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Why can't I have intercourse with my girlfriend?

By Auntyji Friday, December 23, 2016 - 11:58
Auntyji, I enjoy foreplay a lot but cannot have intercourse with my girl. When the right time comes, I simply back out. What’s wrong with me? Natraj (23), Jaipur.

Auntyji saysBeta, is there really a legit answer to that question? What’s wrong with you? Perhaps nothing at all.

Full-course menu

Betaji, sabse pehlaan, who has laid out this rule? Should penis always make its grand entry into the vagina during sex? Nahinji. Your penis can be allowed to just lay there, quietly and respectfully – in full attention, of course!

Sex koi six-course meal thodi na hai that you have to jump to the main course after the appetiser. Kamaal hai puttar! Sometimes your host wants to keep the meal light and lovely yet fully satisfying, right?

Not everyone is always interested in the ‘main course’. Do you know the reason behind this? Because betaji, the rest of the meal is pretty much considered as the main course in itself by many. Main course ki fir toh zaroorat hi nahin yahan.

One of the biggest crisis of your times, I mean our times, is that the expectation of sex has gone up. Before we know it, it has gone too high and hit the ceiling. We expect that every time we have sex, we will be hitting the ceiling – in some form or the other. It does not always happen and it need not always happen, betaji.

Foreplay – the show stopper

It’s a misnomer beta that every act of sex has to have foreplay, penetration and afterplay. Maybe, for some, the foreplay is thrilling and flaming enough.

The word ‘foreplay’ itself is a little colloquial. Foreplay to most of us means the activity before the actual play. What I fail to understand: what’s the actual play?

It’s not that foreplay is just to get you in the mood. Foreplay can very well be the main event.

Betaji, foreplay is not the warm-up artist performing before the big star takes the stage. For some, it can be the only star. The big lovely star of your lovemaking show. It can be your showstopper.

My favourite director loves to say, “There are no small roles in a theatre play. There are only small actors. Be the star of the show, however small your role is.”

Similarly, foreplay is the entire play for you and your partner. It is your production, betaji. You can write your own script. The script where penile entry has no real role but is definitely mentioned in the off-stage support list.

To know more ways to make love to her, watch this animated video!


At your service

The only issue I see here is with the ladies. The girl doesn’t know what you’re going to serve. Honestly, if she’s waiting for the main course and it doesn’t show up, she will be a dissatisfied customer. She might never come back, complain before she leaves and probably bad mouth about you to others.

Better stay safe than be sorry, puttar. Lay out your buffet plan. Tell your girl what you can offer and what you cannot. Let her know before the act and not during the act.

So, to answer your initial question, nothing is wrong with you. You come with your own assets. However, keeping up with the need of the hour, just disclose your plan as soon as possible to avoid getting penalised. Have fun puttar!

To protect the privacy of the author, the person in the picture is a model.

What’s your experience with sexual intercourse? Share your story in comments or join us on Facebook. If you have a question, please visit our discussion forum.

Auntyji saysBeta, is there really a legit answer to that question? What’s wrong with you? Perhaps nothing at all.

Full-course menu

Betaji, sabse pehlaan, who has laid out this rule? Should penis always make its grand entry into the vagina during sex? Nahinji. Your penis can be allowed to just lay there, quietly and respectfully – in full attention, of course!

Sex koi six-course meal thodi na hai that you have to jump to the main course after the appetiser. Kamaal hai puttar! Sometimes your host wants to keep the meal light and lovely yet fully satisfying, right?

Not everyone is always interested in the ‘main course’. Do you know the reason behind this? Because betaji, the rest of the meal is pretty much considered as the main course in itself by many. Main course ki fir toh zaroorat hi nahin yahan.

One of the biggest crisis of your times, I mean our times, is that the expectation of sex has gone up. Before we know it, it has gone too high and hit the ceiling. We expect that every time we have sex, we will be hitting the ceiling – in some form or the other. It does not always happen and it need not always happen, betaji.

Foreplay – the show stopper

It’s a misnomer beta that every act of sex has to have foreplay, penetration and afterplay. Maybe, for some, the foreplay is thrilling and flaming enough.

The word ‘foreplay’ itself is a little colloquial. Foreplay to most of us means the activity before the actual play. What I fail to understand: what’s the actual play?

It’s not that foreplay is just to get you in the mood. Foreplay can very well be the main event.

Betaji, foreplay is not the warm-up artist performing before the big star takes the stage. For some, it can be the only star. The big lovely star of your lovemaking show. It can be your showstopper.

My favourite director loves to say, “There are no small roles in a theatre play. There are only small actors. Be the star of the show, however small your role is.”

Similarly, foreplay is the entire play for you and your partner. It is your production, betaji. You can write your own script. The script where penile entry has no real role but is definitely mentioned in the off-stage support list.

To know more ways to make love to her, watch this animated video!


At your service

The only issue I see here is with the ladies. The girl doesn’t know what you’re going to serve. Honestly, if she’s waiting for the main course and it doesn’t show up, she will be a dissatisfied customer. She might never come back, complain before she leaves and probably bad mouth about you to others.

Better stay safe than be sorry, puttar. Lay out your buffet plan. Tell your girl what you can offer and what you cannot. Let her know before the act and not during the act.

So, to answer your initial question, nothing is wrong with you. You come with your own assets. However, keeping up with the need of the hour, just disclose your plan as soon as possible to avoid getting penalised. Have fun puttar!

To protect the privacy of the author, the person in the picture is a model.

What’s your experience with sexual intercourse? Share your story in comments or join us on Facebook. If you have a question, please visit our discussion forum.

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Shashi Kumar
Sun, 12/25/2016 - 11:27
hastmaithun ko chhorne ke liye kya karna hoga kaise chhutega ye aadat please bataye aunti ji mujhe padhai me man nahi lagta hai iska koi upaye bataye.
Shashi bete , jab hastmaithun se koi nuksaan hee nahi hai toh isse chodna kyun? Hastmaithun rokne ka koi jadui nuskha toh hamare paas nhi h. Hum toh yahi keh sakte hain ki doosre kaaryon main dhyaan lagao,aisi bahut see activities hain, jinmein aap samya bitaa sakte hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? Zyaada chinta mat kijiye, hastmaithun ek surakshit tareeka h khud ko santusht karne ka, aur isse koi nuksaan nhi hota.. Yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/en/news/masturbation-harmful https://lovematters.in/en/news/masturbation-bad-habit https://lovematters.in/en/resource/men-masturbating Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Isme itna dar nahin Nikhil beta… period late bhi ho jaatye hain.. . Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Aunty ji mera 3 din unprotected sex hua tha 1u,19,20 ko or main 3 din i pill khai hu kiya i pill fail kerega agar kerega main kiya keru. But mera ishh mounth period hua tha 10 tarik ko toh kuch problem hoga kiya??
ECP ka istemaal sirf emergencies mein hona chahiye, naki rozz ke istemaal mein ya tab jab sex mein zimmedari na li gayi ho. Lekin yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai. PLEASE in goliyon ko laparvahi se istemaal mat kijiye. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Aunty ji Mai apni gf k sath sex kiya or wo first bar tha dono ka . Or galti se sperm ander m he chor dea toh Kuch hoga toh Ni na ek br m
Pregnancy ke liye ek baar sex bhi kaafi hain, Sid beta. Phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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