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Safe or unsafe?

Making love is a fantastic part of life, but sex can also carry risks. There’s the risk of catching or passing on HIV or other sexually transmitted diseases. And also of getting pregnant, or getting your partner pregnant, when that’s not something you want.

To help you think about how to keep your lovemaking safe, the information below runs through different ways of having sex and the risks they carry for sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancy. The risks described here are if you don’t use protection – condoms, dental dams or contraceptives.

Of course, there are many other kinds of sexual contact apart from the ones mentioned here – too many to include every possibility in detail. But bear this principle in mind: there’s a risk of catching or passing on a sexually transmitted disease, including HIV, if sperm, vaginal fluid or blood comes into contact with a partner’s mucous membrane – that means in the vagina, the end of the penis, or the mouth.

Kissing, tongue kissing

Using your mouth and tongue to touch your partner’s tongue, lips and mouth.

Safe for HIV

Safe for other sexually transmitted diseases. 

If you or your partner has a sexually transmitted disease in your mouth, there’s a small risk of catching or passing on gonorrhoea, syphilis, Candida or hepatitis B.

Safe for pregnancy

Massaging, caressing

Stroking or kneading each others bodies, perhaps using massage oil

Safe for HIV

Safe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Safe for pregnancy

If you have intercourse after massaging, make sure the condom doesn’t come in contact with massage oil. The oil can make the condom break.

Masturbating yourself or your partner

Massaging the penis or clitoris to give yourself or your partner an orgasm.

Usually safe for HIV

Usually safe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Usually safe for pregnancy

There’s a small risk of catching or passing on HIV or another sexually transmitted disease, or of getting pregnant, if you pass sperm, menstrual blood or fluid from the vagina or anus of one person to the vagina or anus of the other person.

You can catch scabies or pubic lice through intimate physical contact.

Dry 'humping'

Rubbing your bodies together for sexual pleasure, either with or without clothes on.

Safe for HIV

Safe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching scabies or pubic lice if you have no clothes on.

Safe for pregnancy

Contact between vagina and penis (without intercourse)

Rubbing your genitals together or having them very close together.

Safe for HIV 

unless sperm or pre-ejaculate (the clear liquid that comes out of the penis when you are aroused but before you come) gets inside the vagina

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, genital warts, genital herpes and scabies.

Safe for pregnancy

unless pre-ejaculate or sperm gets inside the vagina

Contact between vagina and vagina

Rubbing your vaginas together or having them very close together.

Safe for HIV

unless one person’s vaginal fluid gets inside the other person’s vagina

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, genital warts, genital herpes and scabies.

Safe for pregnancy

Contact between penis and penis

Rubbing your penises together or having them very close together.

Safe for HIV

unless one person’s sperm or pre-ejaculate (the clear liquid that comes out of the penis when you are aroused but before you come) gets inside the other person’s urethra

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, genital warts, genital herpes and scabies.

Safe for pregnancy

Vaginal intercourse

The man putting his penis inside the woman's vagina, with or without the man ejaculating or the woman having an orgasm

Unsafe for HIV

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Serious risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, trichomoniasis, genital warts, genital herpes, pubic lice and scabies.

Unsafe for pregnancy

Oral sex on a woman

Simulating the vagina and clitoris with your mouth and tongue

Safe for HIV

unless the woman has her period

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Even if the woman does not have her period, there's a risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, syphilis, herpes, pubic lice if the man has a beard, and scabies through intimate contact

Safe for pregnancy

Oral sex on a man

Simulating the penis with your mouth and tongue

Safe for HIV 

unless the man comes in your mouth. Then it’s unsafe for the person giving oral sex.

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching or passing on syphilis, herpes, Chlamydia or gonorrhoea

Safe for pregnancy

Anal intercourse

The man putting his penis inside another person’s anus

Unsafe for HIV

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases



Serious risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, genital warts, genital herpes, pubic lice and scabies.

Safe for pregnancy

Licking the anus

Simulating the anus with your mouth and tongue

Safe for HIV 

unless the anus is bleeding due to anal sex or haemorrhoids (piles)

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching or passing on Chlamydia, gonorrhoea, syphilis or hepatitis A.

Safe for pregnancy

Withdrawal

Having intercourse but pulling the penis out of the vagina before ejaculation

Unsafe for HIV

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Serious risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, trichomoniasis, genital warts, genital herpes, pubic lice and scabies.

Unsafe for pregnancy

Sadomasochism (SM)

Sadism is getting sexual pleasure by hurting or dominating another person. Masochism is getting sexual pleasure by being hurt or dominated by another person.

Safe for HIV

Safe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Safe for pregnancy

Safe if there are no cuts or bleeding and equipment or objects are cleaned thoroughly after use.

Using sex toys

Stimulating your partner using sex toys such as dildos or vibrators.

Safe for HIV

Safe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Safe for pregnancy

Safe if you use a sex toy on one person only or clean the toy well before using it on another person. You can also put a condom on a vibrator or dildo. Change the condom before using the toy on another person.

Comments

Oral sex karnay mein koi samsya nahi maslan saaf-safai ka poora dhyan rakha gaya ho aur ismay dono partners ki barab marzi shamil! aur behtar hoga yadi condom ka isteml kiya jaey. Aur Kyunki Mukh maithun ka sabse ehem pehlu hai atyant saaf safai – dono partners keliye, iska dhyaan rakhiye. All the best beta. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0

Mam meine last week apni ek frn jise aids hai usse smooch ki.. or meine bus kuch seconds k liy uske andher apna penis Dala or bahar Nikal Liya es se mjhe toh aids nhi hoga na

Shekhar bete, yaad rakhiye chahe ling ka sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua hao, bina condom ke wo unsafe hain. Kisi bhee` doubt mein se rehne se achha hai ki ek HIV test zaroor kar lein. Saath hi sex mein jo bhi karein, SAFE karein. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum

my wife does not love me. she does not allow me to come closer and start excuses just after getting into the bed. This has spoiled my life. i m very much stressed by her strange and irritated behaviou. pl help me wht to do?

Ohhh! relax kabir bête, I can understand your situation, it is indeed very sad to know. Have you ever tried to know the reasons that why she is not liking it, has she something to say on this? Maybe she is not liking the way the sexal activity is conducted or is very worried about something? How is your relationship with her otherwise, do you get along or is this the big problem between you both? Find ways to address this dear.

I'm masturbating since I was 12 yo earlier I do it once in a week but now since last two to three weeks it is thrice in a week and I ejaculate after few strocks and my size is also not long . I'm now 26 yo and I'm worried will it affect my married life in future . Also I'm unable to stop my this addiction please help me.

Listen Deepak bête masturbating is quite common thing also its quite safe to satisfy oneself. Also let it be known that this is often a part of married life even and it does not really effect anyone adversely. So relax and engage in other activities to get your mind off this, maybe some games, gym exercise, some hobbies maybe?

Auntyji I had sex wearing a condom. When I was about to ejaculate I removed my penis but before complete removal I ejaculated. I was wearing a condom at that time and ejaculated inside it nearcvaginal opening. only. Is there any chance of partner getting pregnant?

If there was no damage or leekage in the condom there is a negligible chance for one to get pregnant. To be sure please take a home pregnancy test after 10 days of sex. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask". https://lovematters.in/en/forum

There is no such way, to avoid unwanted pregnancy and any kind of infection it is necessary to use condom. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask". https://lovematters.in/en/forum

DO you mean sex during period's? So, there are negligible chances for one to get pregnant. But please remember to use a condom to avoid any kind of infections. https://lovematters.in/en/resource/faqs-period https://lovematters.in/en/news/sex-during-my-period-do-i-need-contraception If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask". https://lovematters.in/en/forum

I had been masturbating since i am 12 yrs old nowadys i contunied this thrice a week. Is there any interval between two masturbations .. now i am 18 yrs old... i have the habit of watching porn videos

Relax beta! Masturbation is a safe way to satisfy oneself. It would neither harm nor cause any illness. There is no such predecided interval to masturbate, it depends on one's personal choice. And please remember intension behind watching porn should be only entertainment, don't try to apply that to real life. https://lovematters.in/en/resource/men-masturbating If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask". https://lovematters.in/en/forum

Beta essa koi tareeka nahi hai,Bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhee nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum

Hi aunty ji, my wife enjoy oral sex on my penis without condom, i am not suffering from any kind of sexual deseas, is it safe for her? Is it safe to give oral sex to her without protection? She also has no any sexual problem.

auntyji mene ajtk sirf masturbrate hi kiya hai mujhe abhi gf mili hai meri age 22 hai mujhe sex krna hai darr lg rha hai....

Bete pehli baar sex karte samay; kya karna hai kya nahi karna hai, aur first sex ko kese theek tarah se kiya jaye iss baare mein aap yaha detail mein padh lijiye : https://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum

Beta, jaldi aana koi badi baat nahi, dont worry. Sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Aur yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik ho sakti hai. Aisee stithi mein partner par focus badhaye yani ki foreplay; pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaien karna jo aap niche diye gaye link par jaake padh sakte hai, apne partner kee uttejna badhane ke liye, yeh sab activities karna sabse zaroori hain. Iske elava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle ek baar hastmaithun kar sakte hai, utne samay pehle jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi aapki iss samasya ko sujhane mein madad kar sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Samar khan
Fri, 02/26/2016 - 14:06

Hello aunty me samar mene apni gf ke sath pahle condom ke sath kia aur jab nikal gaya uske baad pani se saaf karke bina condom ke kia aur andar nikala bhi nai to kya pragnant ho sakti hai meri gf

Ji haan bilkul! Yeh ek bohot badi mithya hai ki sperm bahar nikalne se garbhdharan nahi hota hai kyunk pregnant hone ke liye ek shukranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Isse bachne ke liye condom ka istemaal karna chahiye. Zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/10-most-common-contraception-myths Sure hone ke liye unprotected sex ke 10 din baad aap ek home test kar sakte hai. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? Saath hi kisi visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se bhi mil lijiye. https://www.fpaindia.org/ https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum

Rubbing the vagina will not lead to pregnancy till the time the penis does not enter the vagina. Please don't forget to use a condom to avoid any kind of infection. If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask". https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Raghav sharma
Thu, 04/21/2016 - 09:29

Aunty ji....mene kal apni gf k sath without condam sex kiya par sperm nahi nikala....lekin penis...to lubricant hota h na...lachila type wesa tha...to kya pregnant k chance hai ? Plz help me...mujhe dar lag raha h Kya aise pregnant hote hai ?

Ji haan bilkul! Yeh ek bohot badi mithya hai ki sperm bahar nikalne se garbhdharan nahi hota hai kyunk pregnant hone ke liye ek shukranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Isse bachne ke liye condom ka istemaal karna chahiye. Zara yeh padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/10-most-common-contraception-myths Sure hone ke liye unprotected sex ke 10 din baad aap ek home test kar sakte hai. Morning urine sample is much better for this. Ok? Saath hi kisi visheshagya ya ache panjikrit doctor se bhi mil lijiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Aap iss baare mein humse vristaar mein charcha humare discussion board "just poocho" par aakar humse kar sakte hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/forum

dear, Doctors plese help me my pien is 10 inches long and 6 inches width when i sex my wife after that his owery infection is due on same time. kindly help me

Please see a doctor for her immediately. Any infection in the body should not be ignored. Please understand that big sizes may be very attractive to those who don't have them but can be very painful and of no use to the partner.

hi. im so worried about my girlfriend. i finger her st least twice a month and she likes the satisfaction i give her. but im so confused and worried because every time i do it she bleeds alot. i mean, is that her hymen stretching? the longer i do it, the more blood come out. i ask her if it hurts, but she keeps telling me not to worry about anything and that nothing is painful down there. i also ask her if maybe shes on her period but she says she is not and there is not bleeding that much after that. but im so worried because of the blood every time. i keep thinking what was causing her to bleed that much and maybe i am doing something terribly wrong. i dont know what to do/ please help.

Bete cassie, bleeding every time after having any kind of sexual activity is not very common and safe. Please consult to a doctor as soon as possible. Do read this link also: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.en/en/forum Take care!

Yadi un lady ko HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai.. Aur yadi unhe HIV nhai hai toh yeh nahi ho SAKTA! lekin phir bhi kisi bhi doubt mein se rehne se achha hai ki ek HIV test zarrur kar lein. Saath hi sex mein Jo bhi karein, SAFE karein. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
rajesh kumar saini
Sun, 08/28/2016 - 12:48

hi, Maine apni gf k sath oral sex kiya tha. usne apne mouth mey mera penis liya tha without condom k but maine oral sex se pahle apna penis water se saaf kar liya tha. oral sex k time maine apna sperm uske mouth mey nahi daala tha aur uske bad bahar hi nikal diya. fir usne penis par condom laga diya fir hmne sex kiya. sex krne k bad jab maine penis bahar nikala to condom ko hath se chuker dekha to wo chipchipa tha . fir condom nikalkar water se saaf kar liya. esse koi infection to nahi hoga na. kya hmne safe sex kiya h? hiv infection ka karan to ni h?

rajesh kumar saini, ismein itna dhona aur parehsan hone ki zarurat nahi hai, aap sex ke douran bus condom ka istemal karei aur nischint rahein aur bus yeh dhyan rakhein ki condom fatte nahi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum

Bete rajsa, yadi yeh sex unsafe yaani hai bina condom ke toh sanrkamn ka kahtra ho sakta hai. isliye condom ka istemal anivarya hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum

If you both are comfortable during this it is fine: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/anal-sex https://lovematters.in/en/news/anal-sex-dos-and-donts If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask" . https://lovematters.in/en/forum
NILESH PURI
Fri, 09/23/2016 - 19:16

Aunty ji kya oral sex karna safe hai ? And oral sex k liye sahi tarika konsa hai ? And vagina ko chatne ka sahi tarika bataiye pease

Bete NILESH Oral sex karnay mein koi samsya nahi maslan saaf-safai ka poora dhyan rakha gaya ho aur ismay dono partners ki barab marzi shamil! aur behtar hoga yadi condom ka isteml kiya jaey. Lekin Kyunki Mukh maithun ka sabse ehem pehlu hai atyant saaf safai – dono partners keliye, iska dhyaan rakhiye. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum

Hiii auntiji Maine schools days main kaii bar without condom sex kiya bt ejaculated andar nahi kiya aur main ab apni wife ke sath bhi unprotected sex krta hu. Kya mujhe aids hone ka khtra hai........

Beta! Yadi jis vyakti ke saath aap unsafe sex kiya aur kar rahe hain use HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai. Duniya bhar mein sabse adhik HIV casess, sex ke zariye hue hain.Lekin HIV aur bhi kai asurakshit karano se hota hai.So! Zara detail mein yeh niche diya hua link padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum

main 15 saal ka tha tabse masturbating karta tha ab meri umar 24 hai....mujhe pareshani ye hai ki mera sperm kum matra me nikal ta hai..iss se koi pareshani nahi na hogi shadi ke baad...plzzz rply me...

Masturbation ya hastmaithun ko jimmedaar mat maaniye. Yeh ek safe/surakshit tareeka hai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti. Bete virya ka gadha-mota hone se koi sambandh nahi hai zara yeh padho: https://lovematters.in/en/resource/ejaculation https://lovematters.in/en/news/semen-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/en/news/watery-semen-dont-blame-masturbation Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum

Dear aunti ji mughy yeh poch na hai k agar suck karte howe discharge hone se pehley koi karta mo mai aa jay tu kya HIV ho sakta hai

Yadi us viykati ko HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai.. Aur yadi unhe HIV nhai hai toh yeh nahi ho SAKTA! lekin phir bhi kisi bhi doubt mein se rehne se achha hai ki ek HIV test zarrur kar lein. Saath hi sex mein Jo bhi karein, SAFE karein. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Sana khan #1
Fri, 01/06/2017 - 17:16

Aunty ji mai apne pati se pregnant hona chahti hu lekin WO agree nhi hai aap koi aisi dawai btaye ki unko pata Abhee na chale aur mai pregnant ho jau bhut jaruri anty ji please help me koi aisi dwa jise unko pata na lge ki unake shukranu mere ander aa jaye aur mai pregnant ho jau aur unka bhut ho jata hai
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