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I come when we kiss – what should I do?

By Auntyji Tuesday, May 1, 2012 - 16:22
Q: When I make out with my girlfriend, I end up ejaculating. What can I do about it? I'm 22 years old, and I'm not interested in having sex until I'm married. Our making out doesn't really involve anything sexual, mostly just kissing. Karan, Mumbai

Auntyji says... Karan puttar, thoda thand paao. First of all, beta, I want you to understand that it’s completely natural to ejaculate when you are aroused. Many people think ejaculation should only happen after penetration, but that is not true. Ejaculation has nothing to do with penetration, simply arousal – which is also the reason behind wet dreams.

Why does this happen?
Aaj kal zamaana hi aisa hai ki people are in a hurry to do everything. The decision to not have sex till marriage is one very few people make and it’s completely fine to want to do that. However, you must understand what that means for your body.

After puberty, the male body starts producing sperm and when aroused, the penis becomes erect and after a point releases sperm. Sometimes you’re just aroused and you find yourself wet, which is probably what’s happening with you.

Is this a problem?
As I’ve mentioned, beta, you must understand that this is absolutely normal. Especially since you have decided to wait for marriage before having sex, it’s only natural for your body to release sperm on arousal.

With time, however, you will notice that it will be more controlled and you will not ejaculate every time you make out with your girlfriend. Also just check the amount of flow as well. And do you have an orgasm? If you don’t orgasm, and you don’t ejaculate so much fluid, then it’s just ‘pre-cum’ or pre-ejaculate, a colourless fluid that helps lubricate during the actual sex. Again it’s released by your body in anticipation of greater joy. And just absurd amount of pleasure.

What can I do about it?
The best suggestion I can give you, puttar, is to be less hard on yourself. As you kids like to say, pun very much unintended (tee-tee-hee). Achcha, jokes apart, you need to stop worrying about it because it will eventually become more controllable. There is not much you can do to control it, but as you move forward, your body will understand your needs and ejaculation will not happen this sporadically.

The second and most important advice I can give you is to simply go out and masturbate. Yes puttar, you heard me right, go ahead and pleasure yourself. It’s good for you. And it just might help you see things clearer.

Masturbation is the activity of pleasuring yourself using your own hand, as I am sure you know. The advantage of masturbation is that it’s perfectly safe and extremely pleasurable. It’s completely natural to masturbate, and it will also give you more control over your ejaculation problem. You won’t have all that stored-up sperm just waiting to gush out at the slightest stimulation!

At the end of this, betaji, I just want to say, sit back, have a glass of thanda Rooh Afza and relax. It will be better soon!

Auntyji says... Karan puttar, thoda thand paao. First of all, beta, I want you to understand that it’s completely natural to ejaculate when you are aroused. Many people think ejaculation should only happen after penetration, but that is not true. Ejaculation has nothing to do with penetration, simply arousal – which is also the reason behind wet dreams.

Why does this happen?
Aaj kal zamaana hi aisa hai ki people are in a hurry to do everything. The decision to not have sex till marriage is one very few people make and it’s completely fine to want to do that. However, you must understand what that means for your body.

After puberty, the male body starts producing sperm and when aroused, the penis becomes erect and after a point releases sperm. Sometimes you’re just aroused and you find yourself wet, which is probably what’s happening with you.

Is this a problem?
As I’ve mentioned, beta, you must understand that this is absolutely normal. Especially since you have decided to wait for marriage before having sex, it’s only natural for your body to release sperm on arousal.

With time, however, you will notice that it will be more controlled and you will not ejaculate every time you make out with your girlfriend. Also just check the amount of flow as well. And do you have an orgasm? If you don’t orgasm, and you don’t ejaculate so much fluid, then it’s just ‘pre-cum’ or pre-ejaculate, a colourless fluid that helps lubricate during the actual sex. Again it’s released by your body in anticipation of greater joy. And just absurd amount of pleasure.

What can I do about it?
The best suggestion I can give you, puttar, is to be less hard on yourself. As you kids like to say, pun very much unintended (tee-tee-hee). Achcha, jokes apart, you need to stop worrying about it because it will eventually become more controllable. There is not much you can do to control it, but as you move forward, your body will understand your needs and ejaculation will not happen this sporadically.

The second and most important advice I can give you is to simply go out and masturbate. Yes puttar, you heard me right, go ahead and pleasure yourself. It’s good for you. And it just might help you see things clearer.

Masturbation is the activity of pleasuring yourself using your own hand, as I am sure you know. The advantage of masturbation is that it’s perfectly safe and extremely pleasurable. It’s completely natural to masturbate, and it will also give you more control over your ejaculation problem. You won’t have all that stored-up sperm just waiting to gush out at the slightest stimulation!

At the end of this, betaji, I just want to say, sit back, have a glass of thanda Rooh Afza and relax. It will be better soon!

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Comments
Anwar khan
Sun, 06/08/2014 - 23:24
Hi . Meri problem ye hai ke mera penis jo hai wo 12 inch hai koi bi girlfriend usko bardashat nehi kar sakti mein kis tarah fuck kiya karu . K meri girlfriend zeda chilaye na usko thoora dalna chaha lekin us tarah muje Enjoy nehi milta . Plz help me
Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareek ahai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti . Phir bhi, sirf yeh he eek activity mein time na lagayein, baki bhi bahut see activitys hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym…All the best beta.
aftab channa
Fri, 07/04/2014 - 18:39
i have problem,when i kissed a girl, after 30 seconds i become discharge(ejaculation)? what can i do know? is this normal? help
Hi ,me 27 saal ka hu .mujhe PE ki problem hai jab bhi me apni gal frnd se smooch karta hu ya khud mastrubation karta hu to within 15 seconds discharge ho jata hu bot ilaaz krva chuka hu but PE still vaise hi hai bot tension me hu
Hhmmm Acha suno bête jaldi hone se koi baat nahin, dont worry. So sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Unki uttejna jab bade tab aap entry karo! Aur bête Yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik hee hogee. aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , yaani ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activitys sabse zaroori hain. iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge mein help karta hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
Beta, Sex ka essa koi time nishchit nahi hai. Haan jis samye bhi sambandh ho dono logo ki sehmati ke saath aur safe ho. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Anonymous
Mon, 05/11/2015 - 22:02
Mam mera naam Debu hai our main 20 saal ka hu. mujhe na 2-3 saalon se swapnadosh ho raha hai our swapnadosh hone ke baad ling mein bohut dard hota hain our porn video dekhne ke baad v ling main dard hota hai.plz mam kindly tell me about this prblm...........main bohut pareshan rehti hu.
Bete iska aisa koi time nishchit nahi hai Aur haan Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Aunty ji mere ling me se pani ke rang jsa jel niklta h 1 sal se aur jb m gf k sath kiss karu to usi tym jhad jata hu or fir ling shi se tyt or khara ni hota m sex ni kar pata still vergin I am 18..aur jb m hand practice krta hu tb bhi 2 -3 min m jar jata hu..or mere per m dard rhta h kamjori bhi h
Hmm! Beta jitni zyada utejna hogi ejaculation bhi utna jaldi hoga.aAur yahi isthithi shyad kissing ke duran bhi aapke saath ho rahi hai hai.is bare mein yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/i-come-when-we-kiss-what-should-i-do http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Aunty ji.. Jab first tym sex karne ki koshish ki tab mere se nhi huva... Mera penis uske andar jaa hih nhi raha tha... Toh uski kya vajhj ho sakti hai??
Bete yeh bohot common baat hai relax! Dekhiye yoni bahut choti hoti hai aur lacheele bhi. So Jald baazi mat keejiye, phele finger se try keejiye, koi lubrication use keejye… Lekin apki partner ko bahut hee relaxed rehana hai aur apko bhi is dauran bahut hee support karna hai. Poora ling ek hee baar andar jaaye yeh bilkul zaroori nahin, aur na hee iski rai dee jaati hai. iske barre mein yeh padhiye http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love
Hmm! Beta jitni zyada utejna hogi ejaculation bhi utna jaldi hoga.aAur yahi isthithi shyad kissing ke duran bhi aapke saath ho rahi hai hai.is bare mein yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/i-come-when-we-kiss-what-should-i-do Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mam meri gf h..par jab bhi me usli vagina me finger dalta hun usko dard hone lagta h..to fir hum sex kar hi nahi pate..vo abtk virgin h..to him kaise start karen?
Bête Pehli baar sex kartaye samaye kya karna hai kya nahi karna hai, aur first sex ko kese theek tarah se kiya jaye is bare mein aap yaha detail mein padh lijieye : https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts Saath hi sex activity mein alag-alag tariko ka istemal kartay huay isse kese aur majjaydaar banana hai is baaray mein yaha padhein: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Gaurav 102
Sun, 07/10/2016 - 13:57
Hello,aunty ji me bohot koshish karta hu apne ap ko control karne ki but week m 2 bar tak masturbate kar deta and mai kafi kamzor feel karta hu also pehle se kafi slim bhi ho gya hu kya ye masturbation ki wajah s h.
Bilkul nahi bête koi kamzori nahi, thakaan ko kamzori na samjho bête!! it’s quite common, Bus swasth raho aur yaad rakho ki Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareek ahai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti, yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jinmein aap samya bitaa sakte hain. jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies… ok? https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Uttejna hone par ling se paani niklna yeh toh bahut common see baat hai. Sex ki bhavna yadi adhik ho to yeh hona bahut hi common hai. Haan yeh toh zaroor hai ki yadi aap har mahila ya ladki se koi bhi baat karte waqt uttejit ho jaatey hain so shayad aapka nazariya mahilaon ke prati bahut ek tarfaa hai… isme toh sudhaar laana hi chahiye. Har mahila sex ki vastu bilkul nahi! Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Kartik Kumar
Mon, 08/22/2016 - 10:22
Namstey auntu ji...mera naam kartik h...or meri umar 21 hai...mai jb v kiss krne lgta hu apni gf ko...mai ejaculate ho jata hu 3-4 min me...mai jyada time tk foreplay krna chahta hu or maine kvi sex v nhi kiya h pehle to mujhe kux guide kre plz...thankyou...
Hmm! Beta jitni zyada utejna hogi ejaculation bhi utna jaldi hoga.aAur yahi isthithi shyad kissing ke duran bhi aapke saath ho rahi hai hai.is bare mein yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/i-come-when-we-kiss-what-should-i-do Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hlo..am 20 years old...My boyfriend told me he released after 10 minutes when we kissed..he is really worried thinking its not normal..because it happened the two times we kissed..please help..does it require medical attention?
Bete Pearl, more the excitement in the body, quicker is the ejaculation. This may be happening while kissing. To know more, read this: https://lovematters.in/en/news/i-come-when-we-kiss-what-should-i-do If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Aryan77752
Thu, 10/06/2016 - 18:58
Hello mam my self Aryan... Mam muje darr lagta hai sex karte samay kahi meri gf pegnant na ho jaye mai condom use to karta hu phir bhi. safe sex ke liye kya mai kuch kar sakta hu...
Bete, pregnant hone ke liye mahila ki yoni main purush ka shukranu pravesh karna anivarya hota hai jo ki yoni maithun ke dwara hota hai. Condom istemaal karne se na hi pregnancy ka khtra balki anchahe youn sankraman ke khatre se bhi bacha jata hai. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
What exactly are you trying to ask, Fathima? Kissing is in no way related to sperm release...For sperms to be released in a woman's body, there has to be penetration...sperms simply can't be transferred through kissing. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
kartik kumar
Mon, 04/03/2017 - 18:57
Aunty ji plz help me I m 22 yrs old I've done sex with my gf but i feel i ejaculate so early during sex after 1 or 2 min and as i start kissing my gf i feel wet instantly and whenever i come in contact wid any girl's body i get ejaculation in my pants i m really very upset plz help me how to control it,Is it any problem plz help me.
Hmm! You are getting too turned on during kissing that’s why this is happening to you. Read about this here: https://lovematters.in/en/news/i-come-when-we-kiss-what-should-i-do But if you are cumming in your pants on contacting any woman, then your opinion on women is very one sided. This needs to change. A women is not just a sexual object. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Aunty ji mai jb bhi bus me Bethe hue kisi ladki ki ya women ki leg touch hoti hai to Bina koi hath lgaye mera discharge ho jata hai.what to do
Hmm! You are getting too turned on that’s why this is happening to you. Read about this here: https://lovematters.in/en/news/i-come-when-we-kiss-what-should-i-do But if you are cumming in your pants on contacting any woman, then your opinion on women is very one sided. This needs to change. A women is not just a sexual object. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Dalchand ji relax khud ko thoda samey dijiey aur sex keval khud ko shahrik roop se santushth karne ki cheez nahi hai issay jyada do logo ka sath aur samjh bhi zarrori hai jese apnay bataya ki apko pehle ek bachha bhi hai aur yadi aap agay aur bacchay cahtay hai aur samsya arahi hai to aap kisi achay doctor se milkar si baye may baat zarror kare. All the best
Hmm! Beta jitni zyada utejna hogi ejaculation bhi utna jaldi hoga. Aur yahi isthithi shayad aapke saath ho rahi hai hai. Iss bare mein yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/i-come-when-we-kiss-what-should-i-do Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Apnay mann ko samjhao kyunki ye sab apkay gharelu zivan may kai samsyaey la sakta hai bete hamaray samaj may kuch rishto ke bich sex ke bohot gehre daire hai..aur yadi aap nahi cahtay ki apkay gharelu jivan may koi samsaya aey to ye khayal nikla dijiey apnay mann se.
Arrey beta, nightfall se koi nuksaan nahin aur na hee koi limit hai jitna yeh hona chahiye. Just Relax. Aur jyada yaha padh lijiey : clovematters.in/hi/news/wet-dreams-top-five-factsa
Hmm! Dev beta, jitni zyada utejna hogi ejaculation bhi utna jaldi hoga. Aur yahi stithi in situations mein aapke saath ho rahi hai hai. Iss bare mein yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/i-come-when-we-kiss-what-should-i-do Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mam mei 18 sal ka hoon.mei jab bhi mera gf k sath hath pakarkar baat karta hoon toh mera preejucalation fluid nikal jata hain thora.kya yeh normal hain??mujhse controll nahihota hain.
Uttejna hone par ling se paani niklna yeh toh bahut common see baat hai. Sex ki bhavna yadi adhik ho to yeh hona bahut hi common hai. Haan yeh toh zaroor hai ki yadi aap har mahila ya ladki se koi bhi baat karte waqt uttejit ho jaatey hain so shayad aapka nazariya mahilaon ke prati bahut ek tarfaa hai… isme toh sudhaar laana hi chahiye. Har mahila sex ki vastu bilkul nahi! Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Uttejna hone par ling se paani niklna yeh toh bahut common see baat hai. Sex ki bhavna yadi adhik ho to yeh hona bahut hi common hai. Haan yeh toh zaroor hai ki yadi aap har mahila ya ladki se koi bhi baat karte waqt uttejit ho jaatey hain so shayad aapka nazariya mahilaon ke prati bahut ek tarfaa hai… isme toh sudhaar laana hi chahiye. Har mahila sex ki vastu bilkul nahi! Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Deepika Diya
Tue, 02/27/2018 - 09:42
One day before i andmy boy friend kissed and hugged each other with our clothes on. That day i didn't eat anything. Now i feel ill with stomach ache and fever....I'm not clear that our are touched. Am i pregnant or this could be due to intake of food... Plz help
The only way pregnancy can occur is if vaginal sex occurred. It's not possible to get pregnant by just kissing or hugging. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, ‘Just Ask’ https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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