Auntyji says… Oh ho Meeta, I can just see all the gentlemen rushing to read this column. It seems like a problem that usually means neighbours’ envy and owners’ pride.
Family jewels
So while your bf may be super proud of his family legacy and heirloom, this is not working out to your advantage at all, is it? People envy large sizes and God knows it is the topic of incessant debate, but someone should ask for the user experience as well, right?
Not every experience is a memorable one, is it? Bigger the better works for a TV set. It is not applicable to any body part. The ideal penis size will forever be a contentious discussion.
Opening act
So Meeta, there are four golden rules largely (Oops! Sorry for the pun) for a size that’s too big. To begin with, focus more on the foreplay. You may want to begin with mantras that relax you and put your stress away as you get some mood lighting and aroma therapy started. He has to make his act better and focus on what all he needs to do with you during foreplay.
All this needs a lot of love, patience and just the two of you being super relaxed. No room for quickies, just yet. Enjoy what you are doing and feeling and don’t let the pressure of penetration get to either of you. Does that sound okay?
For the love of lube
Dear beta Meeta, condoms and any water-based lubricants are your best friends here. The market is quite open to these now. If you do not find what you are looking for, your best bet then is your chemist. Your chemist perhaps is well aware that you are not a doctor of medicine. Condoms or lubricants are quite common things to buy so let it not hamper your shopping style.
Lubes and condoms help in making penetration somewhat pain-free. It also means that both of you need to be relaxed and in no hurry.
You, lady, should not freak out every time. Often, women get terrified of penetration, size, pregnancy and guilt. This fear involuntarily contracts the muscles of the vagina causing it to tighten up so much that penetration becomes even more difficult and thus more painful.
Perfect positions
Another thing to keep in mind is trying out new positions. You both should try new positions that facilitate excitement and entry. Check them out on a reliable website or find some reliable books on the issue. Believe me, there are some books in the market specifically for issues of penis size and sex positions. See if they work for you and if you can practise them.
Always remember, sex is better when you are more relaxed and comfortable with each other. The most crucial part here is that you talk and communicate with ease and friendliness. Don’t yell, ”Get that beast out of me!” You may leave him feeling confused. He can’t cut it off to suit Her Highness, can he?
Package deal
Now for the man who is well hung. He is the boss in his circle but he feels like a peanut because his girl runs a mile every time he shows off his wares. That’s a conundrum, if there ever is one, hain jee?
This seems very funny now. What a problem, sirji! Throw in some benefits like your sweet temperament, loving attitude and naughty sex talks. Remember sex is pleasurable and fun only when the two of you are talking through the process and working it through. It is not like prepping for an exam and predicting failure!
To protect the privacy of the author, the person in the picture is a model.
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