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Tips to spice up your boring sex life!

Sex in long-term relationships can get stale and unexciting if you don't step up your game. Here are some tips to help keep sex and passion alive in your bedroom.


  • Have sex in new places
    To keep sex fresh you’ve got to make it new, and one of the best ways to do this is to have sex in new places. Start small. Make love in different places around the house, in the kitchen, for instance. From there, perhaps consider renting a hotel room every once in a while, or, if you’re feeling risqué, try doing it outdoors.

  • Vary the times
    Who said sex is supposed to be at night before going to bed? There are 24 hours in a day – make use of them! Have sex in the afternoon, or in the morning before work – it will set a positive tone for the entire day.

  • Try out new positions
    If you can count your repertoire of positions on one hand, it’s time you broaden your horizons. There are 64 sex positions in the Kamasutra alone…

  • Share your fantasies
    Don’t be one of those couples that spends their entire lives together without revealing their fantasies. A long-term relationship is good for getting so comfortable with each other that you can finally open up. Take advantage of that closeness and set aside a night to talk about your fantasies – your sex life will definitely benefit.

  • Focus on foreplay
    Foreplay is fantastic, and the longer it lasts the better your sex life will be. There’s plenty of experimentation to choose from, from oral sex to sex toys. Play with each other as much as possible to keep your sex fresh.
  • Try to watch porn together
    If you both agree, porn is a great way to inject a little excitement into your lovemaking. Your preferred style of adult entertainment may differ, but if you look around you should be able to find something you both enjoy. Not only will it get you in the mood, it could also provide you with new ideas.
  • Try new things with each other
    Sex doesn't have to start with physical intimacy. You can begin building momentum with other intimate activities, for instance trying something new, such as taking a dance or yoga class together. Or just go on a date together. Just because you’ve been a couple for a long while doesn’t mean you can’t take each other out on dates any more.


  • Hesitate to surprise your partner
    Whether it’s surprising your partner when they come home from work with candles or sexy lingerie, going down on them when they least expect it, or suggesting an unanticipated sexual experiment.
  • Underestimate flirtation
    Flirting isn’t just for attracting the affection of someone you desire – it’s also playful and fun and can remind your partner that you’re still hot for them.
  • Be afraid of sex toys
    There’s nothing wrong with bringing a little outside help into the bedroom, especially in the form of sex toys. Particularly if they are new to you, they can really reinvigorate sex with an established long-term partner.
  • Rule out technology
    Now that smartphones are a part of our daily lives, why not take advantage of that technology to breathe life into your lovemaking? One example is sexting (foreplay with text messages), which can be a great way to fire up a workday and get both of you in the mood for the evening.
  • Be afraid to spend time apart
    If you’re in a long-term relationship with someone you truly care about, being away from them can be difficult. Sure, you want to spend as much time with them as you can, but it’s also important to have space to yourself. Being apart every once in a while allows you a bit of needed freedom and also makes both of you miss each other – an ideal way to keep a long-term relationship interesting.

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