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Safe or unsafe?

Making love is a fantastic part of life, but sex can also carry risks. There’s the risk of catching or passing on HIV or other sexually transmitted diseases. And also of getting pregnant, or getting your partner pregnant, when that’s not something you want.

To help you think about how to keep your lovemaking safe, the information below runs through different ways of having sex and the risks they carry for sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancy. The risks described here are if you don’t use protection – condoms, dental dams or contraceptives.

Of course, there are many other kinds of sexual contact apart from the ones mentioned here – too many to include every possibility in detail. But bear this principle in mind: there’s a risk of catching or passing on a sexually transmitted disease, including HIV, if sperm, vaginal fluid or blood comes into contact with a partner’s mucous membrane – that means in the vagina, the end of the penis, or the mouth.

Kissing, tongue kissing

Using your mouth and tongue to touch your partner’s tongue, lips and mouth.

Safe for HIV

Safe for other sexually transmitted diseases. 

If you or your partner has a sexually transmitted disease in your mouth, there’s a small risk of catching or passing on gonorrhoea, syphilis, Candida or hepatitis B.

Safe for pregnancy

Massaging, caressing

Stroking or kneading each others bodies, perhaps using massage oil

Safe for HIV

Safe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Safe for pregnancy

If you have intercourse after massaging, make sure the condom doesn’t come in contact with massage oil. The oil can make the condom break.

Masturbating yourself or your partner

Massaging the penis or clitoris to give yourself or your partner an orgasm.

Usually safe for HIV

Usually safe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Usually safe for pregnancy

There’s a small risk of catching or passing on HIV or another sexually transmitted disease, or of getting pregnant, if you pass sperm, menstrual blood or fluid from the vagina or anus of one person to the vagina or anus of the other person.

 

 

You can catch scabies or pubic lice through intimate physical contact.

Dry 'humping'

Rubbing your bodies together for sexual pleasure, either with or without clothes on.

Safe for HIV

Safe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching scabies or pubic lice if you have no clothes on.

Safe for pregnancy

Contact between vagina and penis (without intercourse)

Rubbing your genitals together or having them very close together.

Safe for HIV 

unless sperm or pre-ejaculate (the clear liquid that comes out of the penis when you are aroused but before you come) gets inside the vagina

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, genital warts, genital herpes and scabies.

Safe for pregnancy

unless pre-ejaculate or sperm gets inside the vagina

Contact between vagina and vagina

Rubbing your vaginas together or having them very close together.

Safe for HIV

unless one person’s vaginal fluid gets inside the other person’s vagina

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, genital warts, genital herpes and scabies.

Safe for pregnancy

Contact between penis and penis

Rubbing your penises together or having them very close together.

Safe for HIV

unless one person’s sperm or pre-ejaculate (the clear liquid that comes out of the penis when you are aroused but before you come) gets inside the other person’s urethra

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, genital warts, genital herpes and scabies.

Safe for pregnancy

Vaginal intercourse

The man putting his penis inside the woman's vagina, with or without the man ejaculating or the woman having an orgasm

Unsafe for HIV

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Serious risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, trichomoniasis, genital warts, genital herpes, pubic lice and scabies.

Unsafe for pregnancy

Oral sex on a woman

Simulating the vagina and clitoris with your mouth and tongue

Safe for HIV

unless the woman has her period

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Even if the woman does not have her period, there's a risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, syphilis, herpes, pubic lice if the man has a beard, and scabies through intimate contact

Safe for pregnancy

Oral sex on a man

Simulating the penis with your mouth and tongue

Safe for HIV 

unless the man comes in your mouth. Then it’s unsafe for the person giving oral sex.

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching or passing on syphilis, herpes, Chlamydia or gonorrhoea

Safe for pregnancy

Anal intercourse

The man putting his penis inside another person’s anus

Unsafe for HIV

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

 

 


Serious risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, genital warts, genital herpes, pubic lice and scabies.

 

 

Safe for pregnancy

Licking the anus

Simulating the anus with your mouth and tongue

Safe for HIV 

unless the anus is bleeding due to anal sex or haemorrhoids (piles)

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Risk of catching or passing on Chlamydia, gonorrhoea, syphilis or hepatitis A.

Safe for pregnancy

Withdrawal

Having intercourse but pulling the penis out of the vagina before ejaculation

Unsafe for HIV

Unsafe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Serious risk of catching or passing on hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, syphilis, trichomoniasis, genital warts, genital herpes, pubic lice and scabies.

Unsafe for pregnancy

Sadomasochism (SM)

Sadism is getting sexual pleasure by hurting or dominating another person. Masochism is getting sexual pleasure by being hurt or dominated by another person.

Safe for HIV

Safe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Safe for pregnancy

Safe if there are no cuts or bleeding and equipment or objects are cleaned thoroughly after use.

Using sex toys

Stimulating your partner using sex toys such as dildos or vibrators.

Safe for HIV

Safe for other sexually transmitted diseases

Safe for pregnancy

Safe if you use a sex toy on one person only or clean the toy well before using it on another person. You can also put a condom on a vibrator or dildo. Change the condom before using the toy on another person.

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Sonu beta, actually yeh poori tarah se na, ladki ki mahavari pe depend hota hai, yadi woh bilkul nirdharit hai ya nahin jiski vajah se bohot hi risk ka kaam bhi hai. Yadi aap bina kisi protection ke ya bina surakhsha ke sex ki soch rahe hai toh shayad aap un dino ki baat kar rahe hain jin mein bachcha rukna mushkil hai. Yeh ho toh sakta hai lekin yeh poori tarha se surakshit nahin mana jaata hai. Yadi aap pregnancy ke risk se bachna chahte hai to kisi aur tarike ke mukaable condom ka istemal hi easy aur safe tarika hai https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Yaun rog se bechne ne liye behtar hai ki condom ka istemaal kiyaa jaata hai. Iske alaawa mukh maithun ka yaane ke oral sex karnay mein koi samsya nahi maslan saaf-safai ka poora dhyan rakha gaya ho aur ismay dono partners ki barab marzi shamil ho. Kyunki Mukh maithun ka sabse ehem pehlu hai atyant saaf safai – dono partners keliye, iska dhyaan rakhiye. All the best beta. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0 Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Rishikesh bete, ek doosre ka condom use karne se aapka kya matlab hain? Kya aapko nahi pata ki ek condom ka prayog sirf ek hi baar kiya jaana chaiye? Ek baar use ke baad condom use karne laayak nahi rehta. Kisi aur ka use kiya hua condom use karne se infection, HIV aadi hone ka khatra ho sakta hain. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mai ek shadi shuda aurat ke sath sex kiya joki ek boyfriend aur husband ke sath kr chuki thi...tooh maine bina condom ke kiya safe hoon mai ya ni
Bina condom ke sex karna apne aap mein ek safe idea bilkul bhi nahi hai. Isse anchahe garbh ke saath kai youn rog hone kaa bhi khatra ho sakta hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/safe-sex Kisi bhi doubt mein se rehne se achha hai ki ek HIV test zaroor kar lein. Saath hi sex mein jo bhi karein, SAFE karein. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Anal sex ya guda maithun se pregnancy ke chances na ke barabar hain. Lekin is dauraan condom ka istemaal anivarya hai taaki kisi bhi sankarman se bacha ja sake. Yeh bhi padh lijiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/anal-sex Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mam meri ek gf hai uski saadi ho gai hai Uska pati uske saath bina condom k sex krta hai Aur Mai bhi just 24 ghante me uske saath sex bina condom K kiya.mam Kya HIV Adis ho skta hai kya
Rahul bete, yadi unme se kisi bhi viykati ko HIV hai toh HIV hone ki sambhavna hai. Aur yadi unmein se kisi ko bhi HIV nahi hai toh yeh nahi ho SAKTA! lekin phir bhi kisi bhi doubt mein rehne se achha hai ki ek HIV test zaroor kar lein. Saath hi sex mein jo bhi karein, SAFE karein. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mam maine phli bar sex kiya with protection but lst me bf ka spirm neeche se leak ho gaya tha to kya isse pregnant hone ke chances hai pls help
Shanaya beti, yaad rakhiye pregnant hone ke liye ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hey, Rahul bete. Yaad rakhiye chahe ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua hao, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai. Kisi bhee doubt mein rehne se achha hai ki ek HIV test zaroor kar lein. Saath hi sex mein jo bhi karein, SAFE karein. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/hiv Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
jyada der lip lock karne se kuch nahi hoga naa....maine regularly kiya hain.... Kuch hoga to nahi naa.... Jab vi lip lock karti hu to hamesha man hi man dar lgta hain.... Plzz mujhe is cnfusn se dur kijiye....?????
Kuchh nahi hoga se aapka kya matlab hain, Neha bete? Agar ab pregnancy ke baare mein baat rahee hain so don't worry! Pregnant hone ke liye purush ke shukranu ko mahila ki yoni mein jakar dimb ko nishechit karna bohot zaruri hai. jo ki sirf yoni maitun ke dwara ho sakta hai. Zara yeh padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/fertility Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Hi, mene kl apni frnd k sath romance kiya or mene apna ling usme daala, but only cap hi daali, kuch der rakhne k baad mene bahar nikaal liya ir sperm b bahar hi chhoda to kya mujhe aids hone ka chance h? Or kya isse unwanted pregnancy ka risk h?? Please advise
Hi, Gaurav beta. Yaad rakhiye chahe ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua hao, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liye ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya Phoren kisi vishagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
hello aunty ji me menee parso apne penis ko thoda sa in kia tha...aur me in krne se 30 min phele discharge ho chuka tha..uske baad mene vagina pe 2-3 baar penis ko rub kia aur thoda sa in kia tha to koi dikkat wali baat to ni hain
Hello, Amy beta! Yaad rakhiye chahe ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua hao, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liye ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. Ab jaldi se ek home pregnancy test lo ya Phoren kisi visheshagya ya achchhe panjikrit doctor se milo, aur dekho kya ho sakta hai. Madad ke liye Yeh bhi padho: https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Aapse yeh kisne keh diya ki ladkiyo ko patana hota hai taaki unse sex kar sakey? Kya dosti, pyaar izzat- yeh sab kuch nahin? Aur yadi aap aisa sochte hai toh shayad aapka nazariya mahiloun ke prti bahut ek arfaa hai… isme toh sudhaar laana hee chahiye. Koi bhee mahila sex ki vastu bilkul nahi! Apne aas-paas ki mahilaon ko respect dijiye jese aap apne ghar ki mahilaon ko dete hai. https://lovematters.in/hi/news/how-do-i-get-girlfriend Yadi aapke man mein koi bhee aur sawaal hain aur aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare discussion board ‘Just Poocho’ mein zaroor shamil hon! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Mam maine Apne bf ke sath first time sex krne ki koshish ki with condom ...but becoz of pain penis ander tk insert Ni huie ...or humne jab bhi koshish ki hr bar nya condom use Kiya or bad m usko check bhi Kiya ki Kahi se tore na hua ho...to mam koi chance to Ni pregnancy.ka I am so worried.
Bete, agar yeh safe sex hai to pregnancy ke chances naa ke barabar hai. Yaad rakhiye chahe ling ka Sirf thode se samay ke liye yoni mein pravesh hua ho, bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shukraanu bhi kaafi hota hai. Iske liye aap ek home pregnancy test lelijiye. Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain toh hamare Discussion Board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
Maine apne gf ke sath aaj first time sex kiya tha condom ke sath 5 min tak but pata nii condom fut chuki thi aur ye bhi pata nii hai ki Mera sparm uske under gira tha ya bahar agar aur uska period time 12 din baad start hone wala hai plz mujhe bataye ki yadi uske under Mera sparm chala gaya hoga to wo pregnant ho Sakti hai ya nahi uska period time sex karne ke 12-14 din baad start hone wala hai
Beta yadi sex ke dauran condom fat jaye toh ismein pregnancy ke chances ho skate hain. Aap chaen toh 72 ghanton ke andar contraceptive pills, jaise I Pill ya Unwanted 72 use kar sakte hai lekin yeh mahila ke masik dharm par asar kar saktee hai. PLEASE in goliyoun ko laparvahi se istemaal mat keejiyega ya iske liye unsafe sex ke 10 din poore hote hee chemist se liya gaya ek home pregnancy test kit se test lijiye aur sthiti ko nischit kar lijiye. Phir kisi vishesagya ya achche panjikrit doctor se mill lijiye aur dekhiye kya ho sakta hai. Iske illava aap FPAI clinic se bhee sampark kar sakety hai jiski jaankari aaapko iski website pe mil jayegi. https://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/home-pregnancy-tests-dos-and-donts https://www.ippf.org/about-us/member-associations/india Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
me and my girlfriend were dry humping with clothes and i ejected in my shorts and she was wet with her discharge will it lead to pregnancy?
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