. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Bete Payal yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy http://www.fpaindia.org/
Auntyji Kya ladki ki backside me sex krne se koi problem to nhi hogi or condom bhi use nhi kre to usse pragnent to nhi hogi sparm bhi under chod de.
Nahi ismein pregnancy ke chances toh nahi hai bete aur isse Anal sex ya guda methun kehte hain.Yadi dono partners ki poori sehmati hai issey karney may to kar saktay hai lekin wo part bohot dry hota hai jiksey liey koi chiknai Jaise KY jelly ka istemal kiya ja sakta hai ya chikanai yukt condom bhi use kar saktay hai, yadi condom ka istemal kiya jaey to koi side effect nahi hai. LEKIN, yeh jaan leejiye ki Har koi hark ism ke sex ke liye tayyar nahin ho jaate – isme donoki marzee honi chhaiye. Yadi unhe yeh pasand nahin toh iska matlab hai ,NAHIN. Samjh Gaye? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex
Hello mam..... mai sneha.. mene apne bf ke sath 3 jan ko sex kiya tha bina kisi protection k... or fir 2 din k baad 5 jan ko periods ho gye..... to mai kya pregnent ho skti hu.....plzzzz.. help me mam.....
Hmmmm! Yadi unsafe sex ke baad bhee periods huay hain toh ismein pregnancy ke chances na ke barabr hain. Lekin aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chatay hai to kisi aur tarikay kay mukabley Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Rohit Kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hee asani se toot saktee hai, jese cycling, horse riding ya khel-kud ke duran. isliye jab tak mahila khud nahi batyegi ki woh pehli baar hi sex kar rahi hain aap is baat ka pata nahi laga saktay. Waise bhi isse koi phark nahin padta, yadi pyaar karte hain toh vishwaas bhi keejiye.. Apnay mann se doubt clear kijiye aur yeh padhiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity
Nahi isse pregnancy nahi hoti lekin Kyunki Mukh maithun ka sabse ehem pehlu hai atyant saaf safai – dono partners keliye, iska dhyaan rakhiye. All the best beta. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0 Yadi aapkisi bhee mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
mam period mera 28 feub ko khatam huaa aur maine 1 march ko unsafe sex apne bf ke sath kiya to kya mai pregnent ho sakti hu???
Bete yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. After 10 days aap ek home test lijiye. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/pregnancy https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aapkisi bhee mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Yadi aap bina kisi protection key ya bina surakhsha ke sex ki soch rahe hai toh shayad aap un dino ki baat kar rahe hain jin mein bachcha rukna mushkil hai. Yeh ho toh sakta hai lekin yeh poori terh se surakshit nahin mana jaata hai. Lekin yadi aap pregancy ke risk se bachna chahte hain toh kisi aur tarike ke mukable condom ka istemal hee easy aur safe tarika hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aapkisi bhee mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Ling ka size badhane ka koi bhi tarika mojjud nahi hai. Aap Ling ke size ki sahi jaankari yahan se hasil karo : https://lovematters.in/en/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes Aur please size par mat jao apna andaaz acha karo unke saath time bithao. Yadi aapkisi bhee mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
bittumali
Thu, 05/26/2016 - 15:09
hi aunti g ,kya bina intercourse kiye pregnancy mumkin h,ya kisi aur karan se ladki pregnant ho sakti h,agar haa to kaise. its very urgent plz rply..
Sex ke 12 din bad home test kiya result negative aya pr month nhi aya fir ek mahine bad fir test kiya negative aya or month nhi aya kya wjha h plzz answer me
Isme itna dar nahi beta… period late bhi ho jaate hai. Toh sabse better yeh hoga ki aap kuch roz dekh leejiye aur phir foran ek doctor ko mil leejiye. . https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-period Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Hlo .i want to ask somthing that..maine in october me bf ke sath physikl relasn bnaya tha .or uske 1 month bad mere period bhi aaye the .lekin ab 3 month se mere periods nhi aaye ..isme pregant hone ke chances ho skte h kya ..plz jldi reply krna ..i am so scred becze my bf is not with me and he wil not take my responsibilty at that time
Agar pregnancy test unsafe sex ke 7 din baad liya tha aur uske baad unsafe sex nahi kiya hai toh test result ko final samajh sakte hai. Aur period ka itna late hona theek nahi hai toh kisi visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se milo. Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Bete jsh, yadi yeh bleeding aksar ya lagtaar ho rahee hai ya durd ki samsya hai toh yeh samsya waali baat ho sakti hai jiske liye ek visehgya ya panjirkit doctor se mill lena zaruri hai. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Period ke DAURAAN? Tab toh pregnant hone ka chance naa ke barabar hota hai beta. Phir bhi kisi bhi risk ya sankraman se bachne ke liye condom ka istemaal anivaarya hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-period https://lovematters.in/hi/news/sex-during-my-period-do-i-need-contraception Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Ji haan bilkul! Yeh ek bohot badi mithya hai ki sperm bahar nikalne se garbhdharan nahi hota hai kyunk pregnant hone ke liye ek shukranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Isse bachne ke liye condom ka istemaal karna chahiye. Zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/10-most-common-contraception-myths Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Hello mam mujhe tym se period ni aate h. Maine apne bf ke sath sex kiya.pr maine pragancy test bi kiya usme kuch ni aaya. Mujhe bhut tension ho ri h.mujhe feb se period ni huye h. 4 mhine hone wale h kuch upay btaye jisse meri period problm dur ho jaye.
Itna late tak perids ka naa hona toh apne aap mein ek problem ho sakti hai! Lekin yadi isse pehle koi unsafe sex hua hai toh ek pregnancy test lena uchit hai. Saath hi kisi visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se bhi jaldi mil lijiye. Aap ki stithi dekhte hue please ek doctor se jaldi hi mille. Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
aakash1111
Tue, 05/31/2016 - 16:36
Aunty ji mne period khtam hone ke do din bad apni gf se sex kia by condom kisi wajah se fat gaya or thoda sa virya andar chala gaya ...usi sham.ko.mne apni gf ko unwanted 72 bhi de di thi...kya ab wo pregnent ho skti h
Safe sex ke liye condom ka istemaal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bete, Yeh mahila ke masik dharam par asar kar sakti hai. In goliyoun ka laparvaahi se istemaal nahin hona chahiye. Aur jaha tak pregnancy ki baat hai essa hota toh nahi hai magar sure hone ke liye ek home pregnancy test lele, adhik jaankari ke liye yaha padhe: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex https://lovematters.in/hi/news/10-most-common-contraception-myths https://lovematters.in/en/comment/226976#comment-226976 Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Kya aapka matlab hai ki aapne jab sex kiya tha toh unhe periods thee? Agar haan toh toh pregnant hone ka chance naa ke barabar hota hai beta. Phir bhi kisi bhi risk ya sankraman se bachne ke liye condom ka istemaal anivaarya hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-period https://lovematters.in/hi/news/sex-during-my-period-do-i-need-contraception Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
yll mene gf k stg sex kiya tha uske bad unwanted 72 di thi but uske 15 din bad test kiya 2 bar bo nagtive h but uska mc miss ho gya kya karu plzzz tell me
Safe sex ke liye condom ka istemaal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bete, yaha padho zara: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex ECP ka istemaal sirf emergencys mein hona chaiye. Yeh mahila ke masik dharam par asar kar sakti hai. In goliyoun ka laparvaahi se istemaal nahin hona chahiye. Ab aur davaiya naa lijiye aur cycle ke theek hone ka intezaar kijiye aur aap chahe toh ek doctor se bhi salha le sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/menstrual-cycle https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex https://www.fpaindia.org/ Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
mam mere gf ko 26 ko mc aani thi but ni aayi mine 28 ko sex kiya without protection or ab tak mc nahi aayi h mhuje dar lag raha h kya vo pregnant ho gyi or hum mil be nahi sakte hum kya kare plz help us plz
Beta agar aap pichale mahine ki baat kar rahe hai toh yeh bilkul possible hai ki wo pregnant ho. Isliye jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lakar check kar lijiye. Phir kisi visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske ilava aap FPAI clinic se bhi sampark kar sakte hai jiski jaankari aapko issi website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Ritesh Gautam
Thu, 06/02/2016 - 12:28
Aunty ji mene apni wife k saaath prtection k saath sex kiya tha bt meri wife k 1 month n 5 days ho gye hai or abhi tk periods ni huye h use. To kya meri wife pregnent hai.... plz aunty g tell me
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