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How to talk to new people?

We all sometimes struggle to talk to new people and this struggle can turn into panic if we happen to find this new person attractive! So here’s our Top Tips for talking to new people...
  1. Smile
    A smile goes a long way. It literally makes you feel better. You will come across as less intimidating and easier to talk to. In short, a toothy grin is the boost every conversation needs!
     
  2. Think positive 

    Repeat positive thoughts to yourself as you walk over to a new person. Like:

    ‘I look great today.’

    ‘I’m a super, confident person.’

    It will help you radiate more confidence. Which can be hot.

  3. Find common ground

    Once you have the confidence to go over, introduce yourself and try to find something you both have in common. Begin by asking a simple question – you don’t have to be really original! Like:

    ‘Have you been to this place before?’

    ‘Do you and your friends come here regularly?’

    If you’re at a party, perhaps ask how the person knows the host. Try to work out if you have friends in common. The conversation has begun!

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Making conversation

Start off talking about easy topics such as a film you’ve seen or music you like. Once the conversation gets flowing, you can show more of your personality. Talk about your likes and see and if they’re interested in similar things. But don’t just talk about yourself. Ask questions, keep eye contact, and give plenty of signs to show you’re listening and really interested. For example:

‘I love this song that’s playing now! What music do you like?’

‘My friends and I tried that new restaurant. It was amazing. What kind of food do you like?’

  • Flattery will get you everywhere Flattery is a gateway to flirting. But first make sure the conversation is going and you feel comfortable. A compliment must always be sincere – people can see through lies and it will only make you seem insecure. Don’t mention intimate physical features though – bum, boobs, body. It will nearly always be offensive. Eyes, hair or clothes are usually fairly safe territory. You could try:

    ‘I couldn’t help noticing how lovely your eyes are.’

    ‘By the way, that dress looks amazing on you.’

    ‘That shirt looks really great on you.’

    ‘I really like your laugh, it makes me smile.’

  • Be yourself If you pretend to be someone you’re not, you will get found out at some point. If you want someone to like the real you, be honest. (That doesn’t mean launch into your whole life story and tell them all about your ex boyfriends or girlfriends!)

  • Exchanging numbers If the conversation goes well and you feel a connection, suggest swapping mobile numbers. Then if you’re going out at the weekend, call to ask if they’d like to come along. Or if they had previously mentioned a new film, suggest seeing it together. Say how great it was to meet them, and that you’re looking forward to seeing them again.

exchanging numbers
  • Don’t be afraid of rejection

    People get worried about the person not wanting to talk to them. But if you don’t try, you’ll never know and you may end up regretting not having the courage to speak to them. If the person is not interested in talking to you, don’t take it personally. Maybe they’re having a bad day or dealing with something else that you don’t know about.

Be polite

If the conversation is not going anywhere, no worries! Just be polite and say it was nice to meet them and wish them a nice day, before joining your friends or moving on. Always be friendly, you might see them again and you want to be remembered for being polite and respectful.

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So as you know there is no Formula for this!! You may want to make an impression by first being very smart, clean, hygienic, well dressed, ( not expensive, but neat and smart) and Most Importantly, a nice, sweet , interesting person, who respects women. Try and find out what the girl likes, ask her about herself.. Show interest in her life and dreams, share yours.. NEVER be a ""stalker""...chasing her everywhere, FB / wassap/ e-mail/ phone - terrible habits!! So Make Friends First and everything else, Later. Ok? Also read these links: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/love-and-relationships https://lovematters.in/news/how-do-i-get-girlfriend If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Yesterday in party I met with a girl actually I fond of her and followed her till last but did not dare to ask any thing to start conversation. Because all time she was surrounded by her friends and family but in last I have given my number to her through the waiter. She did not yet replied I don't know whether it is good or weird or silly things. What would be right according to you.
Its a very sweet and sexy thing to do Beta and very cool! But now - you have to be ekdum cool too. She gets back fine, if not - also equally fine . Ok? Now relax and be happy!! Give yourself some time - after which stop waiting!! https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/love-and-relationships If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Dear Rajveer as you know there is no Formula for this!! You may want to make an impression by first being very smart, clean, hygienic, well dressed, ( not expensive, but neat and smart) and Most Importantly, a nice, sweet , interesting person, who respects women. Try and find out what the girl likes, ask her about herself.. Show interest in her life and dreams, share yours.. NEVER be a ""stalker""...chasing her everywhere, FB / wassap/ e-mail/ phone - terrible habits!! So Make Friends First and everything else, Later. Ok? Also read these links: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/love-and-relationships https://lovematters.in/news/how-do-i-get-girlfriend If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
So as you know there is no Formula for this Harry bete!! You may want to make an impression by first being very smart, clean, hygienic, well dressed, ( not expensive, but neat and smart) and Most Importantly, a nice, sweet , interesting person, who respects women. Try and find out what the girl likes, ask her about herself.. Show interest in her life and dreams, share yours.. NEVER be a ""stalker""...chasing her everywhere, FB / wassap/ e-mail/ phone - terrible habits!! So Make Friends First and everything else, Later. Ok? Also read these links: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/love-and-relationships https://lovematters.in/news/how-do-i-get-girlfriend If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
That’s so sweet! Why dont you consider just saying Hi!! Try and become good friends. If you already have something in common like your coaching? So it could be easy to start talking. Also read these links: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/love-and-relationships If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Vivek bete you may want to make an impression by first being very smart, clean, hygienic, well dressed, ( not expensive, but neat and smart) and Most Importantly, a nice, sweet , interesting person, who respects women. Try and find out what the girl likes, ask her about herself.. Show interest in her life and dreams, share yours.. NEVER be a ""stalker""...chasing her everywhere, FB / wassap/ e-mail/ phone - terrible habits!! So Make Friends First and everything else, Later. Ok? Also read these links: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/love-and-relationships https://lovematters.in/news/how-do-i-get-girlfriend If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Sorry! Contact number ki suvidha toh upalabadhj nahi, lekin aap apni samasya hame yaha likh sakte hain, hum poori koshish karenge, aapko sahi salah dene ki. Yadi aap kisi bhee mudde par humse gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Rayeen bete toh sabse pahle dost banaiye, dosti ke liye na ki gf ke liye, phir dekhiye kya baat bantee hai. Zara soch khulli kijiye!! Apna look theek thaak kijiye, saaf suthre to dikhiye... koi badbudaar nahin!! Aur alag alag baaton mein dilchaspi rakhiye aur dikhaiye!! Ise padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-do-i-get-girlfriend https://lovematters.in/hi/our-bodies/male-body/mens-hygiene Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Dear you may try to make an impression by first being very smart, clean, hygienic, well dressed, (not expensive, but neat and smart) and Most Importantly, a nice, sweet, interesting person, who respects women or men. Try and find out what that person likes, ask about herself or himself.. Show interest in her/his life and dreams, share yours.. NEVER be a "stalker"...chasing everywhere, FB / wassap/ e-mail/ phone - terrible habits!! So Make Friends First and everything else, Later. Ok? Also read these links: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/love-and-relationships https://lovematters.in/news/how-do-i-get-girlfriend https://lovematters.in/en/love-and-relationships/meeting-someone/how-to-date https://lovematters.in/en/our-bodies/male-body/mens-hygiene If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Ha Ha bete!! Yeh jaan lijiye ki kaun, kis baat se impress ho jaye yeh kahna kathin hai, lekin kyun na aap "Hi" se shuruat kare aur pahle dosti karen, apne interest aur unke interest ke bare me baat kar sakte hain. ise padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/meeting-someone/how-to-date https://lovematters.in/hi/our-bodies/male-body/mens-hygiene Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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