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Fights in a relationship

Relationship problems
Almost every couple has fights at some point. While rows are normal in a relationship, they should be paid attention to. Often they are symptoms of brewing discontent within a relationship. If resolved at the right time they can foster togetherness. If brushed under the carpet, they might end up being stressful and harm your relationship.

We all have our own motives while fighting. Sometimes we want to have our say in the way the relationship works, sometimes we want to prove that we’re right, sometimes we want to show that they are wrong. Whatever the motives are – it’s good to know what your reasons are for picking a fight.

You could apply some rules to your arguments. Fights often get ugly when both of you raise your voices, swear at each other or get physical. To avoid these situations, always treat the other person the way you would like to be treated yourself. Find out more in our Fighting: Do’s and Don’ts.

If you and your partner are fighting over the same issue again and again, there might be a long standing, unresolved dispute. There are different ways of approaching such a stalemate. You can step back and look at the fights from a distance – go beyond the petty issues and find out what actually is causing discontent. What kind of disagreements are negotiable and which ones aren’t. If you feel outside help would benefit your relationship, maybe you could go to a counsellor specialised in relationship conflicts.