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Will I break her hymen if I finger her?

By Auntyji Tuesday, December 18, 2012 - 07:30
Q: My girlfriend wants me to finger her vagina – will it break her hymen? She also wants me to insert it deep inside. Is there any way I can prevent her hymen from breaking? Ravi, Ahmedabad.

Auntyji says… Ravi beta, ki haal chaal? Or like they say in Gujarati, kem cho majama? You are a lucky man Ravi puttar.

You should be happy that your girlfriend is taking the initiative and telling you what to do. Better follow her directions betaji. I am not kidding because most young men come to me with their problem that their girlfriend/wife doesn’t let them finger her. So you should be very happy that you can pleasure your girl. As far as she is enjoying it, why should you be bothered about anything else? She has let you know she is ready for this next step in your lovemaking, and her body is her body, after all.

Losing her virginity?

Ravi, really there is no need to worry about her hymen or tearing it. It’s true you could stretch her hymen by fingering. But as far as I go, this should not matter. It doesn’t mean she would no longer be a virgin, if that’s what you are worried about. ‘Losing your virginity’ means one thing and one thing only: having vaginal intercourse for the first time.

About the hymen

Frankly, I don’t know how much you know about hymen. So let me tell you a few facts about the female anatomy. Maybe this will help you calm down.

The hymen is a layer of skin around the opening of the vagina. It doesn’t usually cover up the entrance completely. And you can just gently push through so the opening and the thin skin stretches wide enough.

The hymen can also be stretched or torn by playing sports or using tampons. That doesn't mean a girl has lost her virginity. So a lack of hymen is not really a sign of sexual experience. Even a medical expert can’t tell for sure if a girl is a virgin or not.

So there you go. Very clearly betaji you are worrying yourself sick unnecessarily. For all you know, she could have broken her hymen while horseback riding much earlier. And you are sitting and stressing about breaking it while fingering.

Bleeding

In case you are worried about her not bleeding the first time. Then you should know that one should not even expect every girl to bleed at her first intercourse. Especially if the hymen has already been gently stretched during your excellent lovemaking!

If you take your time making love to her then she ought to be relaxed and there is also no need for it to cause her pain. Meanwhile, worrying about trying not to stretch or tear her hymen will probably make you so nervous it will spoil lovemaking for both of you.

Bigger picture

Ravi puttar, I hope with this I have solved most of your worry. Like they say in Punjab, khao pio aish karo mitron. Just stay calm and be happy and always look at the bigger picture. You should be grateful that the two of you love each other and are sexually compatible as well. The same folklore in Punjab goes on to say dil par kise da duhkao na.

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vicky malhotra
Mon, 01/26/2015 - 23:54
I had sex with my g.f bt ws unable to penetrate her vagina,worked very hard bt failed to penetrate my penis into her vagina.kya kru penis andar jaye.uski age 19 and meri 20
Dekho bête yeh baat bohot achhe se samjh lo aap ki sex karnye ke lieye dono hi partners ko tanavmukat hona bohot hi zaruri hai! Aur dono ka tyyar hona mentally, physically, emotionally bhi bohot zarurui hai, aap samjh rahe hain na mera matlab?yeh samjh lijiey ki sex karne ke liey bilkul tanav mukt hona zaruri hai bête : Jis baaray mein aur yaha padh lo : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/4-signs-you-have-erectile-dysfunction Aur bête Pehli baar sex kartaye samaye kya karna hai kya nahi karna hai, aur first sex ko kese theek tarah se kiya jaye is bare mein aap yaha detail mein padh lijieye : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts
hey! listion plz my frnd is so worry about due to this she says that his b.f fingring many tyms she experincd a little pain but not sure she was bleed but one day after fingring he started periods is her hymen is breaked plzz ans aunt she is much worried.....waiting ur ans...?
Xaif Raza Ibrahim
Thu, 01/29/2015 - 16:21
Aunty jii hello.. Must reply plz..my gf had sex wid her ex when she told me she was crying i said ok baby .. Its ok.. But the guy with whome she had i knw him and he also knw me .. Sometimes i feel so akward and dprs if he share it with other fnds.. And merako ajib ajib khayal ane lagta.. Mai ye baat apne fnd or koindoctor se v share nahi kar sakta coz isme mera gf ka izzat ka sawal hai.. I love her she also love me i knw but aunty jii wo insident wala baat jabbhi mai wo banda ko dekhta yad ata and ajibsa feel karta .. Aunty if u can then please suggest me smthg..mai apni gf ko itta pyaar diya wo aur nahi yad karti wo bita kal but mai dill hi dill me ghut raha hun..please aunty jiii koi medicine kuch v ..
O dear what a difficult situation for you, I can really get your pain and confusion. Bete aap toh apni taraf se koshish karhi rahe hain na, aur yeh baat aap khud ko aur apni partner ko samjhiye ki Shyadi kisi viykati ki past life mein kuch acha ya bura ghat jata hai, toh agye badhne ke liye purani baton ko bhulna hi padta hai, apki partner ko bhi yeh samjhne ki zarurat hai . Ismein us teesre insaan ka kya roll hai ? yeh present aur future aap dono ka hai aur bete aap dono hi milkar isse achha aur swasth bana sakte haain. Aap ne jitni koshish ki who achhi hai ab apki partner ko bhi apka saath dena zaruri hai. Explian to her you need her full attention and support at this time. Its brave of her she told you, we must appreciate that as well, but the important thing is that was in her past. Now if you really want to make a futire with her, try and let this pass over. Also one short term strategy could be you avoid meeting that guy for a while and cement your relationship with her. Jab aap dono ka rishat aaur bhi mazboot aur swasth ho jaayega, shayd aap is vyakti ko better she sakenege. See what works – all the best.
I am scard of having sex, cos I heard it painful nd scard of not bleedin, cos my boo will fink I lied 2 him,,,,,and we re nw ready 2 do it (X),,,, without protection,,,, How can he do it without gettin me pregnant!
Anty ji may nay apni bf k sath sex keya tha before 4month ago but avi hamara brkup hogaya tho ya baat say mari life may koi musaibat tho nai ho ge na plz help me
I was abused when i was 10. A man inserted his finger inside my vagina . I bleed at that time. My question is, i bleed at my first intercoures if my hymens are ruptured ?
Mre bf ne sunday k mri fingering ki deeply Us din kuch nhi hua Tuesdy k thra sa ki us din v kuch nhi hua Wednesdy k 4:30 k around bleedng hua Was it sign of breaking hymen or some other problem?
Auntyji Plz i want u to help me out with this question. If a virgin is menstruating and during that process got fingered by a guy,Will she loose her virginity or get pregnant? Plz i need quick answers.tnx
Not at all! listen hymen can be torn or stretched in lots of ways without having any kind of sex, or any Sports like cycling horse riding. the only way one can make out or guess is if the hymen has broken, which can be for any reason actually. No one can know anyhow about your virginity unless you yourself didn’t admit or tell them about it ok? So don’t worry. Link: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity
Hmm! Bête Pehli baar sex kartaye samaye kya karna hai kya nahi karna hai, aur first sex ko kese theek tarah se kiya jaye is bare mein aap yaha detail mein padh lijieye : http://lovematters.in/hi/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/ways-make-love http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/making-love
Anti g ..mai boht preshan hu.plz help me.mai ne aik br periods k doran apni vagina me finger Dali thi.plz tell me that my hymen is broken ?? I m very worry.hamari community me first shadi k bd first night bleed na krna acha ni smjha jata.plz tell me ans
Anonymous
Thu, 03/19/2015 - 15:53
Anti ji i did fingering to myself it did not bleed na hi pain hua bt ak chota sa gost ka tukra sa nikla kia meri hymen toot gai?
Suniye Kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hee asani se toot saktee hai . jaise cycling,horse riding, ya khel kud. Aur yes yeh fingering ke duran bhi toot sakti hai. Zara yeh padhiye: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity
Anti ji i did fingering to myself it did not bleed na hi pain hua bt ak chota sa gost ka tukra sa nikla kia meri hymen toot gai?
Anti ji i did fingering to myself it did not bleed na hi pain hua bt ak chota sa gost ka tukra sa nikla kia meri hymen toot gai?
i want to ask this question, if a girl is still virgin can i insert my full finger to her vagina deeply???? in my sense cant insert the full finger to a girls vagina, because there is a hymen with the vagina opening... so when im insert my full finger to vagina means the hymen has been broken or not????
tani kumari
Tue, 03/24/2015 - 02:04
Aunty ji kya 2year k baad second time sex kre to kya bleeding hoti h kya..ek baar bleeding hone k baad second time bleeding hoti h kya .plz tell me
We can’t tell you this, neither you could know this anyhow or no one can know about this, and hymen can break because of any reason, unless your girlfriend herself didn’t admit or tell you about it ok? http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity
aunty ji,..... i have never intercourse with my lover. but before some night . we both are virgin and we decide to break our virginity but when i was going to to inserting inside her vagina then she was feeling so much main and she was crying and we tried 3 or 4 time but every time she was feeling lot of pain. so pl suggest to me how can i break her hymen without pain. pl suggest after some month we are going to marriage.
how i know when my wife had sex first time .by medical check up..kya hum yah jaan sakte ki ladki ne sex kab yani kis month me ya year me kiya tha medical checkup ke dwara
Ohhhh! zara suno Kaumarya ka poora daromadaar hymen ya jhilli se juda hua hai. Yaad rakhiye ki yeh bahut hee asani se toot saktee hai . jaise cycling,horse riding, ya khel kud. Isliye relax kijiye kyunki jab tak woh khud nahi bateyngi tab tak aap unki virginity ka pata nhi laga saktay Waise bhi isse koi phark nahin padta, yadi pyaar karte hain toh vishwaas bhi keejiye..
hello anty .. i m a girl kya ye baata skte ho ki ... kya first time finger krne se blood aata ..aur hymen layer break ho jati h...plzz rply me as soon as possible
Aisa bilkul bhi nishchit nahi hai bete ki pehli baar finger karne se ya sex karne se blood ayega hi. aur yes aisa ho sakta hai ki finger ke duran hymen break ho jaye. zara is hymen se judde apnay doubts yeh padh kar clear kijiye. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity
My g.friend was on period from 8 to 11 March and I had unprotected sex with her on 23 march and I gave unwanted 72 within 2 hours …. I m worried that she may get pregnant … If no then when she may get period again …
Hmmm! bete sex ki adat pad jana ya nahi padna yeh apkay uppar depend karta hai lekin yaad rakhiye Sex se koi nuksaan nahi jab tak ki wo safe sex hai, yaani poori samjhdaari aur safety ke sath kiya gaya sex ho.
Hymen can be torn or stretched in lots of ways without having any kind of sex, or any Sports like cycling horse riding. It bleed because of hymen it is not certain thing. Clear your doubts read more here: http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/faqs-hymen-and-virginity
Melissa Bane
Wed, 04/01/2015 - 14:54
Hello, my boyfriend.fingered me. I said to him to deepened it.more. Then after our make out, I saw.blood stains in my underwear. Is that my hymen broke? Or Its.just that, what? The blood stains consists of small amount only. Hmm, slight only. Please answer rhis, Im worrying! Thank.you -xoxo
Jab mai apne girlfriend ka. bur chat ta hu to use bhut mja aata hai aur wo mhuje bar bar chatne. ko bolti hai to agr mai chtu to kuch ho ga to nhi
Aap jiss ki baat kar rahe hain Isse oral sex kehte hain, jisse karnay mein koi samsya nahi maslan saaf-safai ka poora dhyan rakha gaya ho aur ismay dono partners ki barab marzi shamil! aur behtar hoga yadi condom ka isteml kiya jaey. Mukh maithun ka sabse ehem pehlu hai atyant saaf safai – dono partners keliye, iska dhyaan rakhiye. http://lovematters.in/hi/news/oral-sex-dos-and-donts-0
yadd rakhiye chahye ling kitni der ke liye bhi andar gaya bina condom ke wo unsafe hai kyunki pregnant hone ke liey ek shuranu bhi kaafi hota hai. http://lovematters.in/hi/resource/unplanned-pregnancy
my Gf is not ready to have inter course with me because she is afraid of happen to her anything. I tried many times to convience her but she's not ready. what I have to do to make her that's nothing worry with doing this?
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