This is a very good and useful post. I really appreciate that it is out here to help young people along. However "be straightforward and clear about what you're looking for" is easier said than done. At the time of sexual debut especially, many people don't have all the words and ideas about what they wish to experience sexually, especially when they are kinky. Please have more content on negotiating and going over the entire menu of sexual behaviour (I know his pleasure, her pleasure etc is listed), but actually articulating preferences, and removing the 'intercourse as the main thing'/ 'conquest' for the guy, can't be emphasised enough.