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Noisy sex: why she moans in bed

When do women make the most noise during sex? When they’re having an orgasm? Or when their man is about to come? Recent research reveals the truth.

Why she screams and shouts?

Guys, maybe you think that she’s moaning and screaming because you’re such a great lover – you’re pounding away inside her, she’s having a mind-blowing orgasm. Sorry, think again. That’s not why women are so noisy in bed, according to the findings of a British study. Over 85 percent of women make lots of noise simply to boost their partner’s sex self-esteem, the study found.

The researchers asked over 70 heterosexual women whether they were more likely to reach orgasm during masturbation, foreplay, or intercourse. They also wanted to know how noisy the women were during these different sexual activities and the reasons why.

All of the women in the study said they made noise in bed, whether it was screaming out their partner’s name, telling him to go faster or harder, or moaning with pleasure. But the researchers were in for a surprise when they compared how noisy women were when they reached orgasm.

The women were more likely to climax during foreplay – like when their partner gave them oral sex – compared to intercourse. And it wasn’t when they were coming that they were most likely to make noise.

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Stroking his ego

When it comes to moaning and screaming, they made a lot more noise when they were having sex, right before and during their partner’s orgasm. Yes, the reason most women make noise in bed is to turn on their partner. In fact, almost 80 percent said they make noise even when they know there’s no chance they’re going to reach orgasm themselves.

All that hollering is mainly to stroke their guy’s ego. It doesn’t necessarily mean a girl’s in ecstasy. In fact, it could mean just the opposite. Women also say that moans and screams are one way to hurry sex along when you’re not particularly enjoying it.

Yup, women can and do use their voice to control how their guy feels during sex and when he climaxes, the researchers conclude. And why do they do it? To ‘manipulate male behavior to their advantage’.

Boosting her guy’s sex self-esteem by making lots of noise could help strengthen the bond between a woman and her partner, the researchers hypothesise. But there’s also the advantage of speeding up a guy’s orgasm if she’s in pain, just plain bored, or ready to roll over and go to sleep.

Subtle signs

So guys, if you really want to please her, don’t go by the big performance, look for the subtle signs of ecstasy. And girls, nice of you to cheer him on like that, but don’t forget to show and tell what really makes you go wild...

This article was first published on December 26, 2015

Are you noisy during sex? Do you do it on purpose, or does it just happen? Leave a comment below or on Facebook.

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For me, It just happens. my bf says I makes noises. But I tell him that I can't help it. It happens when it feels really good. Sometimes I do squeal or scream a little when he goes to day and it hurts. But I do notice when I do it or tell him don't stop he finishes faster.
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I agree with the article..I moan just to boost is ego..really..sometimes it is really bad that I just scream to make him stop..and when he doesnt stop..thus what turns me on..
betty mwanyonga
Wed, 05/18/2016 - 23:34
i usually moan when am having a mind-blowing orgasm,i alwz tell my guy to go faster and deeper so that i could feel the sweet pleasure through ma!!
When women scream,moans and make any noise during sex , i get more strength and start thrusting wild and ejaculate, so it tempts me a lot to pump deeper and deeper
Have started watching porn movies in the 80's I think it's thanks to today's porn and with it available 24/7 people think that's what expected from women. Sex was a lot quieter 25-30 years ago. Its a shame that woman fake it so much with the screaming and pretending to cum instead on focusing on the sex itself. Ii feel bad for men too, when a woman is screaming the guys think they're doing it really well, when they're probably not.
My boyfriend and I are still green horns to sex since we've only been together one year now and we were both virgins too. Our sex is extremely intimate every time and... we are both scorpios so we go like rabbits. We are very direct and open with what we like and don't like and what does and doesn't feel good. This article makes me a little sad because I'm super loud and it's because the sex is amazing. In fact I was surprised because the other night he asked to try out a position he was worried might hurt me- AND OH MY GOD IT WAS SO GOOD I SCREAMED FOR THE FIRST TIME... and weeped after from the pleasure. GIRLS TALK TO YOUR MAN AND COMMUNICATE IF YOU WANT AWESOME SEX- what he wants to try or what you want to try might feel really good!
Screaming and moaning of women when they are fucking is not intentional. It is a reflex action (involuntary action) responded to extreme pleasure of fuck.
Nah its just 4 me 2 show him how I am wild and how sexy I am just 4 attraction, but also sometimes we scream 4 pain I.e. When we orgasm or wen we re satisfied and he still fuck
Wed, 02/04/2015 - 01:13
I find if i have to contain my moaning i don't cum as hard that is a fact.. i moan with my partner and when im alone with me myself and i.
but some women say that the reason why they is because they feel good others say that when they scream then they are really in pain!!!
Sometimes it's good and it comes out but sometimes it's definitely for him to come faster. Believe it or not and it's not only me who said that all my friends too. The best part is when the guy cums it's just nice and it makes us happy.
if woman doesn't make any noise durinq sex if it signfies dat a man is doin evryfin wrng in other words,a woman's silence is de ultimate confidence killer in de bedrum by lettinq ur partner knw he's pleasinq u it provide him not only a roadmap to continue,but to knwinp dat he's a gud lover.refusals to make noise make him feel all but impotent.
disappointed in women
Tue, 04/21/2015 - 14:41
Women are such fakers. I wouldn't want my wife to fake it ny screaming and moaning just to pump up my ego or confidence that I'm doing her right. If we're not doing it right for crying out loud tell us what we need to do to do it right, we are not freaking mind readers. women!
loud and proud
Fri, 09/25/2015 - 17:33
I never fake it, if it isnt happening... It just isn't happening. When I am loud it just happens and it feels so good I can't contain it. Which makes it so much hotter. I have to admit sometimes I uncontrollably get quite louder than I would like. Sometimes it is hot to have to muffle just how loud I am, due to the location.
Just some woman
Sun, 01/03/2016 - 14:45
I scream&moan,when the sex is damn good. If I don't make much noise,that means the sex not good&is doing nothing for me. I refuse to pretend like it's good sex,if it's not. No reason I should,either. Ladies,don't lie to your man,by pretending he's good at sex&faking it,if he's not. You'll just be setting yourself up,for a lot of bad sex,that way.
Arre bete, ling ko apne aam stithi pe bhi to waapis aana hai na? Isme lagbhag 45 mins se 1 hour lag sakta hai, ya zyada ya kum. Yeh bohot common hain, so don't worry! Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho!
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Bete relax! It is not necessary that every girl makes noises during sex. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho!
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