Auntyji says... You don’t know what to do So ji, let me just say – well don’t do it. In fact don’t even think about it, theek hai ji?
Puttar, sabse first – I do applaud you for writing your thoughts here – that’s very brave. You are also in an asmanjass – confusion – so you are checking – even better. Thumbs up on that, lekin puttar – there is no two way on this – Na beta, Na! Bachon ke saath sex – is an absolute NO!
Sunn ABC, if one feels they are only or preferentially attracted to kids and want to be around them, 'love’ them, which often includes some or the other form of sex – then they may have some issues and must see a therapist – ASAP.
Usually, such behaviour is known as paedophilia. Get help to deal with your feelings. Then we have abusers – who pick on kids as options as surrogates to adult relationships – patao or/and petrify them and abuse them for sex. Child sexual abusers. If they do this within the family – then that gets categorized as incest. You will be shocked to learn how huge that number is. There are so many layers to this mudda, I am only presenting it simply for your clarity.
Whatever the relationship – it has to be based on consent, trust and safety. It has to be negotiated and both or all the participants must clearly understand what they are committing to. If any of these elements are missing – it is violent in nature, abusive and because it involves a person under the legal age of consent – it is also a crime. Mostly such relationships are based on the misuse of power and status – especially in the case of child sexual abusers.
Ask for help
Of course, child abusers are unacceptable. They are considered as ‘monsters’ and there are very strong opinions on their actions. That’s bound to happen. But what that has also done is that it has put barriers for such people to seek help and intervention to work on themselves and stop this behaviour. Many paedophiles actually get pushed into lives of secrecy and loneliness – again inhibiting access to services and counselling.
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Happen whatever may – abusing a child for whatever the reason – even if it is a make belief sense of 'permission' by the child – it is a heinous act. Victims and survivors of CSA, paedophilia, incest may carry the trauma for years – and have difficulty in forming wholehearted and meaningful relationships. Along with sexual violence – children experience a loss of trust – often at the hands of someone they loved and admired. That’s not who you want to be remembered as – for the rest of your own life too – do you? Go find that therapist – do it now.
To protect the privacy of the author, the person in the picture is a model. This article was first published on May 30, 2017.
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