Auntyji

Do you have a question in mind that you're reluctant to ask? Love Matter's sexual expert Auntyji is here to answer all your questions.

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Will my boyfriend turn violent?

Q: Will my boyfriend turn violent like his father was? He tells me he saw his father beating his mother throughout his childhood. I’m scared that someday he might turn into the kind of abusive person his father was. Help me Auntyji. Radha, Pune

In love with my best friend – now what?

Q: I am in love with one of my very close friends. But he does not have the same feelings for me. What should I do Aunty? Shruti, Patna

How can I tell if she’s a virgin?

I love a girl Aunty ji and want to know if she is a virgin or not? How can I test that? Nadir, Bikaner.

My boyfriend watches porn and masturbates

Q: I’ve been living with my boyfriend for two years. I just discovered that he watches porn and masturbates. Our sex life is not as exciting as when we got together but this makes me feel cheated and unwanted. What should I do? Richa, Bangalore

We’re virgins – is unprotected sex OK?

Q: Is it safe to have sex without a condom if we're both virgins? My boyfriend and I are both virgins, and for the first time we want to have the perfect experience of sex without a condom. Is it a bad idea? Bharti, New Delhi

Why is my girlfriend faking orgasms?

Q: I found out my girlfriend has been faking orgasms. She’s great in bed, never complains, says she loves me. But I heard that most women's vaginas contract during orgasm – and hers doesn't. How can I fix the problem? Amaresh, Puri

She won’t have sex – should I end it?

Q: My girlfriend won’t have sex with me. We’ve been dating for a year, first in high school, now together in Delhi for college. She says she loves me, but it’s really frustrating. Would it be wrong to end the relationship? Ajit, Rourkela

I have sex but still masturbate – is that normal?

Q: Is it strange that I masturbate even though I have sex with my girlfriend? We've been together for six months and we’ve had sex from the start. But even after having sex with her, I’ve masturbated a few times. Is that abnormal? Shams, Phagwara

Will my husband think I'm too keen on sex?

I am 32 and I think about sex now more than ever before. Will my husband find it weird if I tell him about this? I have heard that a woman's sex drive is at its peak when she hits 30 – is this true? What will happen after this? Kieran, Kolkata

How can I increase my breast size?

I am unhappy about my small breasts. Can I do something to increase my boob size? I know that boys in my college make fun of me because I’m flat-chested. I feel very embarrassed. Shalini, 16, Kunnur
 

Will I get addicted to a vibrator?

If I use a vibrator, will I get addicted and not be able to have orgasms the normal way? I want to buy one for myself but I'm not sure. What will my husband think if he gets to know I have been using a vibrator to have orgasms? Namrata, Mumbai

My bi boyfriend might marry – should I leave him?

I'm gay and my boyfriend is bisexual. He thinks he "might" marry a girl if his mom pressures him. We've been together for three years now. He still can't commit. Should I stay with him or break up with him now? Ankush, Bangalore