When can we have sex after her abortion?

Auntyji says… Oh ho beta, why don’t you people exercise basic safety... This is never easy, you know. I hope she is relaxed and healthy already?

So going by the fact that you are still dating and do not want your girlfriend to get pregnant again, here goes. Since we don’t know when her cycle is going to resume, she is at risk of a pregnancy anytime now onwards. Don’t wait for her next regular period to decide if she can conceive, she may well even before, so be ever so careful.

It may seem as if I am trying to scare you or frighten you. Neither of the two beta, not at all. But yes I am trying to ensure you keep yourself and your girlfriend safe and secure now onward.

Running the risk

Wasie beta jee, sex is fun, and let’s face it, to many of us, unsafe sex seems to be even more fun, more exciting! Lekin jee, look at the consequences! Oye hoye!

I am pretty sure the two of you must have gone through some hours and days of tension and stress about what was going to happen and how and where is a good choice, what if someone comes to know.... Oh dear God, kyun? Dasso?

It is very difficult! So beta, I ask again, sure, sex may seem like more fun when unsafe and risky, but is it worth the possible ramifications? Dasso hun Maharaj?

Safe, affordable, accessible

Even though abortion is legal in our country since 1971 – which by the way is a very  early, progressive step – many, many countries are still dealing with how and whether to make abortion legal. Despite being legal, it is still quite difficult to access safe and affordable abortion services in our country.

Oopar se the social stigma does not help, even though abortion is fairly common in this country. Abortion is every woman’s right and so is easy access, affordability and safety.

It is her body and she has the right to decide when she wants a child, if she wants it and who she wants to rear it with, bas ho gayee gall khatam! But it comes with a fair share of responsibility too…

Smart, sexy and safe

Now this is for the ladies, but the gentlemen must also read on... Kudiyon suno, there is an added responsibility for you! Body is yours, right is yours, theek hai. You better remember that when you are so madly in love (and in lust), you have a right to say yes to sex and no to sex whenever you want, even to the same person!

You have a right to say yes to a kind of sex and no to another type of sex. You have the right to do it whenever, whatever time of day or night, whichever place in the house you want or not. And you also get to decide with whom you want it and with whom you don’t... sab theek theek hai!

But beta body is yours, na? Do you not have a responsibility towards your body too? Hain kudiye? So beta, if you can say yes and no to so many variables, why can’t you do the same for safer sex, for condoms? He has to just “ask nicely” and off go the condoms, maybe even before off goes the light or on comes the light! Aye haye mohabbat! Or should I say, aye haye nee kamlee!

Humble request?

Now you there, Ishaan, you said you are feeling upset? Kis liye? Ok you don’t know yet. Theek hai. So you too are upset, maybe you are feeling a bit burdened – she did not get pregnant on her own na? And was it you who was busy hiding the condoms?

I hope this was not your “Valentine’s Day gift request”? Hain khoteya? Puttar jee, whatever has happened has happened in her body, no doubt, but if she is pregnant, you are equally if not more, responsible, samjheyo?

If you requested, cajoled, blackmailed her – then toh even more so. She, of course was being a jhalli, what happened to you? And now you are feeling bad, of course you should. Itna hee kar le and be very careful now on. Beta, this is not an easy time for anyone.

Chal bass hunn, take good care of her and make her and all her gal pals read this as well. And all of you try, no, ensure that you do not get pregnant until the time you both are fully ready and capable of handling a baby!

To protect the author's privacy, the person in the photo is a model. This article was first published on March 17, 2015. 

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