It can feel good to have your anus stroked. It can also feel good to have a finger inside your anus. If you put your finger in your partner’s anus during sex, first moisten your finger with spit or lubricant. When you first touch it, the anus will squeeze tight – it’s a muscle reflex. Rest your finger on it and wait a little before you go any further.
Touch your anus when you masturbate.
Stroke or caress your partner’s anus during lovemaking.
Put something in the anus – a finger, a penis, a vibrator
Lick the anus – this is sometimes called ‘rimming’
Press or caress the skin between the balls and the anus (the perineum).
Touching the prostate
In men, a little way inside the anus you can feel the prostate. This is one of the most sensitive parts of a boy’s body. It’s about five centimetres inside the anus on the stomach side. Some men find it arousing to have their prostate touched. You can do it by putting your finger in the anus and moving it in and out.
The anus is close to the sex organs, has a lot of nerve endings and contracts when you have an orgasm. This is why anal sex feels good.
Anal sex shouldn’t hurt. But if you’ve no experience with it, it can be painful. Use lubricant and relax during lovemaking, and the pain will go. If it’s painful when the penis enters the anus, pull it out carefully, because it can hurt even more if you do it quickly.
Many people like to include the anus in lovemaking. If you don’t, say so. You don’t have to like everything!