If you are in love with someone, the next logical step might be to find out if they feel the same way about you. Often you can guess whether someone is interested. If you’re not sure, be brave! Try to get into a situation where you’ve got a chance to talk to the person. If you have mutual friends, let them introduce you. You could also send them a text message or try to make contact on chat – though if they don’t answer, don’t pester them. If you notice they’re not really responding or they’re even trying to avoid you, there’s a good chance they don’t return your feelings.
Bear in mind, however, that there’s an extra tricky puzzle in the love game: some people can be standoffish even if they’re really attracted to you, because they don’t know how to cope with their feelings! Or maybe they feel they shouldn’t be responding to your advances even if they’d like to. So don’t immediately think someone isn’t interested in you because they don’t respond straight away.
But some guys have the idea – often picked up from movies – that if you keep hassling a woman long enough she will give in to you. People might tell you that if a girl says no or even gets upset or angry, you should ignore it and not give up. This is a fantasy – if someone reacts like this to your advances, you’re just being abusive.
If you get a clear no, be respectful. Move on and leave the person alone.