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How to break up

If you’re the one wanting to break up with your partner, it can be tough having to deliver the message. Don’t we all wish we’d never have to speak those harsh words? But when your relationship has sunk to unhealthy depths, there might be no option left but to call it quits. Here are some tips to help you:
  • Do your homework. Know the reasons why you’re breaking up, because if you’re partner isn’t expecting this piece of bad news from you, you’ll end up doing a lot of explaining. So it’s good to go well-prepared. It also gives you an opportunity to reflect on your thoughts and see if a break up is what you really, really want.

  • Do it in person. Do not break up over email or SMS or telephone or Skype unless the situation demands it. Meeting someone for the last time before the relationship ends can offer a good way of closure, which is psychologically important to move on.

  • Do it in a place that’s comfortable for your partner. A crowded restaurant with a lot of strangers around might be intimidating. Pick a place that makes them feel safe enough to express their emotions.

  • Be honest. Don’t lie to your partner when you’re about to end the relationship. Tell them exactly what you felt was wrong in the relationship. This might be harsh on them but equally important for them to learn. At least they’d know where it all went wrong.

  • Don’t be cruel. Break-ups are terrible any way. So don’t go out of your way to make it more hurtful. Remember that you were once in love with this person. Being honest doesn’t mean you have to be vindictive and cruel. Try to deliver your truthful words in a nice package.

  • Don’t be ambiguous. Don’t leave your partner in doubt. If you don’t mean it, don’t tell them something like, “It’s not working out now, but it might work out another time.” That would wrongly make them hopeful.

  • Be prepared for the worst reaction. Being dumped is perhaps one of the worst things that can happen to anyone. So don’t be surprised if your partner starts shouting or cries or argues or just storms out on you. Be calm.

  • Don’t waver. Once you’ve made up your mind about breaking up, don’t change it. Your partner might convince you to give it “one last chance” but unless there’s any real reason why you should buy that argument, don’t fall for it. Stick to your guns.

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Ridhima bete sabse pahle toh apne aap ko shant kijiye, relax!! Aapko darne ki zarurat nahi hai bete, aisee koi samasya nahi jiska samadhan na ho- kya aapne iske baare mein kisi se baat ki hai? Apne pariwarwalon se ya apne kisi dost se madad lene ki koshish klijiye- unhe poori sthiti samjhate hue, Ya aap chahen toh kanuni madad bhee le saktin hain. Apne aas paas kisi local police, kisi lawyer/wakeel ya kisi panjikrit NGO ya mahila helpline se salah lijiye. Bete shayad aapko aisa lag sakta hai ki ye bade bade kadam hain lekin isse behtar ki aap baar blackmail hoti rahen – aapko koi-na-koi kada kadam toh uthana hee hoga- toh kyun na ghar, pariwar ya doston se pahle shuru kiya jaye. Yeh bhi ho sakta hai ki ye keval ek gidadbhabhaki ho aur wo aapko dara kar apni marzi karna chahte ho? Sabse badi galti aap karengi ki – yadi aap darr ke baith jayengi- ek baar unhe lalkaariye aur kahiye ki jo karna hai kar len- phir dekhiye! aapke dubara likhne ka intezaar rahega!! https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/sexual-harassment/abusive-relationships https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/blackmail-in-relationships-top-facts Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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Sex ke liey kuch rishto mein bilkul hi manahi hai, jinme family sex bhi shamil hai, samajik roop ya kisi bhi nazar family sex ki permission nahi hai! So yeh hume kaun kehta hai ki family ke rishteon mein sex allowed hai ya theek hai? Yeh ideas kahan se aatey hain? Shayad blue filmon se ya chat rooms se? kya job hi hum wahan dekhtey hain aoh asal hota hai? Shayd nahin. So yeh idea ki family ka koi vyakti sex ke liye ready ho sakta hai is me ek satta hai ek power ki jhalk jo ki kisi bhi soorat mein niyamit nahin hai. So zara relax kariye!!
Hmm! Toh aap aap Kuch mat kijiey aur sahi sammaey aaney ka intzaar kijiey jab wo khud sehmati dikhaey sex ke liey.Kyunki kisi bhi rishtey mey jabardasti acceptable nahi hai . in baton se dhyan hatiey aur apney rishtey ko aur majbut banaiey. http://lovematters.in/en/news/how-can-i-convince-her-have-sex
Bicky Chasa
Sat, 07/28/2018 - 14:19
...Mujhe mera girlfrnd phir se mill jaye.. Mere Ek gf tha.. Kuch mistanding.. K Karen brk Up ho geya hai bas wo thik ho jaye.. Phir se wo Mujhe mill jaye
Ab kya sthiti hai bete? Bahut bura laga sunkar, lekin Jab ek rishta ek makaam taka a ke ruk jaata hai, toh use phir shuru karna ya us per hee tike rehana shayed itnee samjhdaari nahin. Aage badhiye, naye kadam uthaiye, naye aur purane dost dhoondhiye, films, music, koi hobbies. Jaise ki unhone keeya hai. Apni zindigi jeene mein utar jaiye. All the best. https://lovematters.in/en/news/shes-avoiding-me-now-what https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/breaking-up/how-to-get-over-a-break-up-a-proven-technique https://lovematters.in/en/love-and-relationships/she-never-said-no-but-she-meant-so Yadi aap is mudde par humse aur gehri charcha mein judna chahte hain to hamare discussion board “Just Poocho” mein zaroor shamil ho! https://lovematters.in/en/forum
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