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Auntyji, what if I'm pregnant?

By Auntyji Tuesday, April 29, 2014 - 10:26
Auntyji, I could be pregnant. I didn't even want to have sex that day, but he was so persistent. I don’t know how it happened. What if it's true? I feel I have some early signs of pregnancy too! My family will kill me and I'll kill myself. Babita (19), Faridabad.

Auntyji says... O meri beti, wait, listen to me for a minute first. Go get yourself a glass of water, chalo!

Facts first 

How do you know you are pregnant? What early signs of pregnancy do you have? You don’t know for sure, hai na? So sabse pehle, let me give you a little bit of information. Do you know how to check or test pregnancy at home? The fear in your tone tells me that you must have found out enough already, but you also sound like you're suffering a panic attack of sorts.

So listen beta, it's very straight forward. Unless your bf discharges inside your vagina i.e. his sperm enters your vagina, you cannot get pregnant. Unless you are ovulating at the same time, that is you are in the middle of your menstrual cycle and an egg has been released which meets the male sperm and fertilisation happens, you cannot get pregnant.

Now is there any of this you can ascertain? Discharge inside? Do you know if you could have been ovulating then? Check!

Test it

Do you know the early signs of pregnancy? Some people may have many, some will have none. So do not reply on them. Let me tell you how to check pregnancy at home. Now the easier way out is to do a test and do it immediately. Ok I can almost see you going blue in the face, but beti this is the only way. How many days have gone past since you had this episode? If it's over 10 days, just run to the chemist – or make your boyfriend do it. Buy a home pregnancy testing kit, it is very easily available and do the test. You will have a clear answer.

Now the fear is, what if it is positive. First, kick your boyfriend's butt! Then, do it again. I am guessing you don't want to go on with this pregnancy which is why I am now suggesting the next steps. Find a very reliable and dependable doctor or clinic and go and seek advice. Immediately.

Take your dear bf with you everywhere you go... he has to be at your side each step of the way. You may not need a surgical abortion and may even be able to get help with the use of medicines. Don’t panic, get your body in order first.

Do you know how to check pregnancy, test at home? If not, read this article. 

Flip-flop

Ab, you did not want it and he insisted. Do you see a bit of a confusion here? You did not want it and yet you went ahead and you did even not insist on safety – a condom either? Yeh kya baat hui beta? You need to reflect on this, don’t you think? That could have been a point of negotiation, no?

Acts of unsafe sex have all sorts of repercussions for both partners, but mainly they act out in the woman’s body, in the woman’s life, as you can clearly see. More commonly the dice are rolled with the odds against her. She really has much more to deal with vis a vis the man.

Getting it his way

Now for Mr. Insistent! Sometimes we don’t even know it but we are giving into some sort of arm twisting, emotional blackmail. So beta... now you decide what you want to do.

I will always say this sort of behaviour is least wanted in any relationship...and you have to decide how you are going to change it, and change it you must. So you have one very zaroori conversation coming up. Don’t shy away from it.

Also, whatever goes on in your body, mind and soul right now is what you are experiencing personally. What is your bf doing meanwhile? Does he see how worried you are, how terrified? Does he realise he is largely responsible for this? Do you realise this, my dear?

In your control

So get on with it now. No need to kill yourself over this – let’s get clarity and take the required action first. Beta, be careful. It's your body, the right over it should be yours.

You don’t feel like sex and yet go ahead... Ok, I guess people do it for love or whatever, but to not even use precaution shows a defencelessness, a lack of control over yourself... Come on Babita, never again. Take charge my girl!

To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model and names have been changed. 

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Aunti ji meri prolum je hai ki meri shadi ko 3year ho gye hai or mai pregnent hona chhate hu mai kya kru pregnant nhi ho paa rhi mere period irrugular hai kya krimson35 lene k baad mai pregnant ho skti hu plz plz help me.
Bete Suman yeh keh pana Ki kaun kab aur kiss din garb dharan kar leyga ya falana din mein koi garbh dharn kar leta hai zara mushkil hai kyunki yeh Har kisi ke liye alag hai. is baaray mein aur jyada detail mein yah padhiye saath hi jaldi pregnancy ke tips bhi yaha padh lijiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/tips http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/pregnancy
Ghar par swayam abortion karne ka vichar woh bhee gharelu upayon se bilkul galat hai. Yeh mahila ke swasth ke liye bohot ghatak sidd ho sakta hai. Iske liye kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milna hee uchit hai. Iske alawa aap FPAI clinkc se bhee sampark kar saktye hain. Jiski jaankari apko iski website par mill jayegi. Zara niche diye huay link par nazar daliye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://lovematters.in/hi/news/abortion-myths-busted http://www.fpaindia.org/
Ji nahi bete! Pregnant hone ke liye purush ke shukranu ko mahila ki yoni mein jakar dimb ko nishechit karna bohot zaruri hai. jo ki sirf Yoni Maitun ke dwara ho sakta hai. Zara yeh padho. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Aunty ji meri shadi ko 4 saal ho gaye hai 2 saal pehle pe pregnant hui bat us time mene dawai kha li or bache ko gira diya uskedab may 2015 me me pregnant hui par 15 din me hi babby ir gaya uske bad mere perides normaly ate rahe but ek dum se hi mere period late ho gaye hai ye normal hai na isse mere pregnant hone me koi pareshani to nhi ho sakti na plzz baatye
aunty ji mra sawal ye h ki maine or mre bf ne bina condom k sex kia ek din phle bt usne sperms bhr hi nikal.diye te or mjhe last periods 29ko huye te to kya mai pregnant to nh hongi?? plz plz m in so stress plz suggest me
Bete Preeti yeh ek bohot badi mithya hai ki sperm bahar nikalne se garbhdharn nahi hota hai kyunk pregnant hone ke liye ek shukranu bhi bohot kaafi hota hai. Zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/10-most-common-contraception-myths After 10 days aap ek home test kar saktey hain. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok?
Hello aunti jiii. Aunti mai 20 years ka hu lekin maine aj tk sex nahi kya lekin hasthmusthen krta huu aunti mai bht hi jaldi dischrge ho jata hu aisa kyun hai?
Yeh koi problem nahin hai…its very common. Sex ki bhavna yadi adhik ho to yeh hona bahut hee samanya hai. Aur Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Aunti ji maine ah tk sex ni kia mai bht jaldi dischrge ho jata hu agar mai kisi ladki k sath sex krungaa to kia mai jb bhi bht jaldi dischrge ho jaunga?
Aunti mai or merii mummi ki bua ki ladki shaadi krna chahte h to kia agar hm court marriage kre to Ye kanoonan legal hai Ya nahii?.
Gorav rana
Wed, 08/26/2015 - 10:10
Mam, Meri age 21 year or meri G.f ki age 20 year hai.. hamne last month sex kiya tha vo bhi condam ka use kr k.. hm dono ne 1st time sex kiya tha to blood niklne laga tha..but ab uske period nahi ho pa rhe hai.. plzz mam help me. m bhout preshan hu.. smjh nahi aara k kya kru
pranaam aunty ji.. last month periods 21 se start huye the ar 23 24 date me gf k sath bina condom sex kiya tha but discharge andar nahi kiya tha.. ar fir usne unwanted 72 khayi thi next day. uske last month to 21 ko periods start huye the but is baar nahi start huye.. bht tension me hu aunty ji plzz kuch bataiye dar lag raha h..
Bete yeh ek bohot badi mithya hai ki sperm bahar nikalne se garbhdharn nahi hota hai kyunk pregnant hone ke liye ek shukranu bhi bohot kaafi hota hai. Zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/10-most-common-contraception-myths Bete yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy http://www.fpaindia.org/
Ankush Sharma
Thu, 09/24/2015 - 10:19
Auntyji, Mai or meri gf abhi sex nhi chahte aur wo virgin bhi hai but forepaly me maine thode excitement mai maine uski vagina me penis rub kia tha aur apne penis ka agla bhaag(glans) thoda sa insert kia tha aur tbhi nikal lia tha lekin ejaculate nhi kia tha aur maine use fingering bhi ki thi but krne se pehle apne penis glans ko bhi touch kia tha , kya pre-ejaculatory fluid se meri gf pregnant ho skti hai ? hume ab is baat se bhot tension ho rhi hai ki kahi wo pregnant na ho jaye..Please Help !!
Virginity ka pregnant hone ki possibility se koi lena dena nahin. Yadi andar skhalan na ho aap pregnant nahin ho sakti. Yadi ek bhi boond andar pad jaye, so aap ho saktee hain. Bas. After 10 days aap ek home test kar saktey hain. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Mam maine apni gf k sath sex kiya fir agle din use unwanted 72 ki goli di fir.hme sex krne ka mouka mil gya aur goli khane k 1hour baad fir humne sex kiya bina condom k mujhe dsr hai khi wo pregnent na ho jaye plz aap btaye koi dikkat to nhi hai na.
pranaam aunty ji.. jaesa ki maene aapko bataya tha ki last month periods 21 se start huye the ar 23 24 date me gf k sath bina condom sex kiya tha but discharge andar nahi kiya tha.. ar fir usne unwanted 72 khayi thi next day. uske baad 6 ko bhi periods huye h usko ek din fir nahi huye.. to ab periods use 21 k according honga ya 6 k according kynki ab tk hua nahi h plz help kariye plzzzzz...
Aunty ji namstey Aunty ji mera sawal ye h k m.apny pati ka cook muhn m ly kr chos skti hn plz aunty rlp
Bete isse oral sex kehte hain jisse karnay mein koi samsya nahi maslan saaf-safai ka poora dhyan rakha gaya ho aur ismay dono partners ki barab marzi shamil ho toh! aur behtar hoga yadi condom ka isteml kiya jaey aur yaha padh lijiey : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0
Mam meri shadi ko huye 5 shal ho gya or mai ab tk pregnent nhi hue hu meri masik v 2 or 3 din tk hi rhta mai kya kru koe upay btaey plzzzz
Dekho bete! Sahi - Galat ka nirnay, sirf hum khud hee le saktey hain.,Aur koi nahin kar sakta humare liye. Isliye apki is soch ke karan kahin aap kisi badi musibat mein na padd jaye isliye zara aap svyum chintan kar leejiye, aur soch leejiye. Jara yeh writup bhi padh lo: http://lovematters.in/hi/news/should-i-try-sex-older- woman Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Ji nahi bete! Pregnant hone ke liye purush ke shukranu ko mahila ki yoni mein jakar dimb ko nishechit karna bohot zaruri hai. jo ki sirf Yoni Maitun ke dwara ho sakta hai. Zara yeh padho. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
ankit sharma
Fri, 10/16/2015 - 02:19
aunty ji meri problrm ye hai k mai or meri gf physical relationship m hai bht time se. or mai hmesha protection use krta hu.but last time mera mn widout protection k intercourse krne ka tha...to mene only one time h penis insert kiya tha without condom k fir condom use kiya...gf ko mc nhi hui h usko last mc 15 sep ko hui thi..qa wo pregnent ho gyi hai...please koi solution bataye...im very scared for her
Jee haan ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy http://www.fpaindia.org/
Uffff! Suniye zara Bachha ladka hoga ya ladki yeh nirdharit karne ka koi bhi tarika nahi hai. Aur na hi BETA peda karne ka samjhe? Aur waise bhi bachha ladka ho ya ladki bus swasth hona chhaiye. Zara apna chintan swasth kijiye! Shayed aap yeh bhi jaantey hon ki bachcha ladka hoga ya ladki yeh kewal mardon ke shukranu hee tay kartey hain, ki un mein X chromosome hai ya Y. https://lovematters.in/en/comment/94271#comment-94271
Hmm! Ab kya sthiti hai? Please ek visheshagya ya panjikit doctor se mll lijiye. Lekin bete Pregnant hone ke liye purush ke shukranu ko mahila ki yoni mein jakar dimb ko nishechit karna bohot zaruri hai. jo ki sirf Yoni Maitun ke dwara ho sakta hai. Zara yeh padho. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
Hmmm! Bete Anamika kya aapne first periods ke baad koi unsafe sex kiya tha? Yadi haan toh ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Bete pregnancy ke liye ek shukranu bhee bohot kaafi hai. After 10 days aap ek home test kar saktey hain. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility
So sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Aur yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik hee hogee. aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , yaani bête ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activitys sabse zaroori hain. iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge mein help karta hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
Ohhh! aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi . Iske illava ,Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se mililye. All the best http://www.fpaindia.org/
Hello aunty mne apne hone wle husband k sth sex kiya but problm ye h mne phle hi kai br fingrng kiya h or ab usko lgta h mne phle se kisi k sth sex kiya h m usko kya smjau kuch smj ni a RHA h plzzz help me
Bete Puja! Unhe yeh samjahiye ki Kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hee asani se toot saktee hai, jese cycling, horse riding ya khel-kud ke duran. Lekin pyar ka sabse eham pehlu hai vishwash aur unhe woh rakhna chahiye apne mann mein, Aur apne rishte ko majbut banana chahiye. Unke doubt clear kijiye aur saath mein yeh padhiye : http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity
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