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Safe or unsafe?

Making love is a fantastic part of life, but sex can also carry risks. There’s the risk of catching or passing on HIV or other sexually transmitted diseases. And also of getting pregnant, or getting your partner pregnant, when that’s not something you want.

To help you think about how to keep your lovemaking safe, the information below runs through different ways of having sex and the risks they carry for sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancy. The risks described here are if you don’t use protection – condoms, dental dams or contraceptives.

Of course, there are many other kinds of sexual contact apart from the ones mentioned here – too many to include every possibility in detail. But bear this principle in mind: there’s a risk of catching or passing on a sexually transmitted disease, including HIV, if sperm, vaginal fluid or blood comes into contact with a partner’s mucous membrane – that means in the vagina, the end of the penis, or the mouth.

Kissing, tongue kissing

Using your mouth and tongue to touch your partner’s tongue, lips and mouth.

Safe for HIV

Safe for other sexually transmitted diseases. 

If you or your partner has a sexually transmitted disease in your mouth, there’s a small risk of catching or passing on gonorrhoea, syphilis, Candida or hepatitis B.

Safe for pregnancy

Massaging, caressing

Stroking or kneading each others bodies, perhaps using massage oil

Safe for HIV

Safe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Safe for pregnancy

If you have intercourse after massaging, make sure the condom doesn’t come in contact with massage oil. The oil can make the condom break.

Masturbating yourself or your partner

Massaging the penis or clitoris to give yourself or your partner an orgasm.

Usually safe for HIV

Usually safe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Usually safe for pregnancy

There’s a small risk of catching or passing on HIV or another sexually transmitted disease, or of getting pregnant, if you pass sperm, menstrual blood or fluid from the vagina or anus of one person to the vagina or anus of the other person.

 

 

You can catch scabies or pubic lice through intimate physical contact.

Dry 'humping'

Rubbing your bodies together for sexual pleasure, either with or without clothes on.

Safe for HIV

Safe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching scabies or pubic lice if you have no clothes on.

Safe for pregnancy

Contact between vagina and penis (without intercourse)

Rubbing your genitals together or having them very close together.

Safe for HIV 

unless sperm or pre-ejaculate (the clear liquid that comes out of the penis when you are aroused but before you come) gets inside the vagina

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, genital warts, genital herpes and scabies.

Safe for pregnancy

unless pre-ejaculate or sperm gets inside the vagina

Contact between vagina and vagina

Rubbing your vaginas together or having them very close together.

Safe for HIV

unless one person’s vaginal fluid gets inside the other person’s vagina

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, genital warts, genital herpes and scabies.

Safe for pregnancy

Contact between penis and penis

Rubbing your penises together or having them very close together.

Safe for HIV

unless one person’s sperm or pre-ejaculate (the clear liquid that comes out of the penis when you are aroused but before you come) gets inside the other person’s urethra

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, genital warts, genital herpes and scabies.

Safe for pregnancy

Vaginal intercourse

The man putting his penis inside the woman's vagina, with or without the man ejaculating or the woman having an orgasm

Unsafe for HIV

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Serious risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, trichomoniasis, genital warts, genital herpes, pubic lice and scabies.

Unsafe for pregnancy

Oral sex on a woman

Simulating the vagina and clitoris with your mouth and tongue

Safe for HIV

unless the woman has her period

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Even if the woman does not have her period, there's a risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, syphilis, herpes, pubic lice if the man has a beard, and scabies through intimate contact

Safe for pregnancy

Oral sex on a man

Simulating the penis with your mouth and tongue

Safe for HIV 

unless the man comes in your mouth. Then it’s unsafe for the person giving oral sex.

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching or passing on syphilis, herpes, Chlamydia or gonorrhoea

Safe for pregnancy

Anal intercourse

The man putting his penis inside another person’s anus

Unsafe for HIV

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

 

 


Serious risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, genital warts, genital herpes, pubic lice and scabies.

 

 

Safe for pregnancy

Licking the anus

Simulating the anus with your mouth and tongue

Safe for HIV 

unless the anus is bleeding due to anal sex or haemorrhoids (piles)

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching or passing on Chlamydia, gonorrhoea, syphilis or hepatitis A.

Safe for pregnancy

Withdrawal

Having intercourse but pulling the penis out of the vagina before ejaculation

Unsafe for HIV

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Serious risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, trichomoniasis, genital warts, genital herpes, pubic lice and scabies.

Unsafe for pregnancy

Sadomasochism (SM)

Sadism is getting sexual pleasure by hurting or dominating another person. Masochism is getting sexual pleasure by being hurt or dominated by another person.

Safe for HIV

Safe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Safe for pregnancy

Safe if there are no cuts or bleeding and equipment or objects are cleaned thoroughly after use.

Using sex toys

Stimulating your partner using sex toys such as dildos or vibrators.

Safe for HIV

Safe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Safe for pregnancy

Safe if you use a sex toy on one person only or clean the toy well before using it on another person. You can also put a condom on a vibrator or dildo. Change the condom before using the toy on another person.

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Yadi us viykati ko HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai.. Aur yadi unhe HIV nhai hai toh yeh nahi ho SAKTA! lekin phir bhi kisi bhi doubt mein se rehne se achha hai ki ek HIV test zarrur kar lein. Saath hi sex mein Jo bhi karein, SAFE karein. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Sana khan #1
Fri, 01/06/2017 - 17:16
Aunty ji mai apne pati se pregnant hona chahti hu lekin WO agree nhi hai aap koi aisi dawai btaye ki unko pata Abhee na chale aur mai pregnant ho jau bhut jaruri anty ji please help me koi aisi dwa jise unko pata na lge ki unake shukranu mere ander aa jaye aur mai pregnant ho jau aur unka bhut ho jata hai
Sana beti, pregnancy sirf aapka decision nahi hain. Aap thoda wait kijiye jab unki bhi marzi ho. Unhone ye toh nahi kaha ki ve kabhi baby nahi chahte, hai na? Tab tak apne career par focus kijiye, apne rishte pe focus kijiye, financial stability pe focus kijiye. ek doosre ko jaano, ghoomo, baahr jao. Waise bhi jaldi bhi kya hain? Yaad rahe beta, ki baby Ke aatey hee yeh sab change ho jaata hai- dono partners ke ke beech mein bhi bahut kuchh badal jaata hai, hain na… so jab tak fully ready na ho, thoda time do. Theek hai? Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Maine ek prostitute ke sath sex kiya bina condom ke kya is se hiv ho sakta hai ladki ke rahi thi use hiv nahi hai aisse mein kya karna chhaiye mein kafi darra hua hu iupj3
Jinke bhi saath aap sex kar rahe hai, yadi unhe HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai.. Aur yadi unhe HIV nhai hai toh yeh nahi ho SAKTA! lekin phir bhi kisi bhi doubt mein se rehne se achha hai ki ek HIV test zarrur kar lein. Saath hi sex mein Jo bhi karein, SAFE karein. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in
Beta! Yadi jis viykati ke saath aap unsafe sex kar rahe hain use HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai. Duniya bhar mein sabse adhik HIV casess, sex ke zariye hue hain.Lekin HIV aur bhi kai asurakshit karano se hota hai.So! Zara detail mein yeh niche diya hua link padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhi nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
shahil singh
Sat, 04/15/2017 - 22:40
Mam Maine apni gf se sex uske period khtm hone ke 3,4 din bad kiya tha to kya usme pregnecy ke chance ho skte h or agar ha to mai bina pregnency kit ke kause pta kru ki vo pregnent h ya nai
Shahil bete, yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Beta! Yadi jis viykati ke saath aap unsafe sex kar rahe hain use HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai. Duniya bhar mein sabse adhik HIV casess, sex ke zariye hue hain.Lekin HIV aur bhi kai asurakshit karano se hota hai.So! Zara detail mein yeh niche diya hua link padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv Yeh bhi yaad rakhe ki bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhi nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
mahi trivedi
Fri, 05/19/2017 - 12:54
MAm plz help me. Mne apni gf s first time sex kiya h and hum doni virgin he or humne unprotected sex kiya.. .. To plz hume ye batayiye ki pregnancy ke chance he kya isame.. Agar chance he to ye v iska resolution v bataiye ki ab hum kya kare?? ?
Mahi bete, yadi yeh sex unsafe tha toh yes ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Iske liye phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye. Phir kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://www.fpaindia.org/ Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mam ...i had sex with my girlfriend....I had already ejaculated once while having oral sex..but during intercourse i did not ejaculated inside her. Is still there any chance of pregnancy?
Rahul bete, even if the penis was in vagina for a short period of time, it’s still unsafe because a single sperm is enough for pregnancy. Take a home pregnancy test at the earliest or see a registered doctor or specialist, and see what can be done. https://lovematters.in/en/resource/unplanned-pregnancy If you would like to join in on a further discussion on this topic, join our discussion board, "Just Ask” https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareek ahai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti . yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies…ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Ummmm! Waise toh oral sex mein HIV k chances nahi hotay phir bhi, aap bina condom ke use key koi bhi sexual activity na karay yadi safe sex chahhaty hain toh. Yeh bhi padhein: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex
kya aap periods ke smaye pregnancy ki sambhawna ki baat kar rahe hain. toh halaki is samye without condom sex karne mein pregnancy ke sambhawna kam hai par yeh safe bhi nahi hai. isliye kisi bhi halat mein condom ka sitemal must hai.
Bete yadi hum safe sex ki baat karein toh ismein condom ka isteaml ANIVARYA mana jata hai.Jisse ki kisi bhi sankarand ya pregnancy se bacha ja sake. zar ayeh padhiye:http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex saath hi Pehli baar sex kartay samay kya karna hai kya nahi karna hai, aur first sex ko kese theek tarah se kiya jaaey is baaray mein aap yaha detail mein padh lijiey : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts
Bete oral sex karnay mein koi samsya nahi maslan saaf-safai ka poora dhyan rakha gaya ho aur ismay dono partners ki barab marzi shamil! aur behtar hoga yadi condom ka isteml kiya jaye. Kyunki Mukh maithun ka ek ehem pehlu hai atyant saaf safai – dono partners keliye, iska dhyaan rakhiye. All the best beta. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0
Suno jaldi kisi achhay doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai, agar jyada time nahi hua hoga to aap MTP ki maang kar saktey hain. Kisis neem hakeem ya chemist ke paas mat pahuch jaana, DOCTOR ONLY!! Jaldi karo samjhay?http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
Beta jaldi hone se koi baat nahin, dont worry. So sabse pehle toh apni partner ki body ko samjh lo- usko time de do. Aur yadi shareer menin uttejna adhik hogi, sex ki bhavna zyada hogi toh sheeghr patan hone ki sambhavna bhi adhik hee hogee. aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , yaani bête ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activitys sabse zaroori hain. iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge mein help karta hai.http://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
Kis goli ki baat kar rahi hain aap?Suniye is tarah koi bhi goli apki ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai.. PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiye. Aur ab phoren ek home pregnancy test lijiye.Ya Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se mililye
Period ke DAURAAN? Tab toh pregnant hone ka chance na ke barabr hai beta.Phir bhi kisi bhi risk ya sankramn se bachne ke liye condom ka isteaml anivarya hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-period https://lovematters.in/hi/news/sex-during-my-period-do-i-need-contraception
Yadi jis viykati ke saath aap unsafe sex kar rahe hain use HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai. Duniya bhar mein sabse adhik HIV casess, sex ke zariye hue hain.Lekin HIV aur bhi kai asurakshit karano se hota hai.So! Zara detail mein yeh niche diya hua link padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv
Kahin aap kisi tension, pressure mein toh nahi hain na? yeh samjh lijiey ki sex karnay ke liey bilkul tanav mukt hona zaruri hai. Jis baaray mein aur yaha padh lo : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/4-signs-you-have-erectile-dysfunction https://lovematters.in/hi/news/erection-trouble-where-turn
Kya?? 4 mahine se periods nahi huay aur aap logo ne abhi tak kisi doctor se sampark nahi kiya? Kya ho gaya hai aap logo ko beta. Suno Suno jaldi kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Iske alawa aap FPAI clinic se sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi . JALDI http://www.fpaindia.org/
Bilkul nahi bete! it’s quite common, Bus swasth raho aur yaad rakho ki Hastmaithun ek safe /surakshit tareek ahai apni santushti karne ka. Isse koi nuksaan ya beemari nahin hoti . yadi chahein toh bahut see activities hain, jaise ki khel – games, gym ya koi hobbies… ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/men-masturbating
Hmmm! Jaise hee pata chale ki condom phat chukka hai so phoren hee withdraw hona bahut hee zaroori hai. HIV ke khatre se phoren bachne ke liye PEP naam ki ek kism ki dawa bhi hai lekin woh sirf kuch hee sarkaari aspatalon mein uplabdh hoti hai. Be safe
Bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhee nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Aur Yadi jis viykati ke saath aap unsafe sex kar rahe hain use HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai. Duniya bhar mein sabse adhik HIV casess, sex ke zariye hue hain.Lekin HIV aur bhi kai asurakshit karano se hota hai.So! Zara detail mein yeh niche diya hua link padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv
Bete guda aur mukh methun karne mein yadi dono partners ki poori sehmati hai issey karney may to kar saktay hai. Lekin ismein sabse ehem pehlu hai atyant saaf safai – dono partners keliye, iska dhyaan rakhiye. All the best beta. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0 http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex
Riya Yadi jis viykati ke saath aap unsafe sex kar rahe hain use HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai. Duniya bhar mein sabse adhik HIV casess, sex ke zariye hue hain.Lekin HIV aur bhi kai asurakshit karano se hota hai.So! Zara detail mein yeh niche diya hua link padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv
Bilkul nahi bete yadi aap jatne hain ki dura viykati HIV positive hai toh bina condom ke sex anivarya hai. Zara detail mein yeh niche diya hua link padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv
Sasbe pehle Yadi jis viykati ke saath aap unsafe sex kar rahe hain use HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai. Duniya bhar mein sabse adhik HIV casess, sex ke zariye hue hain.Lekin HIV aur bhi kai asurakshit karano se hota hai.So! Zara detail mein yeh niche diya hua link padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv Aur haan Condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai kisi bhi sankramn se bachne ka. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex
Bete sivanya sorry for delay. Ab kya sthithi hai? Toh dekho HIV ke liye na Yadi jis viykati ke saath aap unsafe sex kar rahe hain use HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai, anyatha nahi so please relax! https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Aisee stithi mein, partner par focus badhana, foreplay , yaani ki pravesh karne se pehle bahut se alag alag kriyaein karna , jinse dono ko aanand mile, apne partner kee uttejna badhana, yeh sab activitys sabse zaroori hain. iske ilava, partner ke saath sex karne se pehle, ek baar hast maithun kar saktey hain, utne samay pehele jitne mein ling mein tanaav aa jaaye. Condom ka istemaal bhi jaldi discharge kum karne mein help karta hai. Yeh bhee padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/news/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts https://lovematters.in/hi/news/i-ejaculate-too-soon-help Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhee nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Jee haan ismein pregnancy ke chances ho sakte hain, ab kya sthithi hai? Please ek home pregnancy test le lijiye. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Ismein na kuch galat hai na sahi lekin sawal yeh hai ki kya unhe yeh pasand hai yadi nahi to yeh sahi nahi kaha ja sakta. Saath hee safaoi ki nazar se kai log isse theek nahi samjhte hain. Yeh padhiye : https://lovematters.in/en/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts Aur Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/hi/forum
Yadi jis viykati ke saath aap unsafe sex kar rahe hain use HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai. Duniya bhar mein sabse adhik HIV casess, sex ke zariye hue hain.Lekin HIV aur bhi kai asurakshit karano se hota hai.So! Zara detail mein yeh niche diya hua link padhiye: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare disccsion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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