Premature ejaculation
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I ejaculate too soon – help!

By Auntyji Tuesday, January 29, 2013 - 16:02
I suffer from premature ejaculation. I ejaculate too soon when I have sex. How can I make intercourse last longer? Bilal, Delhi.

Auntyji says, 'Bilal betaji, most men aren’t up for sex marathons. So please do not psych yourself out about premature ejaculation - you are not alone!' No, no, I am not making it up. All these hi-fi researchers in Amrica say that at least one in 20 men regularly suffers from premature ejaculation.

Hotha hi rehta hai. And more than a quarter of all men usually come sooner than they’d like. The only problem is that people are just too embarrassed to talk about it. Especially young kids these days prefer to remain cooped up about most things in their life.

Talk to her

That is why, I am glad you decided to share your problem with me. Most importantly I will urge you to share it with your partner if you haven’t already done that.Even more interesting research has shown that about 60% women do not understand this problem.

And without meaning to, they can make things worse. Their words or actions can be the cause of anxiety and stress and this can worsen the problem. So it is better that you tell her all about it and all the treatments that are available to fix it.

Stop-start exercise

My dear puttar, I don’t know if you have heard about the stop and start method. It is an exercise that is usually recommended by sexual therapists and has a success rate of 95%. The idea behind this method is to stop for about 10 to 30 seconds when you come close to climax.

Then you should wait till the urge subsides. Go back to stimulation and repeat the same process. After a few cycles you can let yourself ejaculate.I must tell you that this is a fun exercise that should help you last longer. See the most important advantage of this start stop method is that one learns to control their ejaculation at will. If you are ready to practice, you will be able to last as long as you want.

Treatment programme

Don’t lose hope if this does not work for you after all. Absolutely no harm in reaching out to a professional sex therapist if the need arises. There’s nothing to be embarrassed about here. And as I said earlier premature ejaculation is a very common problem and therefore has a lot of treatments. You kids are living in the age of technology where there is no dearth of innovation.

Recently I was reading about a new, hand-held, battery operated device which is proving to be an effective way to treat premature ejaculation. From what I remember this device is part of a treatment programme called Prolong.

Pardon my forgetfulness betaji, your aunty is growing old you see. But it said that there are no side effects or barriers to accessing the treatment.[Auntyji might not remember the details, but fortunately you can read more in this article: Prolonging the pleasure for hair-trigger lovers ed.]

Pleasure her

One more thing betaji, thinking about your partner’s pleasure, remember there are many ways to please us ladies. There are more ways to make love than just intercourse. In fact only around a third of women ever reach a climax through intercourse alone. So don't just rely on thrusting away with your penis for as long as you can. Also your fingers, your tongue and your imagination! And talk to her about what feels good.

I am sure that by enjoying all that lovemaking has to offer, and with the start-stop exercise and general relaxation, you will do much better. Like I have said earlier, these problems only aggravate with stress. So just keep calm, follow some of my advice and not to worry. All will be well soon.

To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model and names have been changed. 

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Comments
Is masturbation harmful for boy.. ? can i masturbat evryday.? Can i able to pregenent to my wife . If i will do too much masturbation.
aunty by mistake mene apni g.f k sath last mnth 24 April ko uske 1St day of mc m sex kr lia tha nd mene condom bhi use Kia tha nd usne pill bhi kha li thi safty k lie bt today she says ki usko periods nhi ho rhe h 1 mnth se wt cn I do? help me
Suniye safe sex ke liey condom ka istemal kiya jaata hai naa ki emergency pills ka bête, yaha padho zara: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex yeh emergency goli hai aur yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai.. PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye. Aur ab kya sthithi hai bete? kya abhi tak kisi doctor se mile aap? yadi nahi toh phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se mililye. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy http://www.fpaindia.org/
Auntiji mujhai bhi ejaculate too soon ki problem hai mai pichlai kuch dino sai is chiz ka solution doond rha tha too mujhai nett pai baba ramdev ki kuch ayrvedic mediciens kai brai mai ptta chala jai sai ki divya yauvanamrta vati or divya chandraprabha vati or divya shilajeet rasayan vati kya yai mediciens mai use kar sakta hoo ap ki iskai brai mai kya rai hai please jarror btai
divyanshu
Tue, 08/11/2015 - 22:35
Aunti ji jb me meri wife ko sex krta hu toh uski vagina se har 2 min baad white liquid sa nikalta h kya yeh koi disease h ...please tell me
Bete kahin aap kisi tension, pressure mein toh nahi hain na? yeh samjh lijiey ki sex karnay ke liey bilkul tanav mukt hona zaruri hai bête Jis baaray mein aur yaha padh lo : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/4-signs-you-have-erectile-dysfunction https://lovematters.in/hi/news/erection-trouble-where-turn
sumit sharma
Sun, 02/26/2017 - 16:23
aunty Ji.. I am 26 yr old. I am single and musterbate once in a week. but when sometimes, I musterbate daily for 4-5 days. I loose a bit of body mass then I had to stop musterbating for almost 15 days to regain that body mass. is this a problem? what should I do?
Relax bete! Masturbation is not related to this. Masturbation is a safe way to satisfy yourself. It would do no harm nor any illness. But there are many other activities where you can spend or utilize your time such as sports, games Or hobbies. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
My penis is bend and twist to the left side and I have discharge problem when I think about sex even when I wake up in the morning. What I can do now?
Relax! It seems as if by morning discharge, you mean nightfall. If yes, don't worry. Wet dreams and nightfall, is very common and have no negative effects on a person's health. It's not a disease hence there's no cure. Rest you can read here: https://lovematters.in/en/term/wet-dreams https://lovematters.in/en/news/wet-dreams-top-five-facts For curvature of penis too, worry not, its very common, just read this: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizesc If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bete hastmaithun iska karan nahi ho sakta hai, kyunki hastmaithun ek safe aur surakshit tarika hai, apni santushti ka, isse koi nuksan nahi hota. Aur yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh shighrpatan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. Aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activities sabse zaroori hain. Iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hastmaithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kum karne mein madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. Yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/i-ejaculate-too-soon-help Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mahesh puttar yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh shighrpatan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. Aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activities sabse zaroori hain. Iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hastmaithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kum karne mein madadgaar saabit ho sakta hai. Yaha padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/i-ejaculate-too-soon-help Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare Facebook aur Instagram mein zarur shamil ho- https://www.facebook.com/lovematters.india?mibextid=LQQJ4d https://instagram.com/lovemattersindia?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
बेटा यदि शरीर में उत्तेजना अधिक होगी, सेक्स की भावना ज़्यादा होगी तो शीघ्र पतन होने की संभावना भी अधिक ही होगी.ऐसी स्थिती में, पार्ट्नर पर फोकस बढ़ाना, फोरप्ले , यानी की प्रवेश करने से पहले बहुत से अलग अलग क्रियाएं करना , जिनसे दोनो को आनंद मिले, अपने पार्ट्नर की उत्तेजना बढ़ाना, यह सब activities सबसे ज़रूरी हैं. इसके इलावा, पार्ट्नर के साथ सेक्स करने से पहले, एक बार हस्त्मेथुन कर सकते हैं, उतने समय पहले जीतने में लिंग में तनाव आ जाए. कॉंडम का इस्तेमाल भी जल्दी discharge में help करता है. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/i-ejaculate-too-soon-help यदि इस मुद्दे पर आप और गहरी चर्चा में जुड़ना चाहते हैं, तो हमारे डिस्कशन बोर्ड, " जस्ट पूछो" में ज़रूर शामिल हों. https://lovematters.in/en/forum
tara datt
Mon, 06/27/2022 - 10:04
मैम मैं पिछले 2 साल से शीघ्रपतन जैसी समस्या से परेशान हूँ मैं जब भी सैक्स करता हूँ तो पैहली बार मैं 30 सैकेंड मैं ही डिस्चार्ज हो जाता हूँ , नहीं और दूसरी एवं तीसरी बार का टाईम ठीक रैहता है मेरी उम्र 29 वर्ष है
बेटा जल्दी होने से कोई बात नहीं, don't worry. सबसे पहले तो अपनी पार्ट्नर की बॉडी को समझ लो- उसको टाइम दो. और यदि शरीर में उत्तेजना अधिक होगी, सेक्स की भावना ज़्यादा होगी तो शीघ्र पतन होने की संभावना भी अधिक ही होगी.ऐसी स्थिती में, पार्ट्नर पर फोकस बढ़ाना, फोरप्ले, यानी की प्रवेश करने से पहले बहुत से अलग अलग क्रियाएं करना, जिनसे दोनो को आनंद मिले, अपने पार्ट्नर की उत्तेजना बढ़ाना, यह सब activities सबसे ज़रूरी हैं. इसके इलावा, पार्ट्नर के साथ सेक्स करने से पहले, एक बार हस्त्मेथुन कर सकते हैं, उतने समय पहले जीतने में लिंग में तनाव आ जाए. कॉंडम का इस्तेमाल भी जल्दी discharge में help करता है. और बेटे अपना कोई भी व्यक्तिगत सूचना यहां साझा ना करें, जैसे कि अपना मोबाइल नम्बर, ok! इसे पढ़िए: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/i-ejaculate-too-soon-help यदि इस मुद्दे पर आप और गहरी चर्चा में जुड़ना चाहते हैं, तो हमारे डिस्कशन बोर्ड, " जस्ट पूछो" में ज़रूर शामिल हों. https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Harsh rathore
Sun, 07/10/2022 - 10:18
Aunti ji ma abhi 16 sal ka hu aur jab ma 12 sal ka tha tab sa masturbation kar rahu hu jab ma masturbation kar raha hota hu tab mana notice kiya ki ma 1 minute ka andar hi lik ho ja raha hu please esa thik karna ka upai bataya please.
Dekhiye Harsh bete hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahi hoti. Yeh bhee padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating https://lovematters.in/hi/our-bodies/is-masturbation-unhealthy Aur yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/i-ejaculate-too-soon-help Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna   chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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