Is it ok for women to talk about sex?

Auntyji says, ‘Arre beta!! Yeh kyaa yaad dila deeya – you have tugged at my heart strings, you know!’

A few good men and women

Frankly I tell you, Preet beta, I don’t even recall when I began to talk so much about sex. And when your Auntyji went from ‘besharm’ to ‘bindaas’ to ‘badass’! Yes puttar, all these and many more are words of love for your Auntyji. And I am very proud of them.

‘Hum to mohabbat karega, duniya se nahin darega’! And do you know one thing beta – I was able to do all this ‘sexy’ and taboo work because I had the support of first my father – a man, who was never scared what the duniya and samaj will say about what his daughter does.

And then Auntyji ki woh saheliya, who understood how important it was to talk about sex. Even though many of my pals couldn’t talk about sex in the open themselves, our long night chats on the issue helped. Naughtier the chats, deeper the friendships, yaad rakhna beta!

Yay to sex

Puttar, women’s groups, feminists have claimed many a fight, many a morcha, raised many banners on many issues.  But puttar, have you ever shout out, ‘Yeh girl maange more’, ‘Women love it too’, ‘Sex is on my mind’, ‘A good girl wants good sex’,  ‘Each day – sex day’!

Women and their sexual pleasure have been kept out of conversations about our well-being for far too long now. Talking  about sex is ok and a right women need to claim. And that puttar is your Auntyji’s mudda!

Whitewashed under

Aare beta, traditionally we are a society who has always loved and celebrated sex. Women, men, others were revered as partners to the joyful experience of consensual sex. But talking about sex suddenly became this ‘dirty’ thing – looked down upon.

Talking and asking about sex got an Angrezi whitewash due to which, all conversations around it stopped and went undercover. Yes believe it or not. A lot of the conservatism in our society came with the British Raj. Both men and women forgot how to seek help, information and awareness on this issue. All that was available is fragmented, sensational bits and pieces of information which completely besmirched the whole hearted approach to sex! Aur abhi bhi, we are under that same white wash! Chuna lag gaya beta ji!

Salute to sex!

Beta, talking freely about sex or claiming good, equal and safe sex is no dirty thing. It’s wonderful and intimate and also an assertion of your identity. But beta, there are ethics of sex too! That we all must be aware of. The key is sehmati or consent.

Partners need to agree on the rules that bind them. Everyone ought to be allowed to make their own choices and decisions around sex – when they want it with whom, how many times, where and how! This is for the actors of sex to decide – not anyone else.!  Auntyji offers her support on this always, beta jaan and urges you, let’s fly our flag high. ‘Sex ko Auntyji ka salaam’.

Sing with me, ‘Sex deeyan gallaan, karanage naal naal bey ke, hath vich hath paa kee’... one more time..., ‘sex deeya gallann....’

On International Women’s Day, Love Matters celebrates women’s right to talk about sex. Come join the movement!