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Sex: best of times, worst of times

By Steve Korver Thursday, January 21, 2016 - 15:13
How long should sex last? … What happens when there’s no time for sex? … Does climate change mean the end-time for sex? … These news flashes and more in this week’s Sex in the Press.

Gentlemen. How long should you stay long?

“Should sex last 5 minutes or two hours? Should time even be a measurement of success in the sack?" wonders ‘How long should you last during sex?’.

Well yes, time should be a measurement for sex success. Because 90% of men don’t seem to come across as overly ambitious: “Most sexual encounters, from the time of penetration to orgasm, last from one to 10 minutes.”

A study among sex therapists suggests the sweet spot is in fact 7 to 13 minutes: “They said one to two minutes was likely too short for most people, but that 10 to 30 minutes was probably too long.”

Scientists tend to define premature ejaculation as lasting less than a minute. Women tend to define premature ejaculation more pragmatically: not getting an orgasm.

Therefore foreplay and afterplay should be factored into the above numbers. “There are biological reasons for this. It takes women time to lubricate and for their erectile tissues to engorge. […] It's also important to know that, as women become aroused, their vagina lengthens on the inside, which is why rushing through things can actually be painful.”

But even when both parties feel satisfied after sex, people can still feel insecure about how long it lasted. Perhaps because humans are weird beasts who seem less concerned about experiencing pleasure than with winning some make believe marathon.

The road to longer sex involves quality not quantity – it’s about mixing it up. “The more flexibility a couple builds into their sexual experience, the better off they'll be," says one expert.

Great advice. But who’s got the time?

Celibacy time: At least you won’t get a urinary tract infection

What happens to your body when you don’t have sex for 2 weeks’.

It doesn’t matter how it happens – you’re single and uninterested in one-night stands, you’re religious and practicing abstinence, or you’re married and just exhausted by daily life…

But after two weeks without the binky-bonky, serious stuff starts happening to your body as the level of certain chemicals and hormones change.

Your stress levels will increase. You will become more susceptible to colds and flus as your immune system becomes less effective. And as you attempt to drink away your newfound problems, your hangovers will get worse – since less natural painkillers are floating around your body.

But there’s good news: your risk of getting a Urinary Track Infection will drop by 80%!

Now back to the bad news: if you’re in a relationship, it’s probably going shit – because at least one of you will likely be hungry for more intimacy.

But such effects may just be the signs of the times.

Earth: Life inside a hot, tight set of underwear

We may be heading towards a world with less sex in general, according to ‘Hot and heavy: Climate change may deter people from having sex, leading to population decreases’.

While heat and summer is often associated with hotness in the sack, “it’s too hot” is actually one of the more common excuses to weasel out of sex.

Studies have indeed found that humans conceive less when it’s hot. In fact, sexual activity goes up when it rains.

Plus, heat kills sperm – and therefore global warming might have a similar effect as wearing a very tight set of underwear.

But it’s not the end of human civilisation, says one researcher. “But I would suggest it is going to add to the cost of climate change.”

So you shouldn’t worry too much. After all, how sweaty can you actually get in a space of 1 to 10 minutes?


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