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Auntyji, what if I'm pregnant?

By Auntyji Tuesday, April 29, 2014 - 10:26
Auntyji, I could be pregnant. I didn't even want to have sex that day, but he was so persistent. I don’t know how it happened. What if it's true? I feel I have some early signs of pregnancy too! My family will kill me and I'll kill myself. Babita (19), Faridabad.

Auntyji says... O meri beti, wait, listen to me for a minute first. Go get yourself a glass of water, chalo!

Facts first 

How do you know you are pregnant? What early signs of pregnancy do you have? You don’t know for sure, hai na? So sabse pehle, let me give you a little bit of information. Do you know how to check or test pregnancy at home? The fear in your tone tells me that you must have found out enough already, but you also sound like you're suffering a panic attack of sorts.

So listen beta, it's very straight forward. Unless your bf discharges inside your vagina i.e. his sperm enters your vagina, you cannot get pregnant. Unless you are ovulating at the same time, that is you are in the middle of your menstrual cycle and an egg has been released which meets the male sperm and fertilisation happens, you cannot get pregnant.

Now is there any of this you can ascertain? Discharge inside? Do you know if you could have been ovulating then? Check!

Test it

Do you know the early signs of pregnancy? Some people may have many, some will have none. So do not reply on them. Let me tell you how to check pregnancy at home. Now the easier way out is to do a test and do it immediately. Ok I can almost see you going blue in the face, but beti this is the only way. How many days have gone past since you had this episode? If it's over 10 days, just run to the chemist – or make your boyfriend do it. Buy a home pregnancy testing kit, it is very easily available and do the test. You will have a clear answer.

Now the fear is, what if it is positive. First, kick your boyfriend's butt! Then, do it again. I am guessing you don't want to go on with this pregnancy which is why I am now suggesting the next steps. Find a very reliable and dependable doctor or clinic and go and seek advice. Immediately.

Take your dear bf with you everywhere you go... he has to be at your side each step of the way. You may not need a surgical abortion and may even be able to get help with the use of medicines. Don’t panic, get your body in order first.

Do you know how to check pregnancy, test at home? If not, read this article. 

Flip-flop

Ab, you did not want it and he insisted. Do you see a bit of a confusion here? You did not want it and yet you went ahead and you did even not insist on safety – a condom either? Yeh kya baat hui beta? You need to reflect on this, don’t you think? That could have been a point of negotiation, no?

Acts of unsafe sex have all sorts of repercussions for both partners, but mainly they act out in the woman’s body, in the woman’s life, as you can clearly see. More commonly the dice are rolled with the odds against her. She really has much more to deal with vis a vis the man.

Getting it his way

Now for Mr. Insistent! Sometimes we don’t even know it but we are giving into some sort of arm twisting, emotional blackmail. So beta... now you decide what you want to do.

I will always say this sort of behaviour is least wanted in any relationship...and you have to decide how you are going to change it, and change it you must. So you have one very zaroori conversation coming up. Don’t shy away from it.

Also, whatever goes on in your body, mind and soul right now is what you are experiencing personally. What is your bf doing meanwhile? Does he see how worried you are, how terrified? Does he realise he is largely responsible for this? Do you realise this, my dear?

In your control

So get on with it now. No need to kill yourself over this – let’s get clarity and take the required action first. Beta, be careful. It's your body, the right over it should be yours.

You don’t feel like sex and yet go ahead... Ok, I guess people do it for love or whatever, but to not even use precaution shows a defencelessness, a lack of control over yourself... Come on Babita, never again. Take charge my girl!

To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model and names have been changed. 

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Na ke barabar chances hain Jia beta. Phir bhi aur zyada sure hone ke liye - taaki aap dono relax ho sakein - aap is kriya ke 10 din baad yek home pregnancy test bhi kar lejiye - baat saaf ho jaayegee. But ye yaad rakhiye ki hygiene ki drashti se ye bilkul sahi nahi maana ja sakta. Isse yaun sankraman ke chances ho sakte hain. Yeh link padh leejiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Nitinsg38
Sat, 05/13/2017 - 15:04
Aunty ji....meri gf ke periods aane wale the or maine ek din pahle sex kiya....or uske periods ni aaye.....har mahine ki 1 tarik ko uska period time ha.....pr uske periods abi tk ni aaye plz tell me hm kya kre
Bete yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Madam Maine apni gf ko phichhe se sex kiya tha but undar nhigya tha us din 1 day tha period ka but av tak uska period nhi aaya ha period time hai 22 kyo meri gf pregnant hai Plz reply me immediately
Kya aap anal sex yaani guda maithun ki baat kar rahe hain? Isme itna dar nahin beta… period late bhi ho jaatye hain.. toh sabse better yeh hoga ki aap kuch roz dekh lijiye aur phir phoren ek doctor ko mil lijiye. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
aunty ji m apni gf se milne gya to hm kiss vgrh kr rhe the to mere sprm nikl gya to maine us sperm ko hath lgaa diya or usi se fingering krdi kya wo prgnt ho skti h plzzzz help me
Suniye Please. Jaldi se kisi visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se miliye aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar sakte hai, kisi bhi clinic mein.Kisi bharosemand doctor ki rai leejiye aur kisi neem hakeen ya chemist ki baaton mein bilkul mat aa jaaiye – DOCTOR ONLY. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Iske alawa aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakte hai jiski jaankari aapko issi website pe mil jayegi. https://www.fpaindia.org Time mat gavaiye, jaldi keejie. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Yaad rakhiye chahe ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua hao, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Suniye Please. Jaldi se kisi visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se miliye aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar sakte hai, kisi bhi clinic mein.Kisi bharosemand doctor ki rai leejiye aur kisi neem hakeen ya chemist ki baaton mein bilkul mat aa jaaiye – DOCTOR ONLY. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Iske alawa aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakte hai jiski jaankari aapko issi website pe mil jayegi. https://www.fpaindia.org Time mat gavaiye, jaldi keejie. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Arvindddddddddvvvv
Tue, 06/20/2017 - 11:06
Meri gf ka period ka last day tha to maine raat ko 1 bje sex kiya or usko raat me blood bhi aaye kya wo pregnant ho sakti hai...
Period ke DAURAAN? Tab toh pregnant hone ka chance na ke barabar hai, Arvind beta. Phir bhi aur zyada sure hone ke liye - taaki aap dono relax ho sakein - aap is kriya ke 10 din baad yek home pregnancy test bhi kar lejiye - baat saaf ho jaayegee. Yeh link padh leejiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Lavi Arora
Sun, 06/25/2017 - 02:21
Anty ji kiya halka sa sprm ander jane s bhi pragnent ho sakte h kiya mene sab bahar dala tha lekin mera halka gila tha to usme kush ho sakta h kiya plezzzz btaeye m bhut pareshan hu
Lavi beta, yaad rakhiye chahe ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua hao, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
rohan kumar shaw
Sat, 07/01/2017 - 01:21
aunti ji. maine apni gf ke sath sex try kiya. wo pure virgin thi maine bas thora sa penis uske vagina me dala. sayad thora sa sperm gir gaya. maine penis pura nahi dala tha andar. kya wo pregnent ho sakti h?
Rohan beta, yaad rakhiye chahe ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua hao, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
arunmehra
Sat, 07/08/2017 - 12:53
Untey mein apne gf sath sex kiya fist time to mein mal bech mein he gera deya to upar sa uske date bhi upar ho gye thii or abhi date bhi mhi aye thii to meina sex kr deya or ander he kr deya bina condam ka to kya boh pragnte ho dakte ha kya jaldi btya abhi 3 din ha aaj kiya hoye mojhe
Arun bete, yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho sakte hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Yaad rakhiye chahe ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua hao, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liye ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Ravi singh
Tue, 01/02/2018 - 08:38
Helo anty mera naam ravi h mai ye jana chahta hu ki meri gf 19 sal ki h nd mai 22 ka hmare relationship ko 2 saal ho gya nd is bich hmare bich bht bar sex hua kbhi kbhi hr roj 24 hour's bad kiya mene kbhi 1 2 din chod kr or hmari 2 saal bad shadi h nd shadi hone k bad bhi 2 saal bad hme baby chahiye to koi problem to ni hogi na nd mai apni gf ke sath periods time me bhi sex krta hu bina conodam use kiye bt mai mal me undr ni jane deta bahar nikal deta hu nd kbhi kbhi hm puri raat pura din sex krte ho koi problem to ni h na..
Hello, Ravi beta. Bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhi nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Kripya aaj ke baad condom ka nirdharit upyog keejiye, apne liye aur apni partner ke liye. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mam mera ek question h ki agr humne apna white water apni Gf ke muh me gira di ya tu kya meri Gf pregnent ho jaygi ya nhi plz Answer me Mam. ....
Ji nahi, Rajesh bete. Pregnant hone ke liye purush ke shukranu ko mahila ki yoni mein jakar dimb ko nishechit karna bohot zaruri hai. jo ki sirf Yoni Maitun ke dwara ho sakta hai. Zara yeh padho. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hello I'm just 17 and me n my boyfriend had a sex nd this was my first time nd now I'm worried bcoz we did without any protection.Now frequently coming urine and little bit of blood coming in urine and it's been 4 days ...what should i do now I'm worried plss tell me Plsss
Hello, Shivi bete. What's the situation now? Is the blood still an issue? If yes, please see a registered doctor. If the sex was unsafe, then chances of pregnancy may be there. Take a home pregnancy test at the earliest. Then consult a registered doctor and see what can be done. Also, you can contact FPAI clinic information about which you can get at their website. https://lovematters.in/en/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Anty ji kya bina pains undar gye bhi pregnant ho skte hai m problem m hu kyu ki me ye galti krne wali thi but maine ese galti nhi ki control kiya is bat ko 6 month ho chuke h Aj tak sab thik chlra tha but 2 month se mere period nhi aa rhe maine ese koi galti bhi nhi ki to mere period kyu bnd hai please help me
Smarty beti, itna late tak periods ka na hona toh apne aap mein ek problem ho sakti hai! Ek visheshagya ya achchhe panjikrit doctor se jaldi consult kijiye. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Akki bete kripya sahi language ka istemaal kijiye. Aur LM ki nazar mein, kuch rishtey sex ke liye nahin bane hain, un mein se ek maa aur bete ka hai. Wasie bhi maa/ pita aur bete/ beti ke beech ka rishta kisi bhi samuday mein maananeey nahin. Kyunki yeh idea ki family ka koi vyakti sex ke liye ready ho sakta hai is me ek satta hai ek power ki jhalk jo ki kisi bhi soorat mein niyamit nahin hai!! Yeh bhee padh lijiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/i-am-attracted-my-sister Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
faizan beta kya aap kisi visheshgya ya panjikrit doctor se mile hain? Kisi panjikrit doctor se mill lijiye aur doctor ke nirdesh ka palan kijiye. All the best! Aur pregnancy ke tips yaha bhee pahdiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/tips https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/pregnancy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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