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I come when we kiss – what should I do?

By Auntyji Tuesday, May 1, 2012 - 16:22
When I make out with my girlfriend, I end up ejaculating. What can I do about it? I'm 22 years old, and I'm not interested in having sex until I'm married. Our making out doesn't really involve anything sexual, mostly just kissing. Karan, 18, Mumbai

What can I do about it?

The best suggestion I can give you, puttar, is to be less hard on yourself. As you kids like to say, pun very much unintended (tee-tee-hee). Achcha, jokes apart, you need to stop worrying about it because it will eventually become more controllable. There is not much you can do to control it, but as you move forward, your body will understand your needs and ejaculation will not happen this sporadically.

The second and most important advice I can give you is to simply go out and masturbate. Yes puttar, you heard me right, go ahead and pleasure yourself. It’s good for you. And it just might help you see things clearer.

Masturbation is the activity of pleasuring yourself using your own hand, as I am sure you know. The advantage of masturbation is that it’s perfectly safe and extremely pleasurable. It’s completely natural to masturbate, and it will also give you more control over your ejaculation problem. You won’t have all that stored-up sperm just waiting to gush out at the slightest stimulation!

At the end of this, betaji, I just want to say, sit back, have a glass of thanda Rooh Afza and relax. It will be better soon!

To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model and names have been changed. 

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What can I do about it?

The best suggestion I can give you, puttar, is to be less hard on yourself. As you kids like to say, pun very much unintended (tee-tee-hee). Achcha, jokes apart, you need to stop worrying about it because it will eventually become more controllable. There is not much you can do to control it, but as you move forward, your body will understand your needs and ejaculation will not happen this sporadically.

The second and most important advice I can give you is to simply go out and masturbate. Yes puttar, you heard me right, go ahead and pleasure yourself. It’s good for you. And it just might help you see things clearer.

Masturbation is the activity of pleasuring yourself using your own hand, as I am sure you know. The advantage of masturbation is that it’s perfectly safe and extremely pleasurable. It’s completely natural to masturbate, and it will also give you more control over your ejaculation problem. You won’t have all that stored-up sperm just waiting to gush out at the slightest stimulation!

At the end of this, betaji, I just want to say, sit back, have a glass of thanda Rooh Afza and relax. It will be better soon!

To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model and names have been changed. 

Have a similar story? Share with Love Matters (LM) on our Facebook page. If you have a specific question, please ask LM experts on our discussion forum. We are also on Instagram, YouTube and Twitter. 

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Hello madam me meri sadi ko do year ho gay hai or jab jab me sex kart hun to 3 mint tak hi ruka pat hun .. or jo mere ling hai pahle to bahut tait reht hai ... Jab karne lagt hun tab .. pani nikal jata hai. ...mujhe lagt hai jo ling ka aage ka bhag hota hai use mujhe jayd problem hoti hai jab tak mere ling jayd gil nhi hota tab tak pani nhi nikalt hai mere ling se .....or mene jab jab subah me sex kiya hai tab to kabhi time tak sex kar pata hun ..but raat me nhi kar pat hun jayd time tak koi. Dawai ho ..jo me 1 hour Tak sex kar paun
Bete Sorry, hum kisi dawa ka naam nahi bata sakte, aur is tarah panjikrit doctor ki salah liye bina kisi bhi dawa ka istemaal sahi nahi hota hai. Aur yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh shighrpatan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. Aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay, pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activities sabse zaroori hain. Iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hastmaithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kum karne mein madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. Yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/i-ejaculate-too-soon-help Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum

पहले इस लिंक को पढ़ें - https://lovematters.in/hi/our-bodies/male-body/wet-dreams-top-five-facts

 

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Hmm! Dev beta, jitni zyada utejna hogi ejaculation bhi utna jaldi hoga. Aur yahi stithi in situations mein aapke saath ho rahi hai hai. Iss bare mein yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/i-come-when-we-kiss-what-should-i-do Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mam mei 18 sal ka hoon.mei jab bhi mera gf k sath hath pakarkar baat karta hoon toh mera preejucalation fluid nikal jata hain thora.kya yeh normal hain??mujhse controll nahihota hain.
Uttejna hone par ling se paani niklna yeh toh bahut common see baat hai. Sex ki bhavna yadi adhik ho to yeh hona bahut hi common hai. Haan yeh toh zaroor hai ki yadi aap har mahila ya ladki se koi bhi baat karte waqt uttejit ho jaatey hain so shayad aapka nazariya mahilaon ke prati bahut ek tarfaa hai… isme toh sudhaar laana hi chahiye. Har mahila sex ki vastu bilkul nahi! Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Uttejna hone par ling se paani niklna yeh toh bahut common see baat hai. Sex ki bhavna yadi adhik ho to yeh hona bahut hi common hai. Haan yeh toh zaroor hai ki yadi aap har mahila ya ladki se koi bhi baat karte waqt uttejit ho jaatey hain so shayad aapka nazariya mahilaon ke prati bahut ek tarfaa hai… isme toh sudhaar laana hi chahiye. Har mahila sex ki vastu bilkul nahi! Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Deepika Diya
Tue, 02/27/2018 - 09:42
One day before i andmy boy friend kissed and hugged each other with our clothes on. That day i didn't eat anything. Now i feel ill with stomach ache and fever....I'm not clear that our are touched. Am i pregnant or this could be due to intake of food... Plz help
The only way pregnancy can occur is if vaginal sex occurred. It's not possible to get pregnant by just kissing or hugging. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, ‘Just Ask’ https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Wow,bahut sahin sikha rahi hai aap!!!....masturbation is counterproductive for a person(male/female) in so many ways....Most Sex/Love educators subscribe to this bottom line of bullshit propagated by Medical Findings,that "Masturbation is Health"...This is nothing more than a conspiracy!!...Masturbation intrinsically may not be as harmful as cancer,but it makes a person mentally weak and physically exhausted!....Such people have very less mental toughness,less willpower,diminished cognitive functions etc...Please stop spreading this nonsense in the name of advice!!!..
Conspitacy? To do what? And were what you are claiming so "factual" - men around the world would largely be..." mentally weak and physically exhausted!" - and women too. Aur yeh to sach hee hai, ki, is maamle mein, " bahut sahin sikha rahi hai hum.!!!." https://lovematters.in/hi/our-bodies/is-masturbation-unhealthy If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Yatendr Kumar
Fri, 05/20/2022 - 16:00
Me jb apni Gf se baat krta hu To Mera Pani niklna suru ho jata he mene Sex bhi kiya he Or Hastmethun bhi kiya he. Kiya iska koi ilaj he me bahut pareshan hu .or
Bete yadi uttejana adhik ho ya sex ki bhavana adhik ho, to ling se pani ka aana bahut hi common hai. Ye koi bimari nahi jiska ilaj mojud ho. Hastmaithun ek safe/surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jinmein aap samya bitaa sakte hain. Jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? Yeh bhi padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating https://lovematters.in/en/news/i-could-masturbate-anytime-anywhere ' Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
mam mera name kamar hu or mujhe bhi ek bimari he mere andasyo me 15 se 20 din me derd hone lgta he or me hastmethune krta hu to thik ho jati he
Bete iska karan hastmaithun nahi ho sakta hai, kyunki hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahi hoti. Yeh padhiye:  https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating https://lovematters.in/hi/our-bodies/is-masturbation-unhealthy Yadi aapko dard ho raha hai toh please iske baare mein ek vishesagya ya ek panjikrit doctor se phoran mil lijiye. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
tara chand sonkar
Mon, 02/13/2023 - 21:40
mera age 36 he antyji me jab v kishi larki ko dekhta hu to mujhe sex chahar jata he or birr nikal jati he me shahan nahi kar pata hu me kiya karu
Beta uttejna hone par ling se paani niklna yeh toh bahut hee common baat hai. Sex ki bhavna yadi adhik ho to yeh hona bahut hee common hai. Haan yeh toh zaroor hai ki yadi app HAR mahila ya ladki ko dekhkar uttejit ho jate hain so shayad aapka nazariya mahilaon ke prati bahut ek tarfaa hai… isme toh sudhaar laana hee chahiye. Har mahila sex ki vastu bilkul nahi! Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna   chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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